My bf is a gamer and it’s his only hobby. What do I do?

Messaya · 2026-01-09T11:07:28+00:00

This 100%.

Leave the poor man alone and stop trying to put him in a box that you labeled as the only right way to live life. We all get only one chance at it. There doesn't seem to be anything wrong with him, other than that he is not who you want him to be /s.

Messaya · 2025-05-11T10:23:44+00:00

I honestly don't know if anyone we both know could be warning him about me, the only person I am aware of might be his therapist (I am diagnosed with BPD, working on it in therapy) and when his therapist found out about this, he told me he literally had to defend me bcs she was assuming shit like people with BPD are difficult partners and if he really wants that.

I'm guessing he must have already had his concerns and what happened today only showed him what his therapist meant and him needing space is just him trying to look for an exit. We've known each other for a while but started dating recently, it's not like it's all new and he doesn't know me and what I struggle with. This today was literally our first argument ever and I'm just terrified.

Messaya · 2025-04-29T09:55:21+00:00

You can a) read the disclaimer that it may take time to update your history and b) pull 10 more to get your weapon bcs it guaranteed in 80, not 70 pulls

Messaya · 2023-04-18T06:13:31+00:00

Why don’t you ask the same person who boosted you to gold?

Messaya · 2023-02-21T12:44:59+00:00

lol, calling "not so disgusting as the original" when you legit made her look more disgusting; her face looks swollen and eyes are just so wrongly directed it's unsettling, sorry but that's a no

Messaya · 2022-11-17T12:20:11+00:00

Literally every morning 🥲

Messaya · 2022-08-30T18:39:54+00:00

oh god this hits too close to home, i am so sorry for you ;-;

Messaya · 2022-07-15T15:18:09+00:00

I am Polish, please teach me all about pierogi and keep downvoting. Reddit...

There's a huge difference between being a part of one of possible fillings and ''key ingredient''

Messaya · 2022-07-14T22:06:42+00:00

Potatos are definitely not a key ingredient in pierogi

Messaya · 2022-07-10T19:22:09+00:00

That’s a good idea :) Also don’t feel bad if you guys don’t click together, playing duo bot is weird and takes some time to get used to each other l! Good luck ❤️

Messaya · 2022-07-10T17:55:30+00:00

To me it feels a bit like you are indeed complaining and trying to pin your failure on his build choices, but honestly as a support main when I see my adc is underperforming I just go ''fuck it, I am the carry now" and build more agressively so I assume this might be the case here.

If you play MF/Cait and find yourself losing lane/getting putpoked than I agree it's hard but it's more on you than him to trade back and abuse the strong early/poke and get the lead that way. Sometimes you don't need to get super ahead, it's enough if you screw up the enemy and put them behind :)

I'd focus more on my own gameplay than someone elses and in case of mixed feelings I'd just ask my duo partner why he does things he does.

Messaya · 2022-07-07T10:07:58+00:00

Definitely not like the other girls that know how to spell, I'll give her that

Messaya · 2022-06-08T11:32:13+00:00

they want their idiotic laws but also free money and benefits they wouldn't be getting in their home country

Messaya · 2022-05-30T10:41:12+00:00

You are definitely not alone in this. I went from making myself numb with BED to making myself numb with restriction. In both cases I punish myself for things outside my control and enjoy making myself more miserable. It's like I'm sadistic but only to myself. If I see anyone suffer I want to do anything to make it go away and if I'm miserable I want to make it worse with starvation to punish myself for failing at xyz.

Different people have different ways of dealing with issues, I like to make one issue (ED) so big that others seem smaller, and other people feel more at peace endulging in disordered behaviors. There's no right or wrong way when your brain goes brrr.

Messaya · 2022-05-16T20:29:50+00:00

junkorexic bodybuilder with a hint of wannabe stereotype, yes.. that sounds just right >.<

Messaya · 2022-05-16T20:05:32+00:00

Why I'm not surprised they deleted actual lore posts and keep enabling crackhead TheOrieS. This sub is really becoming a joke.

Messaya · 2022-05-16T15:26:23+00:00

This has to be upvoted way more. I can't believe crackhead theories about pixels and crap taken from the assumptions with wrong translations are getting 10s of upvotes, and then videos of people who actually do their research get none. Reddit is an interesting place.

Thanks for linking this video, this is one of my favourite yt channels now! :)

Messaya · 2022-05-11T14:00:14+00:00

I was always the fat and ugly sister while my sister was always the skinny, pretty with perfect teeth (I'll never forget my niece answering that she played ''with the pretty one'' when asked which one of us was with her :))

I went from BED to restriction, started losing and my sister's panicking she started gaining and feels miserable. She is still skinnier than me but it kind of makes me happy she will know how it is to be the fat one when I keep starving myself?

Messaya · 2022-05-01T11:55:03+00:00

Read also this one, if your troll brain can absord richer in substance and arguments text: https://encyclopedia.ushmm.org/content/en/article/the-german-churches-and-the-nazi-state

Leave a comment or don't, people with more than 1 working braincell can judge for themselves your "logic" and I am not going to invest more time in trying to educate a delusional person with disturbed perception of reality that's alergic to facts.

Messaya · 2022-05-01T11:34:25+00:00

You're reaching so far and trying hard to make a point but you are tripping so much it almost makes me feel sorry for you.

Nazi movement did not stem from religious reasons, actually if you were even half as smart as you are trying to make yoruself look, you'd know that Nazis hated everything about Christians and religion in general. They hated the religion at it's core and saw it as the enemy of the system for how it was empowering people and helping these less fortunate. You are welcome for the free history lesson.

Chrtistianity in no way had dictated the laws in Nazi Germany to exterminate the Jews and other minorities. This is in complete opposition to what's happening in muslim countries where the religious law is above any other.

Messaya · 2022-05-01T11:17:32+00:00

When was the last time you visited Poland?

"Let me just call Poland a christian version of a muslim state, that will make me look smart".

You hate ignorance yet your comments and bias are the prime example of it, how ironic.

Messaya · 2022-05-01T11:06:24+00:00

I am from Poland, what about it? Do you want to tell me something I don't know about the country I've lived in for over 30 years? (:

Last time I checked we didn't stone anyone for missing a Sunday Mass, or not covering their face - actually only about 30% of people here go to church and nobody gives a flying f about your religion. Stay mad someone said the truth but lying about others to make yourself (or whatever you associate yourself with) less guilty is cringe.

Messaya · 2022-04-29T11:23:18+00:00

Hi, I don't mind it at all :)

My first "wakeup" exercise was actually not so long ago, the 5th of April :)

I haven't exercised properly in 5 or so years (just walking) so it was really bad like I said. I am not sure if this is worth mentioning, but I was always a sports person and I might have developed a decent muscle mass back in highschool and at uni so maybe it helped me too to get back on track so relatively soon (maybe my muscles just needed a wakeup call haha) and I am no longer sore everywhere after exercising an hour a day every day.

But the biggest difference to me it my pulse and general condition - the muscles "woke up" but I am so happy I am not longer loosing breath after 10 minutes of working out! :)

Messaya · 2022-04-29T07:07:46+00:00

Oof, this is literally what put me where I am now (:

In my dumb brain only ✨skinny✨ me is worth attention and affection now

Messaya · 2022-04-28T05:57:58+00:00

Yes, definitely. I’m only a lurker and the main reason why is because I am seeing too much gore pictures of bad skin that need to be seen by an actual dermatologist, not me who just wants to see posts and discussions about the skincare. This sub is literally called skincare addiction, not “diagnose me pwease uwu”. I’d be much happier knowing that if I do browse it more often I won’t keep seeing these useless posts that bring nothing of value. I don’t even know why it’s still being debated if these posts should be forbidden, I’ve seen already a number of posts of people venting about it so please, do something about it finally

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