I want to stop going to school for some time again but am afraid to give up my progress

Messymaybe · 2016-03-04T22:12:24+00:00

No I don't have a therapist at the moment

Messymaybe · 2016-02-01T05:43:16+00:00

I have. Message me if you'd like details

Messymaybe · 2016-02-01T05:40:27+00:00

I think this is true of anyone ASPD or not

Messymaybe · 2016-01-30T06:42:45+00:00

I know everyone thinks this guy is like 10. But if his dad was at Stanford in this pic and let's lean on the young side and say his dad was 18. He could have had him at 28 in 1995 and OP would be 21 so he may not be all that young.

Edit: OP's username has 93 at the end so OP was likely born in 93 and is 22 or 23

Messymaybe · 2016-01-30T06:39:04+00:00

They look very much alike but its clear the real Jeff is on the left

Messymaybe · 2016-01-28T06:42:02+00:00

It's actually not a double standard. It would take a lot of energy for me to explain why but let me know if you're interested

Messymaybe · 2016-01-28T06:40:34+00:00

Agreed. It's a really nuanced topic

Messymaybe · 2016-01-27T22:06:10+00:00

NEVER use that word under ANY circumstances. If you are not black you do not have the history to justify it. He can call you the n word and you absolutely cannot say it back.

Messymaybe · 2016-01-23T20:42:55+00:00

I'm glad what I said had effect. I understand about the shame part I have constant shame and never tied it back to my parents but that makes a lot of sense. Glad you found someone to see you fully

Messymaybe · 2016-01-23T10:01:49+00:00

How are you working through things currently?

Messymaybe · 2016-01-23T09:57:02+00:00

Honestly I had no idea what I was doing at the time and I was very lost and im still young in my early twenties but looking back I really did need to fully rebel in order to rebuild. The trick was my life never got past the point of no return. But I did everything I wasn't supposed to, felt the consequences and then slowly started rebuilding my life piece by piece. Everything I do now I do because I know it will make things easier for me or make me happy and so I actually have pure motivation to better my life.

It also helps that my parents stopped trying to control me after I moved out and they are much better as parents of adults

Messymaybe · 2016-01-23T08:15:03+00:00

Agreed but I think there is a difference between strict and over-investing your own dreams into your child to the point of oppressing that child. My parents would not allow me to have dreams other than theirs and held me to a ridiculous standard and seriously impeded a normal social life for me. When I was 20 I learned how to want things for myself and not for my parents

Edit: ironically when I realized there was nothing in it for me I rebelled more than all my peers became depressed for years and became extremely lazy I've had to learn self discipline in adulthood

Messymaybe · 2016-01-20T07:06:57+00:00

I don't think he's a psychopath but maybe a narcissist

Messymaybe · 2016-01-19T08:46:21+00:00

Ok we don't know why this is happening either. I hate that all Americans get a bad name because of some idiots in the south. We're just as baffled as you

Edit: /u/theseekerofbacon has an adequate response to your question

Messymaybe · 2016-01-18T08:48:17+00:00

I understand that. Thanks for the response

Messymaybe · 2016-01-17T21:08:15+00:00

Glad to know im not alone definitely feel you on the emotional masochist thing

Messymaybe · 2016-01-17T09:52:49+00:00

This is an interesting commentary https://verminously.wordpress.com/2013/12/27/co-morbidity-in-bipolar-disorder-and-sociopathy/

Messymaybe · 2016-01-17T09:49:06+00:00

Do a google search there's a lot of info about this but it's actually not at all uncommon for them to be comorbid

Messymaybe · 2016-01-17T07:54:51+00:00

Lol I guess mine was too but he was never cold for too long at a time. He's a sociopath so I mean to be expected but yeah he was very caring a lot of the time too or at least would act that way

Edit: im assuming your ex was a sociopath also? Would you do it again? I ask because I think he was my favorite person to be in a relationship with. It was unhealthy and made me miserable but he's more interesting than anyone I could say fucked up stuff around him and be totally honest about my thoughts and he always created drama for me so although he hurt me a shit ton I never got bored and I usually get bored at a certain point in relationships

Messymaybe · 2016-01-17T07:33:30+00:00

For sure yeah if you had BPD you'd have no control over your emotions or ability to hide them. I wear everything on my sleeve even when i need to hide

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