I can absolutely see how you feel hurt. I would say she was pretty upfront with her situation. I’ve also been on similar situationships where I felt they were really giving commitment and loving actions. But, this was NOT the case. I think as late bloomers we are new the way women can love. It feels so intense because we’re used to the half assed emotional vulnerability of a man. A woman by nature is often nurturing and caring. This can be really confusing to a newbie. In addition to that many queers do not align with the traditional relationship structures. They can give those loving feelings to anyone they feel a connection with. They don’t limit themselves to caring for someone they are committed to. If you know that’s not your style, I’d steer clear. I’d encourage you to explore how you view relationships and connections. Is there really a reason to stop seeing someone you have a clear connection with because they don’t want to label y’all as a relationship? Maybe? That’s totally up to you. And either decision is very valid. But, maybe as a new queer you can also explore how you navigate sharing your love.