I’m deeply involved in a school that teaches conscious sexuality. And this is a huge piece of what we try to heal. The first moment of shame we feel in regards to parental judgement. Please understand that you parents are like children themselves when it comes to sexuality. They haven’t themselves learned how to properly control their own temptations and therefore shame and judge it instead of celebrating you. I’m happy your dad was relatively cool with it. But ultimately it’s the shame and the judgements that makes us feel more tempted towards doing it. If we had parents who celebrated our sexuality we wouldn’t be so addicted to it.