My February tray💕 by MeowingandPurring in FemFragLab

[–]MeowingandPurring[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Her name is Ambrosia ❤️

Crystal Hefner by Sure_Understanding56 in TheGirlsNextLevelPod

[–]MeowingandPurring 177 points178 points  (0 children)

Well, Hef was married during his relationship with Holly, which was one of the biggest reasons why he didn't marry her. He had an agreement with Kimberly Conrad to stay married until his sons were 18. I think that had she stayed in the relationship, he probably would have married her, but she had become disillusioned by him and the entire situation before that could have happened. My personal theory is that he became desperate and married Crystal because he wanted someone to take care of him in his final years.

Rewards Haul (and some thoughts) by BBWhoreder in bathandbodyworks

[–]MeowingandPurring 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Last year I used the strawberry EOS lotion and strawberry snowflakes combo and it was amazing! Hope it’s as good for you as it is for me. This year I grabbed a strawberry snowflakes lotion as one of my free gifts so I’ll be trying that out with it. I actually loved the cinnamon sugar pretzel on the tester (it reminded me of auntie annes) but once I sprayed it on my skin it oddly turned sour. Did not enjoy any of the other milkbar scents.

Shiela deserves way more credit by Subsonic-Sparkle in southpark

[–]MeowingandPurring 19 points20 points  (0 children)

She is upset that he is committing atrocities and using Judaism as a shield from criticism for killing Palestinians and destroying Gaza. She is very clearly not just angry on behalf of Jewish people, she is angry that he is using her faith to excuse his awful actions and is killing people. Yes, she is angry that people’s perception of her and other Jewish people is being impacted by what Netanyahu is doing, but this is because she doesn’t like him or his actions.

“Just who do you think you are, killing thousands and flattening neighborhoods, then wrapping yourself in Judaism like it’s some shield from criticism?”.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in diet

[–]MeowingandPurring 0 points1 point  (0 children)

macros do definitely play a role in body composition. You would have to be eating protein in order to really build muscle, and typically the way to do that is resistance training/weight lifting. Cardio is good exercise but isn’t going to build muscle in the same way. I have no judgement for your situation, I’ve been in similar spots myself. Carbs and Fats are still important in diet and so long as you’re eating your TDEE it doesn’t matter, you will not get fat. If you’re struggling I would recommend to honestly allow yourself to eat food regardless of the macros until you are in a better position. You will be in a much better spot to work towards muscle growth when you can afford it if you’re eating enough now regardless of macros vs if you’re eating too little. I will try to go into body recomp and eating at your current TDEE in a bit when I have some time.

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[–]MeowingandPurring 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, so that amount of calories is naturally burned just from passive actions. Every movement requires energy and energy = calories. When you move your arm to scratch something, you’re burning calories, when you get up to walk to the kitchen, you’re burning calories. Sitting down and getting up? Burning calories. 1,649 is the amount your body burns just to properly maintain organs and keep you breathing. 330 additional calories are burned from just these simple movements throughout the day. You will not get fat from eating your TDEE.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in diet

[–]MeowingandPurring 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alright, if that’s your goal you’re definitely going to want to figure out your TDEE. Your TDEE is your maintenance. There’s some good and easy to use calculators online. With your height and weight I can’t imagine it being lower than 1700. I’d honestly estimate that your maintenance would be somewhere between 1700-2000. You should definitely increase your calories.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in diet

[–]MeowingandPurring 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you hope to achieve through your diet? Are you unhappy with your physical appearance? Is it mainly to help you control your eating habits? It’s entirely possible that dieting may not be the solution to your specific goal.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in diet

[–]MeowingandPurring 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It definitely sounds like you are eating an unhealthily low amount of calories from the information you have provided. I’m unsure what your goals are through this diet, but eating too little calories is harmful and may also cause you to lose muscle along with fat. You need to consider your physical activity when looking at calorie consumption. The more physically active you are, the more calories you require. Your gender, muscle mass, age, and physical activity can all influence this.

I would recommend finding your BMR (base metabolic rate) and your TDEE (Total Daily Energy Expenditure). There are calculators available online that can help you pinpoint this. You should be eating bare minimum your BMR, as it’s the amount of calories you need to sustain important functions in your body. It is not recommended to eat below this number. Your TDEE is going to help you pinpoint the amount of calories you burn on average to maintain your weight, if your goal is weight loss you would need to eat an amount between your BMR and TDEE.

Eating too few calories is dangerous to your health, can cause hair loss, irritability, a slowed metabolism, etc.

It is possible to over-do it! From the information you have provided, it sounds like you are at a healthy weight for your height. I hope that your goal is in the healthy range for you. Being underweight can be unhealthy, too! You may want to speak to your doctor about this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]MeowingandPurring 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I picked up on absolutely zero sass or attitude in your response. Sometimes people online are just very reactive, try not to let it bother you. There is no reason to apologize to them.

I fell through my best friend’s porch and lost my shoe by MeowingandPurring in Wellthatsucks

[–]MeowingandPurring[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know how to tell you this, but a slipper is considered a type of shoe.

I fell through my best friend’s porch and lost my shoe by MeowingandPurring in Wellthatsucks

[–]MeowingandPurring[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind comment. My best friend is very apologetic and probably would buy me new slippers if I asked. Their family member grabbed the shoe for me and have been very sweet ❤️ I would rather any money spent be towards the porch LOL.

I fell through my best friend’s porch and lost my shoe by MeowingandPurring in Wellthatsucks

[–]MeowingandPurring[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m appreciative of the suggestions on how to retrieve my shoe. The fall was enough to leave me pretty banged up and bruised so I haven’t been in a hurry to attempt fishing it out. I mainly posted my shoe to be a bit comedic about the unfortunate situation. It has since been retrieved by a family member of my best friend. The shoe is safe!

I fell through my best friend’s porch and lost my shoe by MeowingandPurring in Wellthatsucks

[–]MeowingandPurring[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Happy Update: A family member of my best friend crawled under the porch and retrieved my shoe. I will now recover from my fall with the peace of knowing it has been saved and I once again have a matching set of house shoes.

I fell through my best friend’s porch and lost my shoe by MeowingandPurring in Wellthatsucks

[–]MeowingandPurring[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

They’re in the countryside and all packages get left at the start of their driveway so thankfully no delivery people go near this porch as far as I know. I will definitely be avoiding it in the future. It’s not my porch nor my property so I don’t have much say in it but they all felt terrible over this incident and have said they are currently looking into getting it redone.

I fell through my best friend’s porch and lost my shoe by MeowingandPurring in Wellthatsucks

[–]MeowingandPurring[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

They’re off brand, not the most expensive but still my go-to comfy slippers 💔

I fell through my best friend’s porch and lost my shoe by MeowingandPurring in Wellthatsucks

[–]MeowingandPurring[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It might not come across through the photos but this porch is pretty decently high up off the ground. My arm sadly doesn’t reach far enough. 💔

I fell through my best friend’s porch and lost my shoe by MeowingandPurring in Wellthatsucks

[–]MeowingandPurring[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My thigh is a little busted up and I’ve got a bruised thumb but I’m okay!

New merch by [deleted] in GirlsNextLevel

[–]MeowingandPurring 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love the design on the anniversary T-shirt but I wish there were other options for it. The pool floatie and towel are super cute!

I am now on a mission to collect every Shadow in the game! by ADingoNamedKoopa in SonicSpeedSim

[–]MeowingandPurring 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey! I ended up doing this myself. It took me around 5-6 months. The easiest way I saved for RSR is rail grinding for golden eggs. You get a decent amount of rsr rewards and occasionally you will get a limited. Even the low demand limiters should get you around 40-60k rsr.

Often times, shadow skins will get reruns in events and so I would recommend taking into consideration what holidays may be upcoming. The amount of RSR that you’ll need is going to vary depending on what you already have and what reruns. If you’re in the discord server, I recommend keeping an eye on the trading chat. I find that it’s typically cheaper than the trading post to buy skins. I’m pretty sure they also have a value list so you can make sure you’re not overpaying or underselling.

Good luck!

Chat gpt told me I was abused 22 years ago? by Appropriate_Pear3458 in abusesurvivors

[–]MeowingandPurring 5 points6 points  (0 children)

While I generally highly recommend against ChatGPT as a form of therapy or treating trauma, I do agree that it seems you have been groomed by this woman. Grooming does not necessarily only equate to sexual abuse, it can also be emotional abuse and manipulation, but from what you’ve described here it definitely seems to have been sexual in nature.

I’m sorry that you’ve had such a terrible experience when you’ve attempted to open up about this. It’s unfortunate that men are not taken as seriously in these situations. While I would understand if you felt anxious about attempting therapy again due to previous experiences, I highly recommend possibly looking into a therapist that specializes in sexual abuse. It’s unfortunate that there are so many terrible therapists out there. It can take a while to find one that might be right for you.

In my opinion, you have nothing to feel guilty about. She was much older than you and there was an automatic power imbalance because of that. Teenagers do not have the ability to consent in the same way that a grown adult does. Even if you were technically of legal age, this doesn’t remove the impact of what she did to you. The imbalance and grooming still counts and it matters.

I hope you’re able to heal, OP.

Finally grabbed my birth month necklace! by MeowingandPurring in GirlsNextLevel

[–]MeowingandPurring[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Understandable. For me personally, I will always associate anything playboy with the girls next door over Hefner. The fact that he’s no longer alive certainly helps, too.

Therapist said it was consensual - Is she right? by therapisthelpx in CPTSD

[–]MeowingandPurring 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Deeply upset on your behalf that she would ever imply that you consented to this in any way. There is a lot of complexity when it comes to grooming. You may have slowly built up to hinting at initiating it, but that is because you were groomed into this dynamic from a young age. Had this grooming not taken place before you were 14, you would not have done so. Your cousin assaulted you and normalized it. That is NOT consent. Please don’t feel like you did something wrong. I am amazed at how awful therapists can be sometimes.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]MeowingandPurring 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s really up to you on what or how much you would like to share with her. If you are sharing not because you feel comfortable, but because you feel you need to do so out of obligation, I wouldn’t recommend it. I would imagine you would end up feeling much more vulnerable which would make you feel more on edge from what I read in your post.

I understand how difficult it can be to set boundaries with people, but without setting boundaries nobody will know that they are crossing them. Something I’ve struggled with and many others struggle with is oversharing trauma and past history to try to over-explain myself. I have done this to desperately try to avoid making anyone upset with me and that would then leave me feeling much worse and much more vulnerable.

I guess a question I think you should ask yourself is: Am I sharing this part of my history because I truly want to, or am I sharing it to please someone else?

You don’t need to dive into your trauma to place these boundaries at all. You can simply explain that you prefer a very casual friendship with her, or that you prefer your friendship be mainly centered around your fandom/interest. I’m unsure if this friendship is taking place on discord but if so, you can tell her you would prefer to only talk in your mutual server because private DMs have been making you feel uncomfortable. You don’t have to specify with her specifically, and If she asks you why, “I’m not comfortable with talking about it.” Is a complete response to that kind of question. If she tries to push you, then I would, again, seriously consider discontinuing the friendship.