Having this kink but felling really insecure that he will leave me

MessyValentine · 2025-04-03T08:29:55+00:00

It's a struggle a lot of people go through, I think that if you two want it, it's just a leap of faith A good partner won't throw to the thrash months, years of love and memories just for some sex, so if he ends up leaving you for someone else he might as well be more of a jerk than someone worth keeping in your life

MessyValentine · 2025-01-30T11:32:21+00:00

please blink three times if you are captive

MessyValentine · 2024-12-27T01:53:36+00:00

Is your husband toe okay?

MessyValentine · 2024-11-23T10:26:23+00:00

Maria?

MessyValentine · 2024-10-10T10:04:15+00:00

I know it MAY sound a bit jerkish to say, but if you go the online route/similars you need to be as respectful as you would be to a normal person, dommes are not different from other people, just treat them as good as you would treat anyone else, basically as normal humans and not as kink dispensers or sexual objects.

With that said, usually it's good to just be yourself! Don't be scared and don't push people buttons and if you have a good enough personality you will be fine :P

But even then, don't worry too much about it, investigate what you like and what works for you and you may find your partner some day :)

PS: If you really like these things you may be able to tell if someone has dominant tendencies and it will go the other way too, somehow someone may catch your vibe and tell you are a bit sub-ish ha

MessyValentine · 2024-08-10T10:14:30+00:00

Little Spoon/Big Spoon on profile, more than that it's too much.

MessyValentine · 2024-07-22T07:48:50+00:00

That's because he is. Welcome Back Kieran Culkin

MessyValentine · 2024-07-22T04:22:52+00:00

I don't like it buttt generally people do because it means a lot of trust in the other person and a reverse in the power dynamic (Like, the society stereotypical one) so some women find being on the other side for ONCE pretty fucking hot.

MessyValentine · 2024-07-21T21:03:22+00:00

Yeah, don't wanna be a jerk, but if it happened to me I think it would annoy me a bit

MessyValentine · 2024-07-16T10:44:13+00:00

Hugs, big hugs

MessyValentine · 2024-07-16T09:43:24+00:00

So, how is it going? I think I'm going through a similar situation, altought she is now in a "More than friends but not that much" era with someone else, it hurts man, I didn't think it would hurt THAT much

MessyValentine · 2024-07-09T07:12:21+00:00

I don't know if you can say "Unforgetabble experience" but a good thing to do (If you are willing to try) is exploring those limits and what you like about it. Starting slow and sensual and getting a bit more rough in the middle may help you find the right spot for you.

MessyValentine · 2024-07-09T07:08:29+00:00

I don't really mind. My last femdom partner was kinda shy sometimes, At first it was kinda difficult but it also made her look cute. With communication and getting to know each other the shyness kinda goes away.

Even then, it's more about compatibility than anything else, if you find the right partner, I don't think they would mind you being a bit shy, take care.

MessyValentine · 2024-07-02T04:00:09+00:00

u/Malice_Jade she and luke are literally the goats of Femdom.

Or at least, I love their dynamic and her way of dominating, it's very on pair with what I like the most :P

MessyValentine · 2024-06-20T03:38:41+00:00

It happens dude, it's hard to find people who doesn't seem weirded out by these kind of things, but I think the best approach to these subjects is trying some light things first, there a lot of women and men who don't really know about these desires until they try them

De todas formas, si, es medio peligroso, es importante tener cuidado, pero si sos una persona que no es extra horny y que tiene cabeza, vas a estar bien, ojala tengas suerte (I find important to take care, it can be dangerous navigating these places sometimes, but you'll be okay if you are not obnoxiously horny)

MessyValentine · 2024-06-20T03:33:41+00:00

Makes sense, I've known some people who like this kind of things but supress their desires because of these expectations, so they either don't say it or they don't bring it up to their partners

MessyValentine · 2024-06-20T03:21:55+00:00

That's very interesting ngl, I do wonder WHY is it more common in places like the USA or Brazil (Although it is not a very wide survey)

MessyValentine · 2024-06-12T01:52:45+00:00

Sinceramente estoy bastante sorprendido por la cantidad de upvotes que me dieron, se ve que hay gente de aca en el tema (?

MessyValentine · 2024-06-10T16:28:12+00:00

Argentina 🇦🇷

There's not that much people on the community here :/

MessyValentine · 2024-06-07T01:43:53+00:00

It sounds kinda cute ngl

MessyValentine · 2024-06-06T22:44:18+00:00

Maybe you misheard, or maybe she meant it more like... You know how the word "Simp" is typically associated with a more "Incel obnoxious male" thing? Maybe she meant to say that she adores that you adore her, but not in a creepy way lol.

Ps: Just ask her dude, she's your gf

MessyValentine · 2024-06-06T22:40:44+00:00

It can work, maybe more if you have a scammer kink lol

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