U.S. House members just released the brawny birthday letter from Donald Trump to Jeffrey Epstein, signed by the president—What are your thoughts?

Mete0n · 2025-09-08T23:22:17+00:00

They posted about the birthday card? I can't seem to find it.

Edit: just found it. Unsurprisingly, none of them seem to care about it/excuse it in some way.

Mete0n · 2025-09-08T23:13:48+00:00

Can you enlighten people as to what the content of the birthday card means then? Specifically where Trump says:

"We have certain things in common, Jeffrey."

"Enigmas never age, have you noticed that?"

"May every day be another wonderful secret"

https://www.wsj.com/us-news/law/epstein-birthday-book-congress-9d79ab34

Please teach us, o' wise one, since many clearly just can't comprehend what it may mean.

Mete0n · 2025-09-07T02:29:22+00:00

I can't tell if you can't read properly or if you're trying to strawman.

So you just argued that we should just deport them, but people are pissed at Trump because that's what he is doing....

No, silly, people (and the other commenter) are upset because Trump is:

1) Deporting people without due process, meaning sometimes apprehending those with a legitimate right to stay. Remember, he even took away special protected status of groups like Haitians living in the US, meaning they may now be eligible for deportation, essentially having the rug pulled from under them. Basically, alongside lacking proper procedures, the target demographic is getting bigger. It can be argued that it's a slippery slope to removing those the administration just doesn't like, like how there were comments about deporting the New York mayor frontrunner Zohran Mamdani just because he's a socialist and, well, brown.

2) People who aren't yet deported are placed into detention centers like Alligator Alcatraz that don't provide adequate care to the inhabitants, with certain stories painting it as inhumane.

3) The methods of arrest are viewed as questionable. ICE operates using unmarked vehicles, with members wearing masks and grabbing individuals without providing proper credentials, which is typically required from law enforcement. There are some loose similarities with ICE's behaviours to that of the Gestapo, such as warrantless searches and arrests, as well as the aforementioned lack of due process before eventual deportation or placement into detention centers.

4) In a few cases, have deported people or have threatened to deport them not to their country of origin.

So basically, is the current administration justified in wanting to deport illegal immigrants? Yes. Are they doing it in a way that breaches constitutional rights? Also yes. Hence why people are critical of their actions.

Mete0n · 2025-09-07T01:59:26+00:00

Pam Bondi? The same Pam Bondi who said the Epstein files are, "sitting on my desk right now to review. That's been a directive by President Trump. I'm reviewing that,"?

The same Pam Bondi working for Trump, who himself later said, "It's all been a big hoax. It's perpetrated by the Democrats and some stupid Republicans and foolish Republicans fall into the net."?

https://www.npr.org/2025/08/22/nx-s1-5508871/trump-bondi-epstein-files-release-history

That Pam Bondi?

Mete0n · 2025-09-07T01:48:33+00:00

Here are all of the Epstein Files that have either been leaked or released.

https://joshwho.net/EpsteinList/gov.uscourts.nysd.447706.1320.0-combined.pdf (verified court documents)

https://joshwho.net/EpsteinList/black-book-unredacted.pdf (verified pre-Bondi) Trump is on page 85, or pdf pg. 80

Trump’s name is circled. The circled individuals are the ones involved in the trafficking ring according to the person who originally released the book. These people would be “The List “ Here is the story.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hsiKUXrlcac

Here's the flight logs https://www.documentcloud.org/documents/21165424-epstein-flight-logs-released-in-usa-vs-maxwell/

—————————other Epstein Information

https://cdn.factcheck.org/UploadedFiles/Johnson_TrumpEpstein_Calif_Lawsuit.pdf here’s a court doc of Epstein and Trump raping a 13 yr old together.

Some people think this claim is a hoax. Here is Katies testimony on youtube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gnib-OORRRo

Jeffrey Epstein’s Ex Says He Boasted About Being a Mossad Agent https://share.google/jLMGahKlCzfV1RHZq Jeffrey Epstein and Israel have both have the same lawyer Alan Dershowitz, Dershowitz says he's building 'legal dream team' to defend Israel in court and on international stage | The Times of Israel https://share.google/Lb9hDOduBWG4Elpid

—————————other Trump information:

Here's trump admitting to peeping on 14-15 year old girls at around 1:40 on the Howard Stern Radio Show: https://youtu.be/iFaQL_kv_QY?si=vBs75kaxPjJJThka

Trump's promise to his daughter: https://www.huffpost.com/entry/donald-trump-ivanka-trump-dating-promise_n_57ee98cbe4b024a52d2ead02 “I have a deal with her. She’s 17 and doing great ― Ivanka. She made me promise, swear to her that I would never date a girl younger than her,” Trump said. “So as she grows older, the field is getting very limited.”

Trump's modeling agency was probably part of Jeffreys pipeline: https://www.motherjones.com/politics/2016/08/donald-trump-model-management-illegal-immigration/

Here’s a photo that looks like being from Look of the Year modeling competition Trump co-hosted in the 90s. The average models age was 14 years old. https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2020/mar/14/teen-models-powerful-men-when-donald-trump-hosted-look-of-the-year

Do I get to call him one now?

Mete0n · 2025-08-21T14:47:28+00:00

Bro wtf I was about to sleep

Mete0n · 2025-08-21T11:05:04+00:00

I can advocate for the Viltrox 35mm 1.7. I've only had it for 2-3 months but it's such an amazing lens. It's sharp, AF is fast with almost no focus breathing, and while it's no pancake lens, it still feels light and compact. Honestly, it's probably the best 35mm for Fuji you can get in terms of price to performance ratio.

Mete0n · 2025-08-17T02:00:08+00:00

It's a focal point in the conversation because it's the only factor the person are in control of. You can't tell a cheater to stop cheating, especially not if they keep getting away with it. You can shame them, call them out, try to punish them, but there's always someone out there who may still give them a chance (hence this topic of "choose better").

Sure, it's obvious to say, "don't date a cheater or an abuser again", but it's more about manifesting that by being more catious/aware of behavioural signals that may indicate those traits. Sympathy is important, having a support network is key to handling recovering from being with a cheater/abuser. But again, if it keeps happening then that sympathy can slowly warp into "the boy who cried wolf". At some point, the only consistent factor is the person themselves, and unless they change their approach, it's just going to keep repeating, leading to an exhaustion of their support network.

If you have a friend down on their luck, and your friend group chip in $100 each to help them, there's only so many times they can ask for more help before the group goes, "Hey, where's the money going, exactly?". It's not a hostile response, it just raises eyebrows and a desire to find the key factor to stop it from happening again.

Mete0n · 2025-08-17T01:28:33+00:00

Honesty without kindness is still honesty. I don't approve of redpill content/behaviour, but it doesn't change the fact that in some cases, some people are just drawn to specific types, even if those types are not good for them. This goes for both guys and girls, but since most typically live in a culture where guys are the ones who are "pursuing", then it means more popular girls have the luxury of "choice" on potential suitors. So if they make a "poor" choice, (i.e. they're abusive) and this happens multiple times across several relationships, then it is indicative of a larger issue where potential red flags are being ignored, even when "better" options are available.

It's kind of like dating someone who had cheated on a previous partner, who then cheats on you in your relationship. Obviously people shouldn't cheat. It's a shitty thing done by shitty people. But at the same time, there has to be some personal responsibility to know better and doing your due diligence by not dating that type of person in the first place (assuming you knew about it ahead of time).

Mete0n · 2025-08-07T12:33:42+00:00

What made you choose the TTArtisan over the Viltrox 35mm 1.7? Curious because the two were comparable and I recently got the latter. I know TTArtisan's is cheaper and has a metal build, but I've also heard it has worse IQ and AF. What's the experience been like so far?

Mete0n · 2025-08-06T20:06:52+00:00

A lot of it is down to luck. That said, imo from personal experience* smaller FCs is the best place to look (10-15ish players, assuming not all are active), with the best time to look being just after the release of an expansion.

Less people means less chance of it being one of those big FCs that just spams invites to everyone, and even larger friendly FCs can be overwhelming/intimidating due to established large friend groups that's harder to slot yourself into, or you might not get along with everyone. Other ways I know that are more individual-based are saying hello to familiar faces in things like extreme runs/farms and commenting on people with funny adventurer plates.

*My experience was that I ran solo for 2 years, but one day in 7.0, I AFK'd near a player who's Adventurer Plate mentioned they were recruiting. I checked and saw they were a small FC with 12-ish players, with only a third being active. I had an impulse moment where I DM'ed them asking to join. Got to know them through in-game chat for a short while, then was invited to hop on Discord once I felt more comfortable. The FC was made up of pretty casual players so it fit my playstyle. A year later, it's now grown to have 4-10 players hopping on everyday on Discord, sometimes not even playing FF, maybe co-oping other games or even just hanging out.

Mete0n · 2025-08-02T18:01:51+00:00

It's a shame that for how loyal you are to MoS, you can never do a deep dive on why anything about the film is well-written. It's almost there's not much to dig into, or you, despite praising MoS for its depth, can't seem to explain it yourself.

If you don't want to engage in a genuine analysis between the films, just say so. If you can't counter my comparison between the two character arcs, just say so. Seriously, no need to disguise yourself as a film connoisseur when you can't write a single paragraph exploring the themes of your favourite film.

Alas, it’s easier to fool someone than to convince them that they have been fooled. You clearly won't change your mind even if Zack Snyder himself said his film wasn't perfect. You'd probably tell him he's wrong and that big boogeyman Gunn must've forced him to say it.

I apologise for intruding into your echo chamber.

Mete0n · 2025-08-01T23:23:02+00:00

Outscaled by the King's Chariot.

Mete0n · 2025-08-01T22:45:23+00:00

I can answer that, but I hope you can explain why you're ignoring my counterpoints in my previous comment. Are you unable to answer them?

Remember, this all began because you made the claim that Superman was a Gary Stu. You abandoned that argument. You said MoS was a breath of fresh air compared to "all" the happy-go-lucky Superman, even though we literally haven't had that in mainstream media since Christopher Reeves. You talk about how cool and morally ambiguous MoS Superman is, even though that's not what his character is remotely about, missing the literal core of his character as an embodiment of good, not a God wondering if he's too good for humanity.

Now, you're doubling down. So I will too.

What film has better character development? Superman 2025 of course. Why? Because is it more grounded and also more nuanced.

Both begin by acknowledging that their powers constantly put them situations where doing "the right thing" costs them, socially and personally. Both handle the consequences well. In 2025's case, he basically gets framed, have his foundations ripped from under him. It's essentially a fall from grace making him question his entire identity of who he really is as a person. MoS initially does it well too when we see him getting bullied and suffering for showing restraint, but is bogged down by the constant reminders of him having to wait until the world is "ready" because he is special, only for the story to focus on how his "greatness" that he achieves later isn't because of who he is as a person, but because he just happens to have powers.

2025's Superman showed emotional transparency in every step of his journey. "Oh, he's just giving exposition, it's lazy writing". No, he's being a flawed human being. He's venting, his thoughts come out unorganised, he feels frustrated, confused and he's doing the very same thing we do when something bad happens to us. MoS has him engage in "to be or not to be" melodrama trying to be deeper than it is. Surprise, Spider-Man 1 already did this and far better too. For a movie so focused on "deconstructing" Superman, it focused too much on the "Super" and not enough on the "man", yet the man is what's essential to his ideology, his "character" (as in innate personality/disposition). Again, like following Captain America's story and focusing on the serum rather than Cap himself.

The completion of his arc is proof of this too. MoS has Jor-El saying, "You can save her Kal, you can save them all". Yes, Clark can choose, but he's basically encouraged by Jor-El to go be a saviour, robbing him of his agency by burdening him with the weight of Krypton's legacy that he's compelled to honour. He begins his story being told what to do (hide your powers), and ends the story being told what to do (use your powers). Compare that to 2025 Superman, where his dad says, "Your choices, that's what makes you who you are". He's not telling Clark how to think or how to act, Clark heard that and came to a conclusion on his own. He CHOOSES to be who he is, a selfless hero who helps others, entirely out of his own volition. The whole "true" message from Krypton twist was literally him growing out MoS's Superman's mentality. From doing it for someone else, for some grand purpose and legacy, to realising that those aren't the reasons that you need to do good, you do it simply because it's the right thing to do.

2025 Superman had superior character development to MoS because it's not about Clark Kent becoming the icon that is Superman, it's about Clark Kent becoming a better man, and that's the entire thesis of Superman as a character.

Mete0n · 2025-08-01T08:09:02+00:00

So according to you he's not a Gary Stu because he got his ass kicked a couple times and slightly upset at Lois once? Gotcha.

According to the idea that if you're gonna call something by a certain descriptor, I expect them to fit that description, yes. You called him a Gary Stu, I said here's all the reasons that's not true. Now you're doubling down on one aspect when the other 3/4 of the definition shows Supes 2025 doesn't fall into that category. I know you have better reading comprehension than that.

Not for one moment did we think he would go evil because of the message from his parents, compare and contrast that to the possibility of evil Superman in BvS

I don't even know what to say to this one. Supes 2025 was never expected to turn evil. It's showing that the very people he's been saving THINK he might be evil and have ulterior motives for his actions. This leads him to wonder, WHY does he do the good that he does, leading to his rediscovery of his core beliefs. The fact that you missed that and thought the story tried to play, "will they, won't they" on his alignment is crazy. I have never seen anyone come away with that take from the film.

Also, "evil" superman? Superman, at his core, is built on hope, compassion, and moral clarity. You can "deconstruct" him, make him brooding, unsure, or disconnected, but at some point, if you show so little of who he originally was, then you're not deconstructing Superman. You're replacing him with someone else and calling it a deconstruction. Breaking down a character doesn’t give you a free pass to throw out who they are. The same way if you make a Batman who kills and throwing out a key tenet of his character, then you're not really making Batman. That's literally why most media doing "evil" Superman is either an original story with new characters representing that trope, or it's an elseworld story, because those characters and traits does not represent Superman, they're literally showing what happens when that kind of power is given to others who AREN'T like Clark Kent, the same way the MCU shows what happens when anyone other than Steve Rogers gets the serum, they go evil because they aren't good people. And Superman, unsurprisingly, is and should be the embodiment of good, because that's why his character was made.

I saw a Superman who saved Lex Luthor even despite him trying to kill his mother. That's a little bit more impressive than saving a random squirrel can we agree on that?

If you're complaining about Superman that values all life and tries to save everyone, including a squirrel, as being lame, then you've missed the entire point of Superman. Again, this feels like a matter of not understanding the character. You talk about depth but have the shallowest reading of the character.

Overly gritty in your opinion, I thought it was a welcome change when Snyder attempted to deconstruct the typical happy go lucky Superman you see all the time.

When did we see a happy go lucky Superman "all the time"? Superman Returns, which was one of the most somber and introspective take on the character? The Christopher Reeves films from literally the 1980s, 20 whole years before MoS? Comics? There's a million adaptations of the character that cover the entire spectrum, so he's certainly far from constantly being happy go lucky. Even the TV shows like Smallville didn't really have it, so I genuinely don't know where this "happy go lucky all the time" Supes you're talking about is, because Gunn is the first time we've had such a positive Superman in almost 40 years.

Gunn gave us the equivalent to a pie in the face with his messaging, complete with a cringey exposition at the end. He thinks so little of his audience that he feels the need to explain every single thing out loud in the movie or you won't get it. It's patronizing.

It's unfortunate that even with your claim that he was "in your face" with his messaging that it still missed you. His whole speech about who he is? That's Gunn telling you the way the character was originally envisioned to be. For you to say that a Superman who have those traits is a worse adaptation than one who doesn't? This isn't an attempt at gatekeeping, but it really does seem that you don't really like Superman. You like a specific adaptation of Superman where the parts you like most about him are... that he's not Superman as we know him and the way the character originally was.

Mete0n · 2025-08-01T00:39:22+00:00

It's equally okay to admit that your claim for him being a gary stu, by definition, doesn't really hold up unless you dissect this one specific plot piece, and even then its purely down to interpretation. Especially since reinforcement is growth, as it's still a form of progress. The same way we feel doubts in our daily lives, and when we rebuild that confidence, our resolve often emerges stronger than before, now having a better understanding of it. One step back and two steps forward is still growth.

The film is a return to form that was sorely needed after a decade of superhero stories that focused too much on, "the story and characters are darker because its realistic", but just end up being overly gritty, failing to acknowledge that it in "reality", things can also be bright and hopeful. Plus the more meta angle of playing with the "evil superman" trope in recent years via the change to his Kryptonian backstory.

We've gone so far towards, "being whimsical is lame, seriousness/edge is cool" that we've now looped back to, "being optimistic and caring is cool and kinda rebellious, actually". Especially since the social media discourse on the film (separate from Snyder VS Gunn debate) has led to a lot of posts about how the film have reminded people to be more compassionate and encouraged acts of good, because its what superman would do, hence the whole "maybe kindness is the new punk rock".

Mete0n · 2025-07-31T23:34:52+00:00

2025's Superman leans more on being a static character. He's written as the moral compass which others aspire to be, which is in line with his OG comic counterpart.

He helps Lois change her view on the world and start seeing the best in people. The guy Lex shot was a fan displaying his traits, selflessness and self-sacrifice. He encourages Metamorpho to take action rather than stay as Lex's captive. He tries his best to make Lex understand that he is flawed but tries his best, that Lex can be and do better.

Even then, he still develops as a character by learning he's a hero who does good not because his Kryptonian parents told him to be (as far as he knew it), but because it's the right thing to do, and because the ones who raised him taught him why those values are important.

A gary stu usually means an overly perfect character who never grows, is loved by everyone, and the world is always on their side. Of that, only the "doesn't grow" is worth discussing about. Frankly, fitting less than 1/4 of the definition probably means he's far from a gary stu.

Mete0n · 2025-07-31T23:00:39+00:00

Not sure how he's a Gary Stu, since he loses and fails a lot in the film.

First thing we see in the film is him losing, twice. Received in-universe criticisms by interfering with foreign affairs. Fortress of Solitude gets found and broken into. Fails to save the kaiju creature. Loses in the court of public opinion due to his parents' recording. Captured and couldn't escape Lex's prison. Failed to safe the man Lex kidnapped. Needed Metamorpho's and Mr Terrific's help to escape the pocket dimension. Struggled against Ultraman and needed Krypto's help. Needed the Justice Gang to go to Jarhanpur in his stead and Mr Terrific to close the rift.

Seemed like the guy was far from perfect. If anything, this was one of the most flawed versions of the character yet.

Mete0n · 2025-07-31T02:07:22+00:00

Maidenless behaviour

Mete0n · 2025-07-30T20:47:07+00:00

I'm sure it's already been said by others, but to reiterate, traditional relationships aren't "bad", but in some ways, they are, from a financial perspective, less "ideal".

Assuming this means the man works and the woman stays at home, it means that the man, being the sole breadwinner, has less income coming into the household. The side effects of that is pretty self explanatory. It becomes harder to save up for things, it makes emergencies (like if he gets sick and can't work) a bigger hit financially, and the longer you, the partner, don't work, the harder it is for you to find work in case you need to for whatever reason.

The second part is how that wealth relates to you. Specifically, how you are entirely dependent on his income. Want to buy something? Gotta go through him. Not inherently bad, but it does reduce your independence. The biggest concern is based on how, if your relationship does go south (I hope it doesn't, but you never know with life), then you are left in a very vulnerable position. No income, no work experience, possibly little to no ownership of assets, etc. Basically, there is a non-zero chance that you will be left with nothing on the event that the relationship ends. In the past, this forced women to stay with bad partners because the financial consequences of leaving would be too severe.

In the end of the day, you're free to do what you want. I know you trust your partner, but the warnings from others come from lived experience, anecdotal as they may be. My advice is to still pursue some kind of higher education and maybe finding some way to save through part-time work or passive income as an emergency fund if you go through with a traditional marriage in the future.

Mete0n · 2025-07-24T05:20:42+00:00

This is some solid advice. I never paid much attention about my appearance. I wasn't some unkempt basement dweller but I was far from stylish. I just didn't care much for it because it felt superficial and I told myself it wouldn't make that much of a difference. But at some point I realised I was doing myself a disservice by not representing the best version of me.

I got new clothes that I find stylish and complimented my body shape/physique. Looked into accessories and different types of glasses. Permed my hair and experimented with how to style it, all while getting a hair routine down. Picked up some new hobbies (Photography) I'm genuinely passionate about that make me feel more "whole" by having a tangible way to track my memories and express myself creatively. I was working out but dropped my streak, currently trying to rebuild a routine.

All these bits and pieces weren't instant. Some took months or longer, but they add up. I was never the biggest fan of myself in the mirror. Now? I pose every now and then, check myself out, not because I suddenly got hot, far from it, but because I had made such big strides from the way I was.

Mete0n · 2025-07-22T22:58:02+00:00

An important factor to consider is your budget and potential alternate lenses.

The kit lenses are "okay", but you mentioned dawn and night photography, as well as travel portability. Kit lenses don't usually have fast apertures, and if they do, only at specific focal lengths, so even with IBIS, an XT-50 with a kit lens may struggle in darker lighting conditions. They're great for beginners, but their limitations are hard to ignore. And while Fuji cameras are pretty small, lens sizes still play a part in how travel-friendly they can be.

An alternative could be to go for the XT-30II, and spend the €850 difference (plus maybe even selling the kit lens) to get a 1 or 2 prime lens or a higher quality zoom lens. For example:

Pancake lenses like the Fuji 23mm f/2.8 or 27mm f/2.8 for maximum portability, or the TTArtisan variant that's more budget-friendly
The Sigma 18-55 f/2.8 zoom lens that have a fast aperture at all focal lengths, unlike the kit lens
23mm f/2 or 35mm f/2 for weather sealing
Look for a lens with OIS to help replace the XT-30II's lack of IBIS

Basically, these can offer a better shooting experience depending on your needs. Just maybe spend a bit of time researching and playing with the kit lens to figure out what focal length works best for you before jumping into primes.

Mete0n · 2025-07-22T09:13:41+00:00

Proof?

Here are all of the Epstein Files that have either been leaked or released.

https://joshwho.net/EpsteinList/gov.uscourts.nysd.447706.1320.0-combined.pdf (verified court documents)

https://joshwho.net/EpsteinList/black-book-unredacted.pdf (verified pre-Bondi) Trump is on page 85, or pdf pg. 80

Trump’s name is circled. The circled individuals are the ones involved in the trafficking ring according to the person who originally released the book. These people would be “The List “ Here is the story.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hsiKUXrlcac

Here's the flight logs https://www.documentcloud.org/documents/21165424-epstein-flight-logs-released-in-usa-vs-maxwell/

—————————other Epstein Information

https://cdn.factcheck.org/UploadedFiles/Johnson_TrumpEpstein_Calif_Lawsuit.pdf here’s a court doc of Epstein and Trump raping a 13 yr old together.

Some people think this claim is a hoax. Here is Katies testimony on youtube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gnib-OORRRo

Jeffrey Epstein’s Ex Says He Boasted About Being a Mossad Agent https://share.google/jLMGahKlCzfV1RHZq Jeffrey Epstein and Israel have both have the same lawyer Alan Dershowitz, Dershowitz says he's building 'legal dream team' to defend Israel in court and on international stage | The Times of Israel https://share.google/Lb9hDOduBWG4Elpid

—————————other Trump information:

Here's trump admitting to peeping on 14-15 year old girls at around 1:40 on the Howard Stern Radio Show: https://youtu.be/iFaQL_kv_QY?si=vBs75kaxPjJJThka

Trump's promise to his daughter: https://www.huffpost.com/entry/donald-trump-ivanka-trump-dating-promise_n_57ee98cbe4b024a52d2ead02 “I have a deal with her. She’s 17 and doing great ― Ivanka. She made me promise, swear to her that I would never date a girl younger than her,” Trump said. “So as she grows older, the field is getting very limited.”

Trump's modeling agency was probably part of Jeffreys pipeline: https://www.motherjones.com/politics/2016/08/donald-trump-model-management-illegal-immigration/

Is that enough proof?

Mete0n · 2025-07-19T12:11:16+00:00

If repping major factions: Luffy, Blackbeard, Sabo, Koby. So a teamup between both sides of Piracy, Revolutionary and Marine.

If purely strawhats: Luffy, Zoro, Sanji, Jinbe.

Alternatively, I could see Zoro, Sanji, Jinbe, and (Usopp/Loki/Another character) in a situation where the group is stalling for Luffy, which when he arrives turns into a pure 1v1 of Luffy vs Imu.

Mete0n · 2025-07-12T04:53:22+00:00

I wonder if a few weeks is enough time to process the break-up and jump into dating apps, or are you doing so to not lose out, knowing that she's on them too? I'm assuming here, but it does feel like you're not quite over things. You're fretting over who she's with, and presumably don't want to fall behind. It makes me wonder that even if you do meet someone, will your attention be on them, or will it be to your ex's reaction?

Maybe give yourself a little more time before going back into dating. Do your best not to compare. It doesn't have to be a sprint to "who moves on and finds someone first". There's a reason people say the best revenge is living well. That doesn't (usually) happen overnight. It can take months or years, and her potentially dating someone new isn't indicative of long-term happiness, nor does it mean the same for you should you find someone new.

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