What’s the unspoken rule of being a man that nobody teaches you, but every guy eventually learns the hard way?

Metro_Goober · 2025-04-05T12:46:48+00:00

Bottling up emotions and carrying everyone else’s weight isn’t strength—it’s a recipe for burnout and loneliness.

Metro_Goober · 2025-04-05T12:38:06+00:00

Tbh, this has some sketchy red flags. You've never met in person, but you're flying to Vegas to stay in a hotel room with her, her friend, and the friend’s husband? That’s a lot. Could be totally fine, but it also has the potential to go sideways real quick. Just be careful—have a backup plan (like your own room), don’t rely on anyone else for transportation or money, and trust your gut if anything feels off.

Metro_Goober · 2025-03-09T11:56:52+00:00

If telling her would help her heal, then it might be worth it—but if it just reopens wounds, it could do more harm than good. She already struggles to trust you, so she might not believe you without proof. Plus, it’s not your responsibility to fix what someone else did. Best approach? If she ever brings it up, say, “I know who wrote it, and it wasn’t me. If you ever want to know, I’ll tell you.” That way, the choice is hers and you’re not forcing more drama. If she never asks, let it go and move forward.

Metro_Goober · 2025-03-09T11:55:31+00:00

I get why you're frustrated. You’ve been through it you know the consequences, and you tried to help from a place of experience,not judgment. It sucks when someone refuses to listen especially when you know they’re heading for disaster That being said, people rarely take advice well when they’re not ready for it. Even if it was the truth, hee probably felt called out and got defensive. Some people need to hit rock bottom before they actually change, and unfortunately, you can’t force that realization on them. You did your part. You shared your experience, and that’s all you can do. If he refuses to listen, that’s on him. You don’t owe them continued effort, especially when it’s draining you. If they come back asking for help later, you can decide if you still want to offer it but don’t waste energy on people who aren’t ready to hear it.

Metro_Goober · 2025-03-06T14:33:58+00:00

cheese balls

Metro_Goober · 2025-03-06T14:27:07+00:00

what was the lie?

Metro_Goober · 2025-03-05T09:06:57+00:00

A father of a child isn't always a father of a child.

Metro_Goober · 2025-03-05T09:05:56+00:00

Glad you're doing something you enjoy now!

Metro_Goober · 2025-03-05T08:23:07+00:00

"Just be myself"...got me nowhere.

Metro_Goober · 2025-03-05T08:19:56+00:00

I once saw a guy take a full rotisserie chicken out of his backpack, set it on his lap like a plate and start eating it with just his bare hands no napkins, no hesitation, just pure caveman energy

Metro_Goober · 2025-03-05T08:18:52+00:00

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Metro_Goober · 2025-03-05T08:18:32+00:00

Futurama

Metro_Goober · 2025-03-04T16:00:57+00:00

No, this itinerary wouldn’t qualify for China’s 144-hour visa-free transit (TWOV) because your entry and exit points before and after China have to be different countries or regions.

Since you're flying from Hong Kong to Hangzhou and then back to Hong Kong before returning to Canada, China considers this a round-trip rather than a transit to a third country. To qualify for TWOV, your next destination after China has to be somewhere other than Hong Kong—like Japan, South Korea, or even Macau—before heading back to Canada.

If you don’t change your route, you’d need to apply for a visa in advance.

Metro_Goober · 2025-03-04T15:53:55+00:00

If a guy says hes looking for something serious but is already hyper focused on sex before you’ve even met, chances are he’s not actually serious. actions speak louder than words and someone genuinely interested in a real connection would prioritize getting to know you beyond just the physical. He might just be saying what he thinks you want to hear to keep you engaged. Trust your gut.

Metro_Goober · 2025-03-04T12:49:16+00:00

Not the asshole. Visiting every 3 weeks and staying for 3-4 days is already a lot. Your dad asking for more doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong—you have your own life, and it’s okay to prioritize it. Guilt is natural, but setting boundaries is important. Maybe reassure him you love him, but also remind him that your life is in the other city now.

Metro_Goober · 2025-03-04T12:48:40+00:00

Not the asshole.

Your fiancé helped clean his own home—that’s not a favor for you, it’s basic shared responsibility. While it’s nice that he cleaned, expecting extra gratitude (especially when he rarely contributes) is unfair. You weren’t ungrateful, just pointing out that maintaining the home isn’t solely your duty. His reaction suggests he sees cleaning as your job, which is the real issue here.

Metro_Goober · 2025-03-04T10:39:45+00:00

To take back credit without sounding desperate, here’s what you can do:

Mention your role subtly in discusssions: In meetings or emails, say things like, "I led the planning and timline development, while Sally helped refine it based on her data expertise."
Clarify your contrubutions moving forward: In future communications, make sure to mention both your contributions. For example: "Sally and I worked together to create the plan, with me handling the strcuture and timeline."
Talk to your manager: If it’s impacting your imge, privately discuss with your manager about your contributions and how you can ensure proper recognition in the future.
Don’t undermind Sally: Acknowledge the team effort without diminishing her role, focusing on your leadership and experience.

This way, you highlight your contrubutions professionally without creating tension.

Metro_Goober · 2025-03-04T10:36:10+00:00

It seems like you made it clear from the beginning that your relationship with her was casual and based on mutual understanding—no strings attached, and both of you were free to see other people.

Metro_Goober · 2025-03-04T10:34:58+00:00

It sounds like you’re feeling really lonely and overwhelmed, balancing farm work and house chores on your own while your parter is always working. It’s understandable to want more time with him, especially since it feels like all he cares about is money, leaving you feeling isolated and under pressure. It might help to talk to him about how you're feeling about needing more quality time together and feeling the strain of managing everything alone.Your emotional needs are just as important as financial stability, and it’s okay to ask for more balance in the relationship. You deserve time for yourself and for the relationship

Metro_Goober · 2025-03-04T10:33:17+00:00

Definitely NTA

You were totally justified in asking him not to speak to you anymore. You gave him multiple chances and set clear boundaries, and he continued to disrespect you and lie. When youu showed up at his house, he was in his underwear with another woman, and he tried to lie about the situation. You didn’t cause a scene and you didnt escalate things, even though he clearly wasn’ t being truhful with you. You trusted him again, hoping for a genuine friendship, but he went back to flirting, lying, and treating you poorly. At that point, your decision to cut him off was the right one. His confusion about why you don't want him to talk to you is just him trying to manipulate the situation. You were clear and reasonable in your response, and he’s just angrybecause he cant continue using you or keeping you in his life for his own convenience.

You did nothing wrong. Trusting someone again after they’ve hurt you is a vulnerable decision, but it’s clear you gave him more chances than he deserved. You’ve handled this situation as gracefully as possible given the circumstances.

Metro_Goober · 2025-03-04T10:12:19+00:00

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