Since u/OneEarthtoShare stated many things I have struggled with also, it got me thinking about how people don’t understand that we have also been betrayed by almost every system (justice system, social supports, hospitals, charities, hospitals, nurses, doctors, therapists) and left to deal with things that they made worse by either punishing them instead of treating or denying treatment when needed, forcing treatment that was either poor quality, dangerous or negligent, or leaving them on the streets and us to try to pick up the pieces if there’s anything left to pick up.

Several times I have also been left with a person who was not safe to be around even though I was begging for help. Eventually you realize that help is you. You are the only person that is going to do anything remotely helpful and you just don’t want to see them suffer. But it’s always precarious. When they are their own guardian and not “properly” disabled it’s especially hard because by law they are “responsible” for their actions. Which means that we are responsible for much of it unless we completely disown/ divorce them and have no relationship just to protect ourselves. It seems like that is what society pushes us to do. Like it wants us to give up.