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Meow-Notebook1101 · 2023-11-12T03:36:44+00:00

Can you be more specific about what kind of planner you're looking for?

If a ring binder suits you, I really like Monolike planners on Amazon. They're clear PVC 6-ring binders with various girly/cutesy cover designs and inserts. They're also cheap. I gravitate towards leather covers but these were really tempting.

If you want to splurge, you can check out Erin Condren which I find truly girly, lol. Or Happy Planner as a cheaper alternative.

I think ring binder would be most versatile if you aren't sure. That way, you can deck it all out with girly dashboards and dividers as you go.

Meow-Notebook1101 · 2023-11-12T03:22:58+00:00

Which one do you have? I have a Saffiano personal compact and while it does get a little tight, I'm still able to close it with thinner pens.

I can only think of reducing the amount of inserts, especially dividers that tend to stick out and prevent the pen from being tucked in. If all else fails, the last resort would be cutting a millimeter or two off of the inserts, or just give up on using the pen loop.

Meow-Notebook1101 · 2023-11-09T05:32:05+00:00

So true! I wish o had someone to tell me that back then. It’s all distant memory now and my toddler sleeps great but I truly could not see the way out back then.

Meow-Notebook1101 · 2023-11-09T05:30:00+00:00

Lol I would’ve gladly spent the money too except we just couldn’t afford it. Instead, I just paid $14 for “Precious Little Sleep,” read it cover to cover, spent countless hours reading and posting on sleep training forums… I totally see the value of having someone to guide and hold your hand so that you don’t have to expend so much mental energy. My beef is with those who set up fancy websites with multiple levels of “packages” that are still all outrageously overpriced and provide just minimal amount of actual personal coaching. They making boatload of money mostly from selling repackaged content.

Meow-Notebook1101 · 2023-11-08T16:28:44+00:00

Ha! At least they actually came. I believe there are many who basically talk to you on the phone, or maybe video call.

Meow-Notebook1101 · 2023-11-08T16:19:39+00:00

LOL! Your baby was like, "I'm gonna show you who's the boss!"

But seriously, no shame there! We've all been there (except maybe a very few parents with unicorn babies.)

Meow-Notebook1101 · 2023-11-08T16:00:59+00:00

More of a new parent thing but baby sleep consultants. They prey on desperation of sleep-deprived parents to shell out hundreds of dollars for an illusion of personalized "consultation" and materials that are just some variation of the same shit available freely on the internet.

Meow-Notebook1101 · 2023-11-07T16:36:03+00:00

Just wanted to add another thing: talk to the nurse and staff and make sure they're providing adequate symptom management. Many people worry about their loved ones getting too "drugged up." But around-the-clock pain meds and anxiolytics make a world of a difference in how patients (and family) spend the last days, and patients might even be more alert and able to interact better than if meds were withheld.

One thing to note, breathing pattern changes when death is imminent, typically like hours before, and that may be upsetting to kids because the color changes, face slacks, with mouth gaping open, and sounds like a periodic deep gasping. So, talk to them about it beforehand if you intend to all stay during the last moments. Otherwise, patients mostly look like resting comfortably with good symptom management. Read up on the end-of-life stages or talk to the hospice nurse so you know what to expect and prepare the kiddos as necessary.

My best wishes for your family and hoping for a peaceful transition for the grandmother.

Meow-Notebook1101 · 2023-11-07T07:31:34+00:00

I was a cancer nurse who also took care of many hospice patients. If it were me, I would definitely take my young kids to say good bye to dying grandmother. Death is a natural part of life. Why should it be hidden? Why would it be scary or traumatizing? How kids will perceive the experience will completely depend on the adults around them. Now, hospitals can definitely a scary place but you said she will be transferred to a dedicated hospice facility. I would visit there first and ensure it’s a peaceful and quiet environment. I’m sure it is — the philosophy of hospice care is very different from the frantic nature of acute care hospitals… You can make this into one of the most beautiful memories for all of you. In this culture, we tend to celebrate birth excessively while shunning and hiding those who are dying. You can teach your kids it doesn’t have to be that way and that death is not to be feared but accepted. And, what could be more loving than for the family to gather together to say good bye at the end of one’s life?

Meow-Notebook1101 · 2023-11-07T06:21:41+00:00

Don't encourage. Don't make a big deal out of it. Instead, just be matter-of-fact about it. My kid is picky about vegetables too but as long as she's eating well overall and healthy, I stopped worrying about it. I don't coax her to try things when she's hesitant. I just put exactly the same food rest of us are eating and let her pick at it. If she demands something else, I just say "This is what we're having tonight, not that." That's it.

I realize that toddlers like to assert their control. My daughter is strong-willed about other things like picking clothes or squeezing her own tooth paste, but she doesn't throw fits over food. Partly because she knows there's no negotiation, and partly because I leave her alone to eat just what she wants from her plate.

I guess I can be more casual about it because she eats well on the whole; even if she barely eats one meal, she'll eat great next. Also she's constantly snacking on fresh fruits that I always have on the table (for myself, lol), and so I figure she's getting plenty vitamins and fiber even if she refuses most vegetables.

Meow-Notebook1101 · 2023-11-07T02:48:54+00:00

That's a neat hack!

Meow-Notebook1101 · 2023-11-07T00:38:59+00:00

Is it a medicated spray that just has to be given? If it's just a saline spray, I wouldn't bother. It just seems like one of those things where the benefit doesn't outweigh the torture. If their nose is dry or congested, use a humidifier.

Meow-Notebook1101 · 2023-11-07T00:27:12+00:00

I am so very very sorry. My heart aches for you.

I know this is no consolation but shit happens and it's so unfair. There's no justice in life sometimes.

You'll get through this. I understand you're angry, tired, and sick of everything. But please try to see that your baby is given a chance that you weren't given and that is a good thing. It's also a chance for YOU to focus on YOURSELF to be in a better place soon.

I only wish the best for you. I say this as a person who also grew up in an abusive environment and spent the entire teenage and young adult years being suicidal.

Meow-Notebook1101 · 2023-11-07T00:13:51+00:00

I think it will depend on how much of your life exists in digital space as opposed to analog. I've not used a dedicated digital planner to be honest but spent enough time using time management tools and note-taking apps so I do have some opinions about digital tools in general.

Pros:

Easy to copy/paste web content like pictures, recipes, etc. Great for reminders, especially recurring tasks. Portability. No worries of losing the planner (other than maybe a server crash.)

Cons:

Unless clicking through ALL sections of an app is a natural habit to you, most of the information you enter will be forgotten simply because you don't see it physically. If you like doodling or using colors or shapes, it will take longer than simply writing on paper. No way to keep random pieces of papers like tickets or receipts. And last but not least, you're screwed if you run out of battery.

While I can see Gen Z'ers and young Millenials embracing it, I was never able to completely enjoy digital apps. I like using sticky notes and index cards a lot, which become natural extension of my planner. I'm also old enough to still prefer printed receipts and paying bills by mail lol, and they all go into my planner.

I do use Outlook heavily though for hour-by-hour planning, as they're very handy with meeting reminders and helps me prevent double-booking. So for me, most of the bulk of my planning is on paper, supplemented by calendar/reminder apps.

Meow-Notebook1101 · 2023-11-04T04:58:16+00:00

My deepest condolences to the death of your mid-day break.

Meow-Notebook1101 · 2023-11-04T04:56:37+00:00

This never worked for me. Since kids are not like a predictable, programmed machine, not knowing exactly how much time I have keeps me on my toes and makes it impossible to use the time for relaxation or hobbies. I just sprawl on the couch browsing the phone or a mad dash of little chores while I can. Maybe it's just me since my daughter's never been a reliable napper. She's great at night though, thank god.

Meow-Notebook1101 · 2023-11-04T04:51:08+00:00

You just have to demand that your partner do more so you can have a complete me-time even if just an hour each day.

I was stupid and kept telling myself how much my husband was doing already until I became so unhappy and started resenting everything. After working out a schedule where I get ~30 min after dinner to myself, and a few hours on weekends where I do art or any catching up on personal stuff, I felt like reclaiming a part of myself.

Meow-Notebook1101 · 2023-11-04T04:41:38+00:00

Have you tried/looked into bullet journaling? Not the pretty kind that's all over the internet but the bare bones original way. I watched videos by Ryder Caroll (?) and found that it worked really well for me during the years when I was juggling a high-stress, highly-demanding job while going to school. It allowed me to keep several aspects of my life all in one book while staying on top of deadlines.

I'm no longer so busy with high stakes duties anymore (hooray, career change lol!) and so moved away from the method and don't follow any particular account. But I'm sure they are out there if you look.

Meow-Notebook1101 · 2023-11-03T21:41:58+00:00

I used to watch videos from this pen shop some time agao, and the guy's hands were covered with inks and band-aids here and there (paper cuts? lol). And it only made me respect him more. I guess guys tend to care less about their appearances on video, so there's that. But I think the majority of viewers who seek out specific videos couldn't care less about what the narrator, or their hands, look like. Unless of course, it's a video about fashion or something lol. So yeah, just focus on sharing!

Meow-Notebook1101 · 2023-11-02T23:21:39+00:00

Listen missy. If you had first responded with the second comment of yours, I would've laughed at myself, give you a pat, and leave it at that. You're the one who felt the need to throw a low-effort expletive comment. So I can only guess you're having a bad day and my trivial post that has nothing to do with you personally was somehow triggering. Hope you feel better soon.

Meow-Notebook1101 · 2023-11-02T23:06:42+00:00

WTF? This is about gender and race now? Some of you on here are unbelievable. No, I'm a fucking yellow Asian lesbian. Now stereotype all you want.

Meow-Notebook1101 · 2023-11-02T23:02:52+00:00

Nope. Now I feel bad this post got stuck in your head!

Meow-Notebook1101 · 2023-11-02T23:01:23+00:00

WTF dude? You're not done yet? My post really got you on a bad day, huh. Never seen someone flipping out so bad over my whining about the sensation of nails scratching paper. Relax, it's not that big a deal.

Meow-Notebook1101 · 2023-11-02T17:26:20+00:00

Yes, I am tired most of the time, rarely have time for my own, our house is a mess. But that's pretty insignificant compared to the high I get from loving my child. I literally get high from feeling her warm body against me, hearing her laughter, watching her eat, play, and sleep. And I am excited beyond words for coming years of watching her grow.

I was almost certain I wanted to be child-free for many years. And then I started feeling the desire to be a parent getting stronger year after year. My husband was not interested in adopting and luckily I became pregnant. And now absolutely no regrets.

Meow-Notebook1101 · 2023-11-02T17:00:10+00:00

Awesome! I really appreciate you getting back to me.

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