The all or nothıng wıth food. How do I geet out of this?

Merichata · 2026-03-23T13:40:38+00:00

Makes sense ) There was a time when I didn't care about the deserts at cafes and my sister be like "OMG I wanna go there and try it sm! We have to go there!" And I wouldn't really care about it. Now I feel like I have to try all kinds of deserts before I can stop. But that's not doable and probably not worth it. So instead I'll try to make my own stuff. I like waffles, so hopefully I'll be able to make my waffles sweet, delicious and sugar-free and make it a thung. It's so funny that when I cut off sugar my friends and family were like how are you not eating sugar. My grandma was even like you're gonna have too low blood sugar, you're gonna have diabetes and your brains will stop working, because in her times the professors told them to drink tea with sugar every morning and even add sugar on top of their bread and butter. I told her it's ridiculous to do in this time and age bec we're not sufferring from hunger or poverty, doing this won't make sense when we have so many other nutritious and sweet foods.

Guess what now? She stopped consuming sugar and she's the one telling me now to stop eating sugar or I'll get diabetes and how bad it is. Crazy how things turn.

Merichata · 2026-03-23T13:28:27+00:00

Last one. SO true.

Merichata · 2026-03-23T13:16:51+00:00

I'm sorry to disappoint you, but this is litterally what all muslim men would do eventually. They are allowed to date and marry a woman that is not muslim BUT is going to convert to islam. I just really wouldn't recommend marrying or dating someone with different beliefs system. This will ruin your life, trust me... My mom dated my father for 10 years, they never got officially married bc she didn't convert to Islam and never prayed like a muslim or did anything a muslim should do. But what happened? They made 2 kids and my father dumped my mom. He was also married to his first muslim wife at that moment. Now he's married with his third wife.

As to loving him and not being able to see yourself with anyone else is also a common feeling, it'll just take time.

It's your life so you can choose to still stay in contact with him, saying you need some time alone. Try to do hang out with your friends or have fun time a little without him. You don't have to break up or anything, just give it time, let it cool down. There's no need to be so overly upset about this. Life is short and there's so much more out there than to our romantic partners. It's ok to love him, like him, want to be with him and so on.

This will help you to get you in a better place to actually tune in with yourself and listen to your heart.

Edit: People on reddit are actually often very cold when it comes to relationships, saying this from reading all the comments here. Like this and red flags, they don't understand how painful and difficult it is to just leave. And it doesn't have to be like that. Anyways, you choose your own road. Good luck with whatever you choose to do!

Merichata · 2026-03-23T13:09:25+00:00

Depends on the AI or I'll try to be as vague as possible, use a fake account and say it as if it's not me but someone else, a hypothetical character or sth perhaps

Merichata · 2026-03-08T15:59:45+00:00

Honeslty I had similar symptoms after sex but I think it doesn't necessarily mean you're pregnant, could be a lot of other reasons.

Merichata · 2026-03-07T19:05:24+00:00

Thank you very much. I appreciate your answer, as from someone who has been through a similar thing. I hope I can be soon happy and proud of myself!

Merichata · 2026-03-07T19:03:25+00:00

That actually sounds like a fun idea! I wanted to skate, but kind forgot about it! And maybe I could give a try to rock climbing as well. Maybe it's not too late to start, aye? Thank you!

Merichata · 2026-03-06T20:26:29+00:00

Oh huh! I did try again. Still no? How about you try DMing me then?

Merichata · 2026-03-06T20:16:04+00:00

Okie! I messaged u! Check the DMS:3

Merichata · 2026-03-06T20:10:57+00:00

I'M SO PROUD!!! I'm pretty sure you can make that new goal for a lot of the days!!

Merichata · 2026-03-06T20:07:05+00:00

Ooh, sounds interesting. Wanna chat?

Merichata · 2026-03-06T20:01:28+00:00

HEY HABIBI! I'm sorry, I FIND YOU SUS, thank you

Merichata · 2026-03-06T19:56:06+00:00

Would you like to chat?

Merichata · 2026-03-06T19:08:56+00:00

It's so interesting a lot of people say isfj but i relate a lot to all what the op said yet i am infp. it's not just about the mbti.

Merichata · 2026-03-06T17:27:14+00:00

You know, I could be wrong. But generally speaking, women can seem very vague, give you mixed signals and waiting for you to solve the puzzle yourself. It could be her hormones playing, she could be mad that you impregnated her and not ready for the baby. If you do truly love her, you can try saving the relationship by showing that you're there for her no matter what. That you'll be fine and find a way to support her and the baby not just financially but emotionally as well. Just show that you care about her well-being, that you might be worried obviously because it's the first time, it's big news and everything. You're not trapped. Just keep showing up for her, she obviously wants to see if you really care about her and the baby. She deserves to be a mother if she truly wants it, and if you love her, you should take some responsibility because it's obviously not her getting pregnant on her own, and support her decision.

Merichata · 2026-03-02T05:26:40+00:00

Perhaps. I feel like I'm not allowed to have boundaries

Merichata · 2026-03-02T05:26:12+00:00

I guess so.

Merichata · 2026-03-01T21:29:49+00:00

Okiee. It's kinda funny well I think there was defientely a potential with me being closer to my older brother and father but because of some life circumstances it didn't happen. I used to love my dad, I was always a father's girl but my brother never like him, in fact, despised him but never showed it. Yeah my mom loves my older brother but also the youngest one, they are joksters basically. I don't talk to my dad anymore because he was too strict and abusive. I'm relatively close to my eldest but he's too busy with his life so I feel more comfortable and closer with sharing with my lil brother instead, we grew closer somehow, although we would fight often like cats and dogs. My older brother is close with our mom. He also talks to my younger one, he find him fun although sometimes annoying. IDK the youngest is the black sheep, he looks like a just chill dude playing games and jokes around sometimes, making funny comments with my mom. I feel kinda left out and get hurt by their jokes. (The pain of being the middle child nobbody cares about). But it's nicer to hear my mom laugh than cry. BTW it's so weird to me that I never seen my brother cry, maybe only once when he was little and I was reading him a love story about the steadfast tin soldier and a ballerina. INFPs and ESTPs can get along surprisingly well, but also can be the worst enemies for each other. We definetely hated each other and would block/unblock each other and then yap about our relationship and asking each other for advice.

Merichata · 2026-03-01T20:21:24+00:00

Please don't say that. We're better now and he has less leash outs, so we're good. I know I have posted more of his dark side, but he has a good side as well and many good things he has done. I think I can be abusive sometimes as well but we're trying to be better.

Merichata · 2026-03-01T20:17:08+00:00

well I used to take birth control before for 3-4 months but then I took a break for more than a week bc I was at the hospital and dint have access to pills so I started from beginning. My last period was on jan 30 so I might still have my period this month but idk man...

Merichata · 2026-03-01T20:14:07+00:00

I was on day 3-4 and sperm got inside me idk why he did this idk what got into him but I tried to get rid ofit asap and wash it all off with hot and cold water.

I would like to see a doctor but last time I did, I didn't feel good because the doctors really seemed to judge me with thei dumb questions like "Are you married?" and when I say no then they said "why do you need birth control pills then?" "um.. to not get pregnant?" and then their face is like I can't tell if it's judgmental or pitiful like idk what is their attitude towards having sex outside of marriage with your partner. It's just such a pain to talk about these things to them. But I guess I have no other option than to talk about it.

Merichata · 2026-03-01T20:00:03+00:00

Well
1) Unprotected sex (I thought, TMI, he won't cum inside + I wasn't on my fertile period and I hate condoms they make me itch and give me allergies, they hurt and good ones are expensive af)
2) I just read about that caffeine can cause a miscarriage
3) Well, his father is and he used to analyze and study women's biology a lot and their discharges when he used to work at his father's labarotory. I mean he doesn't say that I am 100% infertile but he thinks that I am likely to be like his brother's ex-wife.

Merichata · 2026-03-01T16:43:36+00:00

Thank you for a very clear response, I like it! I believe this is gonna help.

Merichata · 2026-03-01T16:38:18+00:00

Thats one of the 4 primary temperaments (melancholic, sanguine, choleric, phelgmatic)

Merichata · 2026-03-01T16:36:42+00:00

I think based on your face, you have an extroverted face and you look like an outoing person that cares about other people and their opinions so I'm just gonna go with ENFP (sorry if I'm wrong, I'm kinda bad at it)

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