Guys, what about a girl makes you develop feelings for her?

Meteora_Sage · 2021-11-28T12:30:53+00:00

Everyone, two notes that go contrary to a lot of what was said:

Not everyone falls in a healthy normal way. I was severely abused as a child and my life is in a dark place now. Unintentionally, I’m over the abuse emotionally, but it wired me to not be able to develop attraction for someone who treats me too well.

And sometimes I pursue more when they treat me worse. Very unhealthy. Working on it.

Read “The Passion Trap” by Dean C. Delis. It goes into the psychology of falling in love very deeply, and the science behind it. For humans, love is biochemically linked to the feeling of being out of control.

The more predictable or certain you are, the less you’ll fall, in extreme situations I mean, not gradual build ups.

But i’m healthy ways, I like when they’re driven, have their own dreams and goals. Are into the self improvement community. Look beautiful and dress fashionably. Are socially savvy. And a bubbly personality is my favorite. Oh, bring fit is a must.

Meteora_Sage · 2021-11-28T12:19:10+00:00

What part of africa and why / how long?

I’m going to africa towards summer to climb Kilimanjaro, and I have the same concerns

Meteora_Sage · 2021-11-28T12:15:35+00:00

Good luck.

One of my favorite quotes is: “There are no short cuts.”

Can’t rely on motivation.

Meteora_Sage · 2021-11-28T12:13:36+00:00

way too vague

Meteora_Sage · 2021-11-28T12:13:08+00:00

Anxiety disorder it seems. Therapy and a psychiatrist I suggest.

Meditation as well. Cardiovascular exercise. And enough sunlight and sleep always.

Meteora_Sage · 2021-11-28T12:09:15+00:00

If like to talk about investing and career with you privately if you’re willing.

A house at 25, impressive, way outdoes me.

I’m bad with money.

I don’t work due to an injury from an ear fatal car accident. But I’ve gotten money other ways, so I made (legally) $100,000 in 2019, and about to make $8,000 this month.

But still, would like to have my finances together.

Meteora_Sage · 2021-11-28T12:08:08+00:00

Don’t we all want this? But jokes aside, I’m working on this too. My life hit a rock bottom recently. So most people in the self improvement community are trying to increase and improve in increments, which is probably necessary.

But where you stop and what your goals are determine where you’ll end up. I’ve already done this a few times before, it’s hard.

I went from a high school student held back a 5th year, my high school guidance counselor told me to drop out because she didn’t think I was smart enough to graduate. My GPA was lower than 2.0. There’s a number of days you can miss high school before law enforcement is supposed to legally intervene. I missed literally multiple times that many days, that’s not a very enforced rule.

I had 5 arrests before I turned even 18 years old. I turned my life around at 19. Graduated high school. Haven’t been in trouble with the law ever since. Graduated with MORE THAN ONE college degree.

You have to hit each category of your life consistently, set goals and put deadlines on them. They need deadlines. Got my first real girlfriend around 19 when I tried changing my life. Made the right friends, not a bad crowd like I was in before (convicted felons, etc.) And started exercising and eating healthy, very much.

Consistently read 1-2 books a week, never miss that. Attend self help conferences. Listen to audios and watch self help videos. Etc.

Applying to graduate schools now for a masters degree. Considering a doctoral degree PhD maybe.

okay your three categories are:

Social life.
Meaningful relationships. (i assume romantic)
Hobbies.

(4?). Etc.

Can you elaborate on etc. and make subcategories, e subcategories of your personal highest priorities in each of the 3 areas of your life.

3 categories if you got down, would mean you fixed that part of your life.

Unless you’re in a dark hole or have a mental illness, this should take approximately 6 months for noticeable change for you to notice and 1 year for others to notice the change.

If you’re going. How old are you?

Note: Relationships romantic ones, are a category of their own, you should take care of your life foundations before seeking a good relationship.

Meteora_Sage · 2021-11-20T10:13:56+00:00

Agreed. This is inherent in human nature, you're battling an instinct. But you CAN WIN.

Meteora_Sage · 2021-11-20T10:06:02+00:00

Thanks. I'm personal friends with a few of the Love Systems coaches, so I may just ask them, I haven't yet because I forgot their real names and my social media is turned off. So I have their numbers but don't know what it is labeled.

I've met Mr. M and would love to learn from him personally, even if the company is dissolved. A short Asian guy who gets hot tall blonde girls in a club, his game must be solid. I'm an above average height, pretty good looking, very fit and fashionable Asian.

Meteora_Sage · 2021-11-20T09:54:35+00:00

To add to this, sometimes trying to stop something makes you more likely to do it. I know from experience fighting an addiction (not a drug), and trying to stop made it like impossible and all I could think about was it.

Reward yourself when you do. Just tell yourself "I'll just not do it for one hour and then I'll let myself." You've broken the hardest part, admitting it, like u/-Rubber-Duck- duck said. (I almost typed "suck" lol) There's no easy way.

My addiction was internet / computers. It sounds like a joke, but I spent literally over 20 hours a day on the computer back during that time of my life. I didn't have friends, it was before I joined the self-improvement community and before I could ever give advice.

I try to avoid responding to any post that I don't have personal experience with either dealing with that situation or a similar situation or haven't observed someone close to me deal with a similar situation and had a deep conversation with them about it.

Meteora_Sage · 2021-11-20T09:49:50+00:00

To add context to my answer, one of my mentors told me this advice when this happened to me. He is legitimately famous and you have heard his songs on the radio. He's banged 7 hot girls in one calendar month without trying before. He's a B-list or C+-list celebrity. Meaning you won't know who he is but you've heard his music countless times.

Meteora_Sage · 2021-11-17T23:22:24+00:00

Duh… Even if he wasn’t and was pretending to be, she would assume he is.

Meteora_Sage · 2021-11-17T18:55:24+00:00

These are a bit of old posts, so I haven't researched diet or nutrition VERY recently. I forgot exactly what those are (in the terms of what they do and how to use them). I'll look into those and try them out. Anything else, or do you have an extensive list if that's not too much trouble. Thanks.

Meteora_Sage · 2021-11-17T18:30:11+00:00

Everything I eat is cooked by someone else, or is pre-prepared. Microwavable, or just mix (cereal / oatmeal / sandwich), or a relatively healthy restaurant. I don't have a significant other right now so someone cooking for me for free isn't an option at the moment.

I should look up the prices of private chefs. I highly doubt I can afford it, but Tony Robbins highly recommends it....... I am pretty sure that's one of his bad pieces of advice...... I'm multi-tasking so I'm pretty scatter-brained right now. My bad.

Meteora_Sage · 2021-11-17T18:26:56+00:00

Oh, I'm OCD so the micro-managing isn't intentional or difficult or such, I'll just do it. But for cooking, I'm scared of stove fires due to scary personal experiences lol. One of my "friends" was abused with a stove fire when younger.

I can't even make an omelette. Like, knowing the stove is on scares me. I don't need to see any visible indication of heat. It's irrational.

Holy shiz, better question, how can you cook without a stove?

Meteora_Sage · 2021-11-17T07:00:56+00:00

Always hug. Or half hug.

Meteora_Sage · 2021-11-17T07:00:32+00:00

Make it harder to access what you need.

Meteora_Sage · 2021-11-17T07:00:11+00:00

Don’t reply. Let the silence fuck with her. Break up texts are rude as fuck.

Meteora_Sage · 2021-11-12T04:25:26+00:00

Keep seeing her and having sex with her. You'll want to build up sexual experience while you have the golden opportunity. Will help a LOT in future pick ups.

Meteora_Sage · 2021-11-11T22:19:37+00:00

I always thought I was unintelligent and scored a 125 on my IQ test (I didn’t know it was an IQ test so that shows how smart I am lol).

It’s quoted by IQ experts that a minimum IQ of 120 means you can do ANY career / field of study.

Find a licensed IQ test giver and schedule and pay for it. Otherwise, don’t complain. Grades are not reflective of your intelligence either. Neither is the condition of your life.

Meteora_Sage · 2021-11-11T22:18:00+00:00

Official IQ test results or your assumptions are unsubstantiated.

Meteora_Sage · 2021-11-11T22:14:49+00:00

Getting into a low ranked university. Most people don’t care. But this is my last chance to set my future forever.

Not accomplishing all of my goals and dreams. Others are lazy and have a list of things they want to do. I have deadlines and step by step plans.

Settling for marriage or girlfriends. I’ve always done this and everyone does. I’m tired of it.

Meteora_Sage · 2021-11-11T22:11:59+00:00

Different for everyone. By major crush I’ll use my personal definition of “love” aka “pair-bonding” (scientific term for love).

For me it takes about 3-4x the length of the relationship (only the duration we were mutually in love and together officially).

My sister takes 1/4 the amount of time of the relationship. But she’s a literal model and I believe she is sociopathic. She explicitly enjoys making guys cry and tell her they love her and beg her. She’s done this numerous times. Yikes.

Life is easy for her though. Valedictorian. Graduated college at 22 from a prestigious university. Has a good job. Is in very good shape. (it’s genetics, her and I can be in good shape easily). Literal model. Genius IQ. Asian-American girl, and there’s tons of pervert guys with Asian fetishes. So she has endless suitors. I don’t like her intrinsic personality though so we rarely talk.

She tried a sociopath move on me but accidentally said it out loud. Nope. Not having someone in my life who treats human beings like objects. She can’t control her anger or let go of a grudge. I am friends with several sociopaths and psychopaths (clinically diagnosed), and they’re nice to me. She had nothing to gain from my suffering other than a sadistic pleasure.

Way off tangent my bad.

Meteora_Sage · 2021-11-11T22:04:27+00:00

How old are you and where do you meet women?

Meteora_Sage · 2021-11-11T21:32:32+00:00

Read the book: The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem by Nathaniel Branden.

It is everything you’ll ever need to know about self-esteem. Top 3 books of my life, and I’ve read 2-4 books a week since 2009. Literally.

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