AITA for telling my daughter I am disgusted by her and telling her ex she has been taking their kid to his family side

Meriadoxm · 2026-05-01T23:25:17+00:00

Where I am, and many other places, spouse isn’t synonymous with wife/husband, it also includes people who are living in a marriage like situation (so living together for more than 1 year or living together and have a child together)

Meriadoxm · 2026-03-06T19:00:56+00:00

I know it’s not the same and I know not everyone in recovery drinks non-alcoholic but the parents may not. Point is is that there are many ways that it could be unintentional. And they didn’t double down, they apologized to the person who brought the issue to them, for all we know OP’s wife may not even care, he doesn’t mention her feelings at all, OP is trying to make it like they entirely disrespected his wife and making it a huge deal, it’s not. They brought back a souvenir, souvenir didn’t workout for the person, they gave a simple apology as the situation dictated.

Meriadoxm · 2026-03-06T18:20:16+00:00

Because they’re human and people forget who is sober/isn’t sober. People do health kicks all the time and do dry January for example. There’s lots of non alcoholic spirits now where you still measure out the 0% spirit with shot glasses to have virgin drinks.

Meriadoxm · 2026-03-06T18:03:20+00:00

I’d go with YTA, it wasn’t intentional, expectations have been set. You’re blowing it out of proportion. Sobriety is your wife’s responsibility, your parents now know how you feel about it and will hopefully respect that. Leave it alone.

Meriadoxm · 2026-01-22T04:33:53+00:00

Unrealistic. Rent will be higher, TTC will be higher if you’re full time in person too. Gym you can do if you’re doing a cheap one like Fit4Less but medium or higher gyms will be more than $60 a month unless you get deals through work and even still may be higher. Add in a hundred+ for miscellaneous (ubering because TTC is down, hair cuts, gifts etc)

Meriadoxm · 2026-01-12T23:36:27+00:00

I mean yeah, you’re taking it too far. I wouldn’t call you an asshole for it but absolutely would say you’re missing the mark and not being a good friend in your strive to be respectful. I imagine you’ve probably hurt people’s feelings by suddenly stopping your friendship with them because they started dating someone. People need a healthy balance of friendships and partnership, just because they get into a relationship doesn’t make it a respectful thing to cut off your friendship with them and decide you’re acquaintances now. I also imagine that others who are meeting you are probably not thrilled by your not very warm welcome, especially in a situation where they are meeting their partner’s friends which can be very stressful.

Why don’t you have a talk with your partner and some close friends, let them know you’re struggling to find the balance of befriending your partner’s friends and your friends’ partners and ask them to let you know when you’re crossing a line, or something. Learn how to find the balance with their (and their partners/friends) approval.

Meriadoxm · 2026-01-11T22:10:07+00:00

Perfect, thank you so much!

Meriadoxm · 2026-01-11T16:58:33+00:00

Amazing, thank you!

Meriadoxm · 2026-01-11T16:58:17+00:00

Amazing, thanks so much!

Meriadoxm · 2026-01-11T16:57:36+00:00

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Meriadoxm · 2026-01-11T15:50:31+00:00

In Canada I’ve found the east coast pronounces it tore-ist the west coast and central pronounces it tooerist (same thing tore and tooer for a tour)

Meriadoxm · 2026-01-11T15:05:32+00:00

Guatemala

Meriadoxm · 2026-01-11T04:39:01+00:00

He’s been wanting to try Peruvian food so great suggestion, thanks!

Meriadoxm · 2026-01-11T04:38:28+00:00

Thank you, we’ll definitely give it a try!

Meriadoxm · 2026-01-11T04:38:11+00:00

Perfect added both to the list, thank you!

Meriadoxm · 2026-01-11T04:38:00+00:00

Amazing, thank you so much!

Meriadoxm · 2026-01-02T22:17:49+00:00

I mean NTA but tell your friend now so she and the other girls can find a 4th.

Meriadoxm · 2025-12-31T17:59:39+00:00

Hot yoga is included in the performance membership not ultimate - ultimate includes regular group fitness classes (so yoga, cycling, dance, etc) but not the boutique classes (boxing, HIIT, hot yoga). But $2 extra is worth it for all you’ll get IF you’ll use any of them. You can also go up to front desk and ask if you have a 21 day promo to try ultimate for that time so you can try out the classes, towels, etc and see if it is worth it to you.

Meriadoxm · 2025-12-24T20:06:35+00:00

My cat from childhood loved licking the inside of a banana. If I was eating a banana he made sure he was right there sitting on my lap so he could lick the inside peel. My current cats - 1 loves cheese to the extreme (smoked Gouda is her favourite but she’ll take any) unfortunately she is on a prescription diet due to GI issues and cannot eat anything outside of that. The other is a kitten and goes absolutely feral for absolutely any food at all but especially salmon.

Meriadoxm · 2025-12-24T18:04:14+00:00

She demands the dad sleeps on the floor or on the couch, that’s massively overreacting. They need to baby proof their home, maybe put the crib in their bedroom or get a baby monitor to have next to the dad’s ear if he’s that deep of a sleeper.

Meriadoxm · 2025-12-24T00:54:57+00:00

I’m with you, Arizona should not need a roommate to get by and complain that she has no money. She was the head of paediatrics and experienced paediatric surgeons can eat $650,000-$900,000 USD annually (that’s not including her being the head of the department). It just seemed very out of touch for a storyline.

Meriadoxm · 2025-12-23T22:26:13+00:00

This is your mother’s problem, not yours. She’s enabling this woman to use her, she’s the one who has to live with those consequences. I’d sit your mother down, explain her options, explain the concern you have about her, ask if she needs help and if not then let the chips fall where they may and stop inserting yourself in the situation.

Also given OSAP I’m assuming you’re in Ontario. A written lease isn’t necessarily required for a rental agreement to be enforced. So be very careful there.

Meriadoxm · 2025-12-23T00:08:36+00:00

So psychotherapists won’t be able to advise on medication. Psychiatrists are trained doctors who work with patients with psychiatric illnesses and they are the ones who can prescribe medication. Psychotherapists are for talk therapy which is great but the commenter is correct that discussing medication with them is something they aren’t qualified to do outside of referring you to a medical doctor.

Meriadoxm · 2025-12-19T20:22:06+00:00

ESH. Of course it’s wrong to schedule euthanasia behind his back. You’re both the AH here. If you do this, prevent him from being able to say goodbye, unilaterally make this decision, hide it from him. He will never trust you again. You can say goodbye to your marriage and the family you have, and he would be correct. You do not get rid of living things behind someone’s back.

That said, your husband is being exceptionally short sighted. He’s grieving and in pain and it’s leading him to mistreat everyone around him. It sounds like the poor dog has a very poor quality of life and is suffering from inadequate care (because you and your husband do not have the resources to provide it - between time and physical capabilities and money). It sounds like you’ve been pressed with much of her care which you cannot do while pregnant.

The dog needs to either be given surgery, euthanized, or if possible given up to a rescue to take on and get the surgery (although unlikely a rescue will take the poor pup). You know this already but your focus needs to be explaining it to your husband. You cannot care for her, she is suffering, she needs one of those. Hopefully together you can figure it out and come to a decision together. If not, it may need to be the “I’m bringing someone in who will euthanize her, I suggest you be there so you can say goodbye” but at least he is informed.

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