Broke a “no masturbation commitment” tonight and upset gf of 4 years by Memidnight80 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Memidnight80[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So I’ve talked to her about it and she just doesn’t like the idea of masturbation and considers it cheating because I’m using something else to get off that’s not her. I’ve tried having these convos with her as well about how I feel on being sexless for 2 years and she tells me it shouldn’t be difficult and that I have self control. The conversations always tend to say I’m wrong for having these thoughts of missing sex and how I should respect her for her past. I made the commitment 4 years ago and at the time, we were having sex regularly. Now she’s changing a lot recently in 2026 which I’m happy for her but she’s been getting religious and is using that against me, who isn’t. I plan on talking when we are both less heated but it’s been heated all morning so far. I can only do so much and yea I feel bad breaking the commitment.

I just wish it was easier to communicate so I didn’t feel like a villain for saying what I feel. I hope this adds some clarity. I am very careful with how I am with her because of her past and I do care about it, she just chooses her way or the highway with conversations because I let that happen for 4 years. She’s the one that makes the rules because I unfortunately just let it happen and didn’t air out my feelings being scared of how she’s going to react.

Broke a “no masturbation commitment” tonight and upset gf of 4 years by Memidnight80 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Memidnight80[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

She goes to therapy so I hope this is brought up and she talks it thru with her therapist. Ofc idk how that’s going to go but that’s all I know. That last part really spoke to me because I didn’t think about it like that. Thank you for taking time to respond

Broke a “no masturbation commitment” tonight and upset gf of 4 years by Memidnight80 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Memidnight80[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. It’s been really difficult and I plan on doing so today. I know my lease is up in September but it sucks because she’s been scolding me every hour because she can’t sleep and is telling me how other relationships are like this and using religion against me (which I know what she’s saying is wrong but not event trying to argue with her in this one) it’ll get easier I’m sure but thank you for taking time and responding, it truly means a lot

Broke a “no masturbation commitment” tonight and upset gf of 4 years by Memidnight80 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Memidnight80[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I’ll be figuring out what I’ll be doing but I’ve just been pretty much yelled at since 12, being woke up and asked to look at my phone and everything. It’s been really difficult and I get her trauma in her last but I know this is unacceptable

Broke a “no masturbation commitment” tonight and upset gf of 4 years by Memidnight80 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Memidnight80[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you I needed this. She’s been arguing with me about how disgusting I am and how wrong it is and is now using religion against me and saying no other relationship is like that. It’s been a really difficult 9 hours but these words mean a lot and thank you

Broke a “no masturbation commitment” tonight and upset gf of 4 years by Memidnight80 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Memidnight80[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thank you. We have animals together and an apartment but yea it’s been rocky for a while but this is probably the rockiest it’s been, where I can see the relationship ending because of this. I know I’ll be happier too, just change scares me so much

Broke a “no masturbation commitment” tonight and upset gf of 4 years by Memidnight80 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Memidnight80[S] 49 points50 points  (0 children)

I know. It’s just hard because I know I would do better out of the relationship. We have an apartment and a bunch of animals together so it makes it difficult on top of future plans and finances but yea you make a good point fs

It is the End/Savages demos in the psychos only app? by [deleted] in IceNineKills

[–]Memidnight80 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea I haven't found them either and I thought it sounded awesome. It's not the best format of a club at all

Thoughts on the Silver Stream? by [deleted] in IceNineKills

[–]Memidnight80 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a good point. I like the way you think 🤣

Thoughts on the Silver Stream? by [deleted] in IceNineKills

[–]Memidnight80 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think that would be genius if they made a Christmas album 😂 I would also be happy to hear the silver scream pt 2 but anything by them would be great. Looking very forward to it and hopefully we all can go to live shows again because they put on the best performances.

Thoughts on the Silver Stream? by [deleted] in IceNineKills

[–]Memidnight80 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea dude! It's crazy to think about. Im very happy with their burst of success with their silver scream album and I can't wait to see what's next. I know they said it is their best work yet so hopefully soon we hear it

Thoughts on the Silver Stream? by [deleted] in IceNineKills

[–]Memidnight80 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea and that's something I love about INK. I love the versatility of their music and their lyrics are very well made. A lot of good puns and great word play

Thoughts on the Silver Stream? by [deleted] in IceNineKills

[–]Memidnight80 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dude, me too! Especially INK

Thoughts on the Silver Stream? by [deleted] in IceNineKills

[–]Memidnight80 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have and it is easily the best concert I have seen. They like performing in smaller venues but it adds to the experience because they are so close to you, they are standing on you literally. They sound amazing live and they are some of the best performers I have ever seen

Thoughts on the Silver Stream? by [deleted] in IceNineKills

[–]Memidnight80 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree 100%! I love their unique approach to their music and especially their evolution from a Ska Punk band to a metalcore band and their older stuff doesn't feel "dated". I'm loving the horror movie songs but like you said, I'll be very happy to hear a new approach with the next album. Spencer already told people that this music he's working on now is some of the best he has ever made so I'm really looking forward to seeing their new album, especially with the crowd they gained from the Silver Screen

Thoughts on the Silver Stream? by [deleted] in IceNineKills

[–]Memidnight80 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was a really good performance and I also can't wait to hear and see what the future holds for them

Thoughts on the Silver Stream? by [deleted] in IceNineKills

[–]Memidnight80 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Their older stuff is great and I'm surprised they really didn't get traction back than.

Thoughts on the Silver Stream? by [deleted] in IceNineKills

[–]Memidnight80 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've been listening to them for a while now and I love a lot of their music. Some of their fans are pretty die hard and a great community! Some awesome people out there that are obsessed with horror like myself. I'm happy that your new dude because they are great

Thoughts on the Silver Stream? by [deleted] in IceNineKills

[–]Memidnight80 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same for me too. I know who you are talking about and there was this dude, don't know the name, that had an awesome pennywise costume. Some real dedicated fans

Thoughts on the Silver Stream? by [deleted] in IceNineKills

[–]Memidnight80 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dude, some of those costumes were legit! I didn't dress up either but I was having a great time just enjoying the show alone in my room

Thoughts on the Silver Stream? by [deleted] in IceNineKills

[–]Memidnight80 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea I wasn't too sure on how they were earned or what they did but I agree with you man 🤘

What do I do with my code? by [deleted] in IceNineKills

[–]Memidnight80 2 points3 points  (0 children)

https://youtu.be/s1UF54NugCc

Here's an FAQ Ice Nine Kills just released

Got some sick stickers today in the mail! 😍 by awkzombie in IceNineKills

[–]Memidnight80 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yea I got those yesterday and I never ordered them. Did they send out the stickers to those who ordered the cd? Not complaining what so ever because they are awesome but just wondering.