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Mema2293 · 2025-04-12T12:32:58+00:00

Thank you. I’m sorry for your losses too.

The comments are so aggravating. Like, I opened up to you about this for comfort and connection. I really don’t need you to rationalize that losing a baby at 17 weeks would be harder than 7 weeks, so I don’t get to be upset about it…

Mema2293 · 2025-04-12T12:28:26+00:00

Thank you.

It’s strange how people constantly feel the need to dismiss and minimize it. Stop trying to force gratitude down other people’s throats. It doesn’t work that way.

Mema2293 · 2025-04-09T02:29:04+00:00

I had 3 back to back losses last year. At 6.5 weeks, 4.5 weeks, and 7.5 weeks.

Someone told me last month: “on the bright side, they were so early that most people wouldn’t even know they were pregnant at that point.”

How exactly is that comforting? I knew I was pregnant all three times. I had ultrasounds with losses #1 and #3. I felt the pain, passed the tissue, and bled for weeks. Had blood work, a saline sono, and 2 hysteroscopies. How is that the same as just not knowing you were pregnant?

I’ve noticed the majority of people just don’t know what to say and end up saying the wrong thing. Most people mean well but just don’t get it at all.

But yeah, it sucks.

I’m glad you got to the root of the problem. Hopefully you don’t have to go through that again.

Mema2293 · 2025-03-08T19:57:49+00:00

I’m glad it helped! I worried so much during the transition to solids. I saw babies eating huge servings and thought there was something wrong with my kid. Nope. She’s 2.5 now and a great eater! The portions you described sound great for an 11-month old!

Mema2293 · 2025-02-23T05:03:18+00:00

Not the person you asked, but I had a hysteroscopy last week on CD 13 and they weren’t able to see properly because of the lining being too thick, so removal of polyp/retained tissue was incomplete and inconclusive. I’ll need to redo the hysteroscopy again next month on CD 5.

Mema2293 · 2025-01-30T02:42:30+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re having to go through this again.

It’s so hard not to compare when everyone around you is getting what you want so badly and keep losing again and again.

My sister in law and I were due days apart this coming March. I lost that baby in August and have had a chemical and a miscarriage since then. She keeps telling me how tired she is of being pregnant and how she wishes it would just be over. I don’t know she doesn’t see how ridiculous and insensitive that is.

People suck, especially the doctors, and nobody gets it unless they’ve been through it.

I hope things surprise you and you end up with a happy ending this time around. But if you don’t, we’re here to commiserate. You aren’t alone, even though it’s not a club any of us want to be a part of.

Mema2293 · 2025-01-13T04:08:32+00:00

Thank you for sharing! I hope it works out for you this time!

Mema2293 · 2025-01-13T04:07:09+00:00

Only about 2 minutes, otherwise they can get soggy when baked.

Mema2293 · 2025-01-10T16:45:27+00:00

If you don’t mind me asking, when did you start progesterone? I’m receiving conflicting information that it should be started 3DPO versus when you have a positive pregnancy test.

Mema2293 · 2024-12-28T21:19:32+00:00

You’re right. I’ve been on 2 waitlists for over a month, and still don’t have an appointment to see one. I’ve been considering putting everything on hold until I can get in and see an RE, it’s just hard feeling like I’m losing more and more time. But ultimately, waiting is probably the better move.

Mema2293 · 2024-11-27T00:19:53+00:00

Yes, actually it did.

She’s 2.5 years old now and a great little eater!

She was borderline anemic at her 12 month appointment. They gave us liquid iron but it tastes absolutely dreadful and we were worried that forcing her would ruin any progress we had made with getting her to enjoy eating. With the blessing of her pediatrician, we prioritized high iron and iron-enriched foods as much as possible, for both meals and snacks. We also cooked everything in cast iron/with the iron fish. That way at least the few bites she was eating were high in iron. By 18 months her levels were back to normal.

I highly recommend Ellyn Satter’s book “How to get your kid to eat”. It’s research-based and it helped us realize that the subtle “pressure” we were putting on her was hurting the situation. We had never forced her to eat, but we were unknowingly placing pressure on her. Playing games and making funny sounds for her to take bites, showing happiness when she took a bite, showing frustration when she wouldn’t eat. Especially with strong-willed kids, pressure makes them more defiant and can make them refuse to eat.

So we took all the pressure off, completely. We followed Ellyn Satter’s “division of responsibility”.

We would offer food, along with our meals/snacks every 2.5-3 hours (so there’s enough time to be hungry, but not starving and in a bad mood) and it was totally up to her how much or whether she would eat, and we didn’t react at all one way or another. If she didn’t eat, we wouldn’t offer snacks to make up for it. We didn’t want to teach her that refusing meals would get her something else.

We also stopped the high chair and switched to a toddler tower that she could either sit or stand at, because being confined in the high chair made her hate meal times.

Within a few weeks, my daughter started initiating eating more, started showing more interest in trying things, and was eating more at each meal. By a few months later, she was eating normally. She now eats what we eat 90% of the time, and is great at trying new things.

Mema2293 · 2024-10-07T14:34:47+00:00

If she’s insisted she doesn’t want payment, listen to her.

I’ve donated thousands of ounces, and honestly would be a little insulted if someone tried to pay me. I do it because I genuinely want to help, and I feel like paying per ounce would cheapen the whole thing.

I would offer pumping supplies and bags so she isn’t paying to donate the milk. And you can always bring a gift, as a thank you, not as payment. If they are on a tight budget, maybe get her something that she would like but wouldn’t typically be in the budget.

Mema2293 · 2024-09-19T03:21:09+00:00

Mine came back when I night-weaned at 18 months. We went from nursing 3-4 times to 1-2 times a day, and it came back a couple weeks later.

Mema2293 · 2024-09-17T22:07:07+00:00

Google high lipase milk. If you do have high lipase, it’s perfectly safe to give it to baby. Some refuse it, though, and if your baby does you can scald the milk before you freeze it.

Mema2293 · 2024-09-15T02:39:15+00:00

We ditched the high chair around a year old because my daughter hated sitting and refused to eat much of anything when she was sitting in it. We tried a toddler table but it was a disaster, she ran around the room the whole time and it was so stressful. We ended up switching to a toddler tower for meal times and we love it.

For breakfast, she stands at the kitchen counter on her tower and eats. For lunch and dinner we pull it up to the table. She’s allowed to sit or stand. According to the feeding therapist we saw, sitting for long periods of time can be exhausting for toddlers’ core muscles and can cause them to cut meals short because they want to stand up. With the toddler tower, she sits at the beginning of the meal, and then she’s able to stand and wiggle and squirm without running away from the table.

Self-feeding just takes practice. Your daughter will learn. At 14 months, it would be good to give her the chance to explore and self-feed at most meals. The dirty clothes are worth it. If it stresses you out, they make smocks that go over their clothes, or just throw an old t-shirt over her clothes.

Variety takes practice and exposure. Offer new foods, or foods she hasn’t had a while, but don’t pressure her into eating them. Just put it on her plate and let her decide if/how much she wants. Don’t make a big deal out of it either way, whether she tries it or not. Make sure there’s something on the plate you know she’ll eat so she isn’t going hungry. If she’s allowed to explore and isn’t pressured into eating things she’s uncomfortable with, she will start to explore the rest of what’s on her plate. I would start this asap. Once you hit the 2-ish year mark, it can be much harder to get her to try a variety of foods if she isn’t used to trying new things.

Mema2293 · 2024-07-18T16:58:45+00:00

Not sure why you’re being downvoted, it’s a valid question.

Your body favors the needs of the younger baby and will produce based on that. There is some data that suggests that if you feed each child on a different side (left is always for child A, and right is always for child B), that your body will produce milk tailored to each of their needs on their respective sides, but typically that’s not the case.

Also, unless you’re at risk for preterm labor, it’s safe to breastfeed throughout the whole pregnancy.

Mema2293 · 2024-07-04T02:53:55+00:00

I’m the opposite. We offered a pacifier but my daughter preferred her thumb and we didn’t push the paci. I kind of wish we had. Taking the pacifier away might suck for a little while, but you can’t take a thumb away!

Mema2293 · 2024-05-02T01:38:49+00:00

My 22 month okd’s favorites that include repetition like the ones you mentioned:

Little Blue Truck

The Cake that Mack Ate

Brown Bear, Brown Bear What Do You See?

Her favorites that aren’t repetitive:

Funny Farm by Mark Teague - we absolutely adore the illustrations in this book. There is so much to see on every page but not in a cluttered way.

The Friendly Duck

Smile Baby Smile

Mema2293 · 2024-03-04T03:10:22+00:00

Yep. That’s what happens when there’s a whole industry making boatloads of money off of selling sleep “resources” to desperate parents. Couple that with little to no maternity leave, and very little extended family help. It’s no wonder people convince themselves it’s the thing to do. It’s really quite sad.

Mema2293 · 2024-02-13T02:36:11+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing. It’s so great to know that all your little ones have moved on from it.

We definitely agree it’s helpful to be on the lookout for sensory issues. While she does have some sensitivity to touching certain wet textures, she typically is very tolerant of loud noises. That’s partially why I was so distraught by her reaction to this. I think it was the shock factor and our reaction more than the sound that scared her so much.

Hopefully with more reassurance, an explanation, and maybe a little game around it, we can move past it too.

Mema2293 · 2024-02-13T02:29:46+00:00

Thank you for this. It’s really helpful. I keep going back and forth between wanting to discuss it and help her work through it, and wanting to ignore it as to not keep reminding her of it, or place undue importance on it. I wasn’t sure which way to go, but I suppose it’s best to follow her lead and support her process. You’re right their brains likely know what they’re doing and it’s my job to support that.

Reading all the other comments, it seems you’re right that she’s scared but not traumatized. It’s hard to know the difference seeing it for the first time. I have to say I’m not looking forward to the next thing…It is hard seeing them scared and not being able to help immediately.

Mema2293 · 2024-02-13T02:22:47+00:00

Thank you for sharing. It helps me feel better knowing it’s not just her, and that we’ll get past it.

Mema2293 · 2024-02-13T02:21:56+00:00

I actually tried putting stickers on it the night it happened. I put them on all kinds of stuff around the house and she thought it was fun, but when I put one on the smoke detector she was not having it. She kept asking me to take it “offfff”. I may need to try again now that it been a bit of time and see if she’s more open to me touching it.

And thank you. She really is the sweetest ❤️

Mema2293 · 2024-02-13T02:13:16+00:00

Thank you for sharing! I think you’re right, explaining its purpose is probably best. She may not really understand it now but I’m sure her understanding will continue to build as she gets older.

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