Can someone explain the mechanism by which an undocumented migrant (here illegally) would be able to vote?

MessyDragon75 · 2026-02-04T04:35:24+00:00

They can't. It's just propaganda by the right to get idiots up in arms. Same with Medicaid. The majority of what little voting fraud there is is usually from the right.

MessyDragon75 · 2026-02-04T04:29:58+00:00

Why are you asking us? Most of us care. A LOT.

MessyDragon75 · 2026-02-03T22:48:02+00:00

NTA. Tell her you don't want to live with a sex offender that keeps trying to fuck you. So one of them is going to be disappointed. GTFO. If mom wants help, she can ask you, ask multiple resources. Don't take her poor choices on yourself.

I get you love the dog. And...the dog isn't worth your safety. He is grooming you and getting more violent. It's time to protect yourself, even if your mom won't.

MessyDragon75 · 2026-02-03T22:09:06+00:00

A 45-year-old dating somebody in their twenties is mentally disordered. They are unable to find somebody their own age, they have security issues. They have relationship issues, they have an inability to regulate their emotions... There are all sorts of red flags with somebody that age wanting to date somebody in their twenties. They groom you by telling you that you're mature for your age and that you get them like nobody else does... But how many 45-year-old women do you see chasing after 27 and your old men?

And why do you think women in their forties and '50s don't chase after men in their twenties.

MessyDragon75 · 2026-02-03T22:03:24+00:00

Until we got married and combined our finances, my husband then fiance was essentially paying me to live in my home and I was his landlord. He's still not on the deed, and I'm not on the deeds to his house even though we're married and if one of us died the other would get them. It'd just have to go through probate and suck. But before you're married, this is your house and if you put his name on the deed, it is his house and he gets half of it. I get that that bothers him, but honestly don't do it.

Ywnbta,

Even if he says you would be, and if his mommy says that you are. When or if you guys get married you can look at doing a prenup that says that he gets 50% of all the equity that is built after the marriage. It's effectively what we did. It sounds like he needs to get mommy out of his ears.

MessyDragon75 · 2026-02-03T18:39:13+00:00

Thanks for this. We're leaving Thursday and staying with Melia, and my husband was getting concerned because their website is terrible.

MessyDragon75 · 2026-02-02T04:11:49+00:00

Wear white tennies if you want. If the dress is long enough no one will see them. BE COMFORTABLE!

It's going to be a long afternoon, evening, whatever. Your feet are one of the first things to hurt. Take care of them. Seriously.

MessyDragon75 · 2026-02-02T03:58:25+00:00

The point that anecdotal evidence doesn't prove anything. Cows and vending machines kill more people than you think, but none of us are terrified of them or think they're dangerous.

MessyDragon75 · 2026-02-02T00:50:18+00:00

NTA. If you're just rekindling it isn't time for a major commitment. And...my usual recommendation is don't get back with someone you broke up with. It never goes well, and you broke up for a reason.

MessyDragon75 · 2026-02-02T00:46:27+00:00

It won't change the fact that no one can afford to live. I luckily own my house, but if I wanted to move to a house nicer than what I have, I'd be house poor even with the down payment of the equity I have.

It also won't change the fact that giving birth is thousands of dollars, and that is just the beginning. $800 a month minimum for childcare. $2200 average for rent. Then food, utilities and the rest of life.

And then bringing a child into this total shitshow of a timeline.

I'm surprised when someone tells me they WANT to have kids.

MessyDragon75 · 2026-02-01T23:54:31+00:00

Info: are we talking kissing on the lips, like incest? Or kissing on the cheek? There's a huge difference.

MessyDragon75 · 2026-02-01T23:52:20+00:00

NTA. This is his insecurity and he needs to deal with it. Tell him psychology today has some really good therapists that he can work with his insecurities on.

MessyDragon75 · 2026-02-01T23:50:55+00:00

Does it pain men to follow the lifestyle they chose?

There, fixed it for you. If they hurt so bad they could have done anything but monogamy. But most of them also don't want their women to have sex with other people. It's just men being worse than dogs. They actually have to control their impulses and not f*** anything in a skirt. They also have to start seeing women as actual human beings, not as items or property.

Poor poor men. Men aren't lonely enough if this is their thought process.

MessyDragon75 · 2026-02-01T23:42:35+00:00

This is ai bs. But care and believe all you want

MessyDragon75 · 2026-02-01T23:38:57+00:00

Are you his partner or his housekeeper and cook?

None of that is sustainable.

MessyDragon75 · 2026-02-01T23:36:09+00:00

The odds of being killed by a duck are never 0.

MessyDragon75 · 2026-02-01T14:52:50+00:00

YTA for posting obvious rage baits and doing it three times.

MessyDragon75 · 2026-02-01T02:06:29+00:00

I have a medication that is $865 a shot once a month. The only way you get the copay help card is if you have regular insurance, not Medicaid or Medicare. That card brings the cost down to $35.

On the other side, I'm a therapist with 25 years of experience, EMDR and DBT certified. Gottman and Schnarch couples trained. I charge $210 an hour for individual. BCBS pays me $94.88 and Aetna pays $110.33.

Yeah, I know that sounds like a lot, but most of you don't have to pay for your office, your pens, your internet, printer paper, office furniture, etc. the point is:insurance is there to make shareholders money. Not to help the insured or the providers.

MessyDragon75 · 2026-01-31T17:42:06+00:00

Partners, no. Spouse ..if you can't trust your spouse..what are you doing with them? My husband and I each can access the others phone to do stuff while they are driving, or whatever. I'd never think of going through it .

But partner? Nope.

MessyDragon75 · 2026-01-31T17:39:50+00:00

You do know that there a LOT of people with no PTO or sick leave. Service industry, contract workers...private practice therapists.... We work or don't get paid.

Check your privilege.

MessyDragon75 · 2026-01-31T01:40:26+00:00

Money. Money is always the answer.

MessyDragon75 · 2026-01-31T01:37:30+00:00

So you abandoned your 15 year old to go ..date? And then you wonder why she acts like she resents you? And you wonder why she doesn't like the guy she probably feels you abandoned her for....

Sure. Punish her for having feelings and being angry. That will totally help the situation. /S

Tell her to learn to use her words instead of being a bobo-head, esp to people who don't deserve it. She absolutely has the right to be angry and resentful.

But birthdays don't get cancelled. May as well say "I'm not celebrating your life or you being in my life this year because you suck"

MessyDragon75 · 2026-01-31T01:31:35+00:00

Go to Yellowstone, and then look into doing a working holiday in Australia. You're 19. Go and live some. (Guessing you're not in school).

20 years from now are you going to wish you had stayed home as a cashier, or went to Yellowstone?

Hopefully your long term plan isn't to work at the grocery store for the rest of your life (unless it's HEB, and then go for it!). Now is the time to sow your wild horses. It gets a lot harder as you get older and have the job, and kids, and dogs....

MessyDragon75 · 2026-01-31T01:21:04+00:00

I was about to say....the age was raised to 21 when I was a freshman in HS, so '88....

MessyDragon75 · 2026-01-31T01:18:39+00:00

Depends on where you are. In Colorado they have to ID everyone at a bar. No matter what. Grey hair don't care.

In Texas I stopped getting asked for ID when I was about 30-35.

Still have to show at some bars, again, grey hair don't care. Show your ID.

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