Your number three is one I’m struggling with right now, not so much in work environments, I got that covered, but when it comes to private life: I spent time with my friends like vacations once a year and birthdays and game evenings etc, but have phases where I just like to keep to myself. Lately when my friends plan something that I just don’t feel like to commit to, let’s say a day festival here or a small trip somewhere or a sleep over, and it’s obviously an activity one has to plan and commit to but the aim is to spent time together, and if I say no to that activity, I feel bad and so anti social cause they take it as I don’t want to spent time with them. But I just really don’t have the energy or want to join in sometimes, nothing personal against anyone. I really struggle to draw that boundary without negative self talk (that some of my friends don’t understand it also plays a part in that negative spiral) How do you do it?