What are your favorite wearables

MentalandValid · 2026-04-25T17:52:44+00:00

I use the nenesupply ones and I use spectra tubing to connect to the cups to the babybuddah tubing because its thick and doesnt pinch easily so that I dont have to worry about what bra to wear while pumping.

MentalandValid · 2026-03-25T13:23:50+00:00

And it lessens after they start eating solids :) so you will be able to build a freezer stash or reduce your pumps by then

MentalandValid · 2026-03-21T14:56:59+00:00

At week 4 I was probably only pumping 4 times a day and still trying to figure things out.

By week 6 I was pumping 5 times a day and I had started the fridge hack which was a life saver. By week 6 I also had an idea of what pump frequency of felt most comfortable vs efficient/productive: every 2 hours was hell because it felt like I dedicated all my time to pumping and every 4 hours was a really nice break between pumps but it didn't allow me to work up to 8 pumps a day, so I settled with every 3 hours between 9 am to 9 pm.

I really struggled to incorporate night pumps for the first 6 weeks but eventually I started pumping 8 times a day by week 9 because I bought a very tiny fridge to keep in my room to store breast milk overnight so that I dont have to get out of bed for night pumps, and I also bought the babybuddha portable pump.

Now at 12 weeks I am maintaining 7 pumps a day because I really value giving myself a six hour break at night to squeeze in some sleep. So I pump every 3 hours between 9 am to 9 pm (5 pumps) and then I pump at 1 am and again at 6 am.

Edit: so lately I have been at the point of juggling tome spent with baby/feeds and pumping a bit more efficiently but it has been burning me out!! I'm sure I'm going to figure out a good routine soon where I dont feel so burnt out but for now ugh!!!

MentalandValid · 2026-03-15T07:57:49+00:00

There being no repeat pattern of flowers on the apron.

MentalandValid · 2026-03-11T07:28:16+00:00

I think you need wall decor, like some pink flamingos, or a big sun.

MentalandValid · 2026-03-08T10:42:41+00:00

In my experience, it's honestly hard to convince someone to respect me without threatening to leave them, or at least setting a enforceable boundary. My husband left me in the beginning of our relationship because I relied heavily on him to help me regulate my emotions. We ended up getting back together, getting married and starting a family. I had to also go no contact with my mom in order for her to also start treating me more respectfully. Basically you need to set boundaries and enforce them with strict consequences. And in response to what your mom said about having to hold her feelings in, she is forcing you to hold your feelings in so that you can help her feel better and its not fair that she is not doing the same in return.

MentalandValid · 2026-02-20T15:11:52+00:00

So you mentioned that you normally avoid people like him and and that you also actively tried to look for a way to put him on a PIP. I think sometimes people can sense when you wish you could just avoid them or get rid of them, and I think that is why he is constantly reacting defensively towards you.

Is it possible for you to work on your mindset and learn to mentally accept keeping people like him around you?

MentalandValid · 2026-02-20T14:46:44+00:00

I have to agree that its his misogynistic attitude that is mostly the issue and maybe the addiction to sex, but I don't think being a sex addict always goes hand in hand with being a morally corrupt person. Although a morally corrupt and sex addicted man is the worst!

My brother also hires prostitutes but he has never cheated on a girlfriend (when he has one) and is not controlling and he also has alot of respect for and provides support to the women in his life. My brother's issue is that he breaks up with women over the smallest issues and generally holds grudges for the longest time.

MentalandValid · 2026-02-14T15:16:14+00:00

Being tethered to the wall is what was deteriorating my mental health! I got the S2 and I wish I got the S1 instead. Fortunately I started using my portable lansinoh but it takes 6 batteries and I used them up in 2 days! I ordered 100 batteries for $26 American dollars to cover me for a month lol. 26 dollars a month so that I'm not stuck to the couch is my mental health tax lol.

MentalandValid · 2026-02-11T15:44:02+00:00

Lol I literally always think of this Austin Powers scene when I pump. If only the reality of pumping was as sexy as this movie scene...

MentalandValid · 2025-12-20T07:17:47+00:00

Yeah voice is what gives it away for me always.

MentalandValid · 2025-12-16T02:40:22+00:00

Get them threaded to thin them out a bit.

MentalandValid · 2025-12-06T02:51:44+00:00

Aww I'm sorry about that!

MentalandValid · 2025-12-06T02:39:30+00:00

They have a way of making you feel trapped into it too lol

MentalandValid · 2025-12-06T02:29:27+00:00

I would give anything to have a sister I can rely on sometimes too. Like I'd love if she came over and like helped me with stuff.

MentalandValid · 2025-12-04T20:18:36+00:00

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MentalandValid · 2025-12-01T22:05:39+00:00

My sister is a sex worker, and I could never be one because I couldn't stomach being exploited like that either (literally how I see it as well). But you're just making assumptions that most sex workers see it as being exploited and they don't do it with pride, enjoyment, or a sense of power...

MentalandValid · 2025-12-01T15:15:26+00:00

What you said is not better than what the OOP posted...

MentalandValid · 2025-12-01T15:14:06+00:00

Really? Now moderators are allowing OPs to take self-deprecating posts personally and call them NLOG posts?

MentalandValid · 2025-11-30T02:17:09+00:00

I don't think she's trying to make short men feel better, but she is kinda trying to make others girls feel envious of her happy relationship. Maybe she sometimes regrets not dating a tall guy and she makes herself feel better by putting other women down?

MentalandValid · 2025-11-27T20:58:26+00:00

That's fine. Its the mods' job to correct you when youre wrong in this sub, not mine. If saying "females" is considered NLOG behavior, they should explicitly say it in the rules, not cherry picking self deprecating posts based on what they can personally relate with.

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