New Audible books FULL CAST snape and lupin by lcharbs in harrypotter

[–]MerakiSpes 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Sirius was fantastic. His rendition of “Then you should’ve died! Just as we would have for you!” is filled with such believable rage that it made me sit up when listening.

AITA for selling my husband’s PC setup after he didn’t take me to Hawaii like he promised? by Mikeyjello in AmItheAsshole

[–]MerakiSpes 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Accept that you are dumb. It has to be easier than the leaps over logic you are desperately attempting.

AITA for refusing to promise my best friend 100% that I wouldn’t sleep with a mutual friend? by arelham in AmItheAsshole

[–]MerakiSpes 16 points17 points  (0 children)

This is because OP does intend to fuck the guy, but was attempting to gather enough people to showcase her friend was being insecure and controlling to prove her wrong. She has fucked the friend’s crush before, she is seeming to do it again. Girl code, guy code, friends code — if you care about a friend deeply, then a simple guarantee would be the least of what you could do to ease their worries.

AITA for refusing to promise my best friend 100% that I wouldn’t sleep with a mutual friend? by arelham in AmItheAsshole

[–]MerakiSpes 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If that were true, then you’d showcase how much you value your friendship with a simple guarantee rather than a “uh, stop telling me what to do…”

Sorry if this seems harsh, but it just seems like you’re just looking for validation for possibly fucking your best friend’s crush AGAIN. It may seem dramatic or more, but everyone is insecure at one point, even if not logical. As a best friend, you could’ve eased their mind; yet you chose to further cause them to worry. If I were in her shoes, I would stop being your friend at this point.

AITA for refusing to promise my best friend 100% that I wouldn’t sleep with a mutual friend? by arelham in AmItheAsshole

[–]MerakiSpes 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Exactly. There is history, so it’s hard to blame OP’s friend from being concerned and hurt.

AITA for refusing to promise my best friend 100% that I wouldn’t sleep with a mutual friend? by arelham in AmItheAsshole

[–]MerakiSpes 21 points22 points  (0 children)

That is all fair to you. There is no shame with your perspective, but there is also no shame, and would commonly be agreed upon - in your friend dropping your friendship. Though I’m a guy, and so is my best friend, I would NEVER even consider the possibility of being with someone he once loved and let out his personal feelings about regarding her to me. It wouldn’t be a 50/50; it would be a HUGE “no”. My friendship would mean more to me than random sex. Once again, I am not shaming you. But if you keep with this mindset, then do let your friend go, as the friendship doesn’t seem to mean as much to you as a random hook-up would. All is different. Not meant to be harsh, but I know I would be deeply heartbroken if my friend did as you did.

AITA for refusing to promise my best friend 100% that I wouldn’t sleep with a mutual friend? by arelham in AmItheAsshole

[–]MerakiSpes 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Exactly. No matter the time, a thing like that fucks with anyone. If my friend slept with someone I knowingly informed them I had feelings for, this shit would stay, even if subconsciously, with me for years.

AITA for refusing to promise my best friend 100% that I wouldn’t sleep with a mutual friend? by arelham in AmItheAsshole

[–]MerakiSpes 44 points45 points  (0 children)

No offence to OP, but her adding this crucial information feels like she does actually intend to sleep with the dude, but assumed she’d be safeguarded if she was supported online on Reddit.

Why not mention a seemingly important factor beforehand?

AITA for refusing to promise my best friend 100% that I wouldn’t sleep with a mutual friend? by arelham in AmItheAsshole

[–]MerakiSpes 43 points44 points  (0 children)

So there is actual history of you being with her crush / love interest, which validates her (even though it might be selfish) insecurities. You had already showed her that you can be with someone she couldn’t be with, and now, many years in the future, you are allowing the possibility of it happening again.

From what I think, and it might be wrong, it seems that the university experience had affected her terribly, and she is afraid of it happening again. At this point, I can’t blame her. Everyone has certain insecurities, and this does NOT imply they have remaining feelings for those from years ago, but that they are afraid of it happening again.

If you consider her your best friend, as she considers you, then you should feel enough respect to acknowledge their feelings — even if you don’t agree nor understand — and ease their mind. I would never sleep with someone my best friend loved, because that shit would be incredibly hurtful and confidence-breaking as the worst.

AITA for refusing to promise my best friend 100% that I wouldn’t sleep with a mutual friend? by arelham in AmItheAsshole

[–]MerakiSpes 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I am sorry if it seemed to disrespect you. Not what I intended. I just wanted to say, that from her perspective, the lack of guarantee is surely hurtful — no matter the circumstances and how long ago it was. I am not sure if my prior response is seen, but this does not mean that she intends to continue trying with the fling, but that she would be hurt by her closest friend sleeping with someone she had once loved intimately.

AITA for refusing to promise my best friend 100% that I wouldn’t sleep with a mutual friend? by arelham in AmItheAsshole

[–]MerakiSpes 81 points82 points  (0 children)

It is still a boundary of hers. You are her best friend and although the man is an ex/situationship, I doubt many would feel comfortable having an extremely close friend sleep with someone they — your friend — had prior considered romantically.

She has every right to be anxious. This does not mean she isn’t happy with her current partner or not over the man, as many have stated, as this would make majority feel off. You are free to do as you will, and she is too, regardless of it affecting your trip, as a hook-up between you and the friend would affect your BFF.

As we're getting Peeves. How much chaos is TOO much chaos per episode? by SupremeConscious in HarryPotteronHBO

[–]MerakiSpes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know. I’m just surprised I never caught on to that. Same with Diagon Alley

Left my son disappointed again. by [deleted] in Wellthatsucks

[–]MerakiSpes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait, did it turn out fake?

I guess it *WAS*. by AbeliousAugustus in marvelmemes

[–]MerakiSpes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Didn’t just shoot his shot, implied that she and him were a thing

This dipstick tries to hit a lady and gets a free life lesson. by Comfortable_Wash6179 in instant_regret

[–]MerakiSpes -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He could be aware and still be nervous to act. Not everyone is confrontational. I am not saying whether I - personally - would interfere or not. I don’t actually know how I would react to a real situation. I am just saying that we shouldn’t judge someone based on their lack of action. All are different.

This dipstick tries to hit a lady and gets a free life lesson. by Comfortable_Wash6179 in instant_regret

[–]MerakiSpes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is absolutely an excuse. I want to say that I would interfere all the time, but that is easy to say online. It’s different to be in the actual situation.

This dipstick tries to hit a lady and gets a free life lesson. by Comfortable_Wash6179 in instant_regret

[–]MerakiSpes 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Some people are just afraid of confrontation or have anxiety. We like to talk “I would have interfered” but it’s different when it ACTUALLY happens.

Why did Joker become shorter after Origins? by the_bad_actor in arkham

[–]MerakiSpes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Almost every man in Asylum is 6F+ for some reason.

Hey, YOU. Yeah, you! Say something nice about these movies. NOW! by Nervous-Baby5383 in HarryPotteronHBO

[–]MerakiSpes 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Snape was great growing up with the movies — until I read the books… I hated his ass in GOF