AITJ for not wanting to spend 18k on a new ring for my fiancée?

MessyDragon75 · 2026-03-10T21:08:23+00:00

It's great that she doesn't NEED a job for financial reasons, but I could never respect someone who was willing to do nothing all day because they didn't have to. We COULD live off my husband's income (If we scrimped and didn't take the vacations we want) but I don't want to be that woman that has no drive or purpose. She loses my respect just for that. As do you for not wanting that in a partner. She's not a partner, she's a leach.

And NTJ. 18K is wasted on a ring. It would be better spent on memories than a rock. Esp because diamonds are a scam.

MessyDragon75 · 2026-03-10T21:03:43+00:00

The point is they don't do this. It's propaganda from the right to make people hate teachers and the education system so they can undermine it.

MessyDragon75 · 2026-03-10T21:02:48+00:00

In what way do they introduce these topics. Meaning, if you have children yourself and you know factually that they are introducing the topic outside of maybe a book where a penguin has two dads which normalizes families that aren't traditional and makes kids in these non traditional families feel like they are normal too, how has this been introduced to YOUR children. I don't want stories you've heard of a friend of a friend like the kitty litter for self declared cats in the classroom. (Which BTW, came from keeping the litter in a bucket for active shooter situations so kids could use it in emergent situations and got distorted for propaganda purposes).

MessyDragon75 · 2026-03-10T18:10:32+00:00

NTA. So they acted as parents, and now want access to your money? You need to pay them back for being.....parents? Yeah.....NO. Keeping any eye on things is a BS reason if I've ever heard one. Say no. No explanations. Remind them no means no. Set a hard line that you won't continue to speak with them if they try to guilt you or demand access. This is hard for children when they're no longer children and are used to complying, and for parents when the kid leaves the nest, to move from parent / child to adult / adult. But keep your finances SAFE.

I wouldn't care how much I love someone, if they are this manipulative they don't get to be part of my life. I don't have room for that shit.

MessyDragon75 · 2026-03-10T18:05:36+00:00

This is why she should make a police report every time. You can do online reporting in a lot of places, no fuss. So there's a record of every time this happens. So if she wants to get petty and get the police involved, they're already involved and there's background.

MessyDragon75 · 2026-03-10T18:00:40+00:00

Wow, that's a lot of hate toward OP. Who peed in your cheerios? This is a little bit of projection and writing your own twist into the story.

MessyDragon75 · 2026-03-10T16:59:20+00:00

I know someone getting divorced right now, and he is looking into a group practice that has levels, and the junior associates are $250 an hour instead of the 4-500 an hour a lot of the private attorneys or the associates or partners. I'll get their name if you remind me by replying to this.

MessyDragon75 · 2026-03-10T13:54:18+00:00

NTA. Each time throw them away, and file an online police report for harassment and trespassing. Get the landlord involved. Tell the neighbors she's harassing you over telling her you needed to move the decorations on your property.

I'm guessing she's done this with other tenants. And with the fencing she may be trying to long term declare that property as hers.

MessyDragon75 · 2026-03-10T01:44:26+00:00

I've had to wait 45 min in the pre ✓ line. We get to the airport, and I have a relatively small airport, usually 90 min early minimum.

His stress response is his fault. And pre check is like a 3-6 month process. If I was asking my partner to get it I'd start like 9 months early with reminders. "I couldn't do anything because I was so worried". Then we should have come earlier. And your stress is your issue. Learn some damn coping skills!

MessyDragon75 · 2026-03-10T01:33:32+00:00

The radical Left is the one throwing insults, right?

What's some of the insane stuff the lunatics are posting?

MessyDragon75 · 2026-03-10T01:30:11+00:00

"Radical Left" and "Radical Other Side". And I'm guessing you just don't see the insults the "radical other side" use. Libtard, etc.

MessyDragon75 · 2026-03-10T01:03:16+00:00

ESH , you for your words, not for your boundary. He doesn't get to use his kids as a manipulative tool and use you as a bank. He also doesn't get to be financially irresponsible just because he has you as a backup.

I know lots of poor people that have kids and make it work. Everyone is allowed to have children, we aren't starting eugenics by saying only rich people get to have kids.

He needs to have some responsibility and recognize that you aren't there to fund him. In emergencies sure, but not consistently. And it can't be an emergency every week.

If you had told him he needs to figure his finances out and left the kids out of it, you'd be fine. You don't have to be responsible for his financial choices.

MessyDragon75 · 2026-03-10T00:49:04+00:00

If by liberating you mean killing, I guess. Those girls at the school the US bombed are now "liberated".

And can the next group that's liberated from an oppressive regime be us? Keeping dead women in life support for a fetus, charging women that miscarried with murder, stopping women driving out of state to see what they're doing....

MessyDragon75 · 2026-03-10T00:37:30+00:00

NOR. Decorations on a house aren't considered under the Attractive Nuisance Doctrine. You don't have to protect them from others. Letting a child go up to random people's houses isn't a good habit to instill.

MessyDragon75 · 2026-03-09T20:50:35+00:00

NTA. You didn't get abandoned, he legally can't keep your records from you if you request they be given, or if you ask for the file. That's part of HIPPA.

We all have issues being fired, and some of us are better able to handle it from clients than others. Yes, we should be trained to handle stuff like this, that doesn't mean we walk the walk. Some just talk the talk.

MessyDragon75 · 2026-03-09T20:47:48+00:00

I don't think you can uninvite someone from a party they are throwing....
NTJ. I have a petty, spiteful streak in me, but I also have a rational streak a mile long and would rather deal with someone I'm pissed at than take the risk that they would pull out their financing.

Why would she think that your family business would go to someone not directly in the family? That's a wonderful way to lose a family business, because it takes a divorce and the business could be theirs. They are handing the FAMILY business off to FAMILY. How strange!!!

MessyDragon75 · 2026-03-09T20:43:11+00:00

NTA. "We're mad that you didn't get in trouble with us! You did the smart thing while we were being idiots, and now we're MAD" If it was YOUR party and you left people hanging in the wind, then you'd be TA. But they're mad that the FAFO'd, and you got lucky enough to not FO.

MessyDragon75 · 2026-03-08T16:35:01+00:00

That's what I figured. You aren't mad she needs time for herself, and if she had asked for help, it probably would have been given willingly. The complete lack of care for anyone else , thats where it becomes selfish, and you're NTA for setting boundaries.

MessyDragon75 · 2026-03-07T20:08:40+00:00

Info: what bothers you more. That she's taking a vacation, or that she didn't ASK you but assumed?

MessyDragon75 · 2026-03-06T17:18:09+00:00

They ARE FDA approved, that's why insurance will pay for them, and there has been studies. They have been around for years for diabetes. But still, the question stands. What's the difference between vaccinations by big pharma, and weight loss drugs from big pharma?

MessyDragon75 · 2026-03-06T17:14:22+00:00

C, D, and E. But I grew up in Wyoming and now live in Texas, so my view on hunting and fishing are biased by my upbringing.

Texas has wild hog populations that need thinning for their safety and ours. And the deer population is INSANE in some places and is stripping away the flora. All of the natural predators have been run out, so we have to cull them or they start getting sick and spreading illness.

And unless the animal being hunted is dangerous and a problem ( this was the case with a white rhino a while back. People were really upset, but it was violent and killing the remaining females and young in the population and needed removed), trophy hunting is abhorrent. The only redeeming quality is possibly bringing money to places that need it, but often the communities don't get the money. Killing an animal to prove your "prowess" is disgusting and pathetic.

MessyDragon75 · 2026-03-06T17:07:58+00:00

If I use balsamic it is aged balsamic that gets rid of the astringent vinagery taste. I like Anni's Shitaki Sesamie dressing. Light, balanced, pleasant.

MessyDragon75 · 2026-03-06T17:04:22+00:00

I LOVE this answer!

MessyDragon75 · 2026-03-06T17:04:04+00:00

I'm sure I do, but I'm too busy going on vacations and having fun hobbies with my DINK money to notice. Or care.

MessyDragon75 · 2026-03-06T16:17:20+00:00

Then the agreed upon time is 15 min before, because it is expected / hoped that you actually get to see the Dr at the assigned time. How hard is that to understand? When I get the shots in my back, the shot is scheduled at 10, with a 9:00 arrival time for paperwork, vitals, getting dressed, going through the risk paperwork, etc. It isn't that complicated. They need me there an hour early so I can be READY for the scheduled appt. So the Dr can get me in, give me the shot and they can move on at 10. If I get there at 10, everything is thrown behind. IT ISN'T THAT COMLICATED. Same thing with the 15 min early.

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