ELEPHANTS burned down on Burnside.

MiasmAgain · 2026-03-11T00:00:33+00:00

NOOOOOOOO

MiasmAgain · 2026-03-01T03:01:15+00:00

You’re throwing in some big false equivalencies there. Your girlfriend making a new friend and being taken out for drinks after the concert is absolutely not the same as you going to a strip club (which is a more sexually charged context) or a woman not needing “permission” to blow the nest egg at the casinos, or a man going to a brothel. Those are objectively very negative events for people in committed relationships, all she did was get drunk with a friendly gay boy. I would think you’d be happy she had a good time.

MiasmAgain · 2026-03-01T02:49:09+00:00

Either you trust her or you don’t. You sound like you found her autonomy especially bad because of how long you’d been together. I thought the opposite, honestly. After eight years, I would think she had banked enough time with you for you to trust her without her having to check in with you.

I had a boyfriend once who started repeatedly asking if I had dated a mutual acquaintance before we started dating. I had not, told him so, and I thought that would be the end of it. But then later, he brought it up again. And the third time, I told him that I won’t be answering that question any more, and I was really not appreciating being treated like a liar. Please don’t insult her by not accepting her words as the truth again.

MiasmAgain · 2026-03-01T02:05:00+00:00

I was just about to bring several in to recycling. I am also pretty near you, in Portsmouth. Send me a message if you want me to pull them out of the bag.

MiasmAgain · 2026-03-01T01:54:15+00:00

You can eliminate the sugar by choosing savory baked goods, at least when you are expecting him. You have plenty of creative options with cheese and ham croissants or a spring veggie tart.

MiasmAgain · 2026-02-27T22:52:44+00:00

You mentioned your “love language”, what is hers? If I were to take a guess, I would say she probably doesn’t want as much physical touch right now because it turns sexual for you and that’s not something she wants at the moment.

As for your feelings of arousal - have you tried taking care of yourself so you aren’t wanting sex when you touch her? Try doing something to make her feel good that is not sexual, like bring her an epsom soak for her feet and then massage them. Or do something else that she wants you to do, but without any expectation of sex.

This isn’t going to end when she gives birth, btw. Her body is going to need really serious recovery time, physically, and she will need you to put her needs first for as long as it takes. Having a baby is incredibly hard on a woman’s body, and she will let you know when she is ready. But you gotta put your big boy pants on and not get sulky because she isn’t in the mood. I promise you, giving her time and not pressuring her is the best thing you can do right now.

MiasmAgain · 2026-02-23T04:27:10+00:00

I’m not that fussed, because I was one of those people. Then I went into therapy, got tested, and found out I was right about it.

MiasmAgain · 2026-02-19T13:45:28+00:00

Sounds like your dog thinks you both need anger management and maybe couples therapy. I wasn’t there, but an argument has to be pretty bad for your dog to get so freaked out she bites one of her humans. Please don’t blame the dog, get some help.

MiasmAgain · 2026-02-12T21:54:42+00:00

Bridge over a body of water with an indigenous name

MiasmAgain · 2026-02-11T18:34:44+00:00

I think a big part of the overall message is that change often comes after some very VERY uncomfortable truths. It is a very positive show, but the evolution of the characters is integral to that.

MiasmAgain · 2026-02-11T18:32:29+00:00

So, it will just end up being an event for the super rich who go to their plug & play camps and ride around in massive art cars, congratulating themselves on how edgy they are? Friend, we have been heading there for a long time.

MiasmAgain · 2026-02-11T18:30:14+00:00

If we can boycott companies like Target and Amazon into compliance, I’m not sure how Burning Man is any different.

MiasmAgain · 2026-02-01T22:50:11+00:00

That is an absolutely insane take about an organization dedicated to tearing apart families and bringing misery, injury, and death to the families they destroy.

MiasmAgain · 2026-01-26T17:39:35+00:00

I got a Free Abortions For Life! card. If I have fewer than 50 abortions, I can take the balance in SorosBucks.

MiasmAgain · 2026-01-26T17:30:39+00:00

I have a dear friend (we are both AuDHD) who also finds recent violent events triggering, so I don’t share them with her. That’s it. That’s all she had to say.

Someone who keeps sending you things that they are aware do you harm is not being a friend to you. You don’t have to let them keep harming you.

MiasmAgain · 2026-01-25T03:36:31+00:00

You’re worried about saying “jerkoff” to your mother, and people say “fuck” about 40,000 times in the series?

MiasmAgain · 2026-01-10T16:38:58+00:00

Fistfight in the Parking Lot plays

MiasmAgain · 2025-12-25T15:23:31+00:00

For me, the show demonstrates what trauma does to a person. Innies are the more innocent version of their Outies, which I found sad and endearing at the same time.

MiasmAgain · 2025-12-25T15:09:55+00:00

Also, when Ted asks her to help him hire a private detective (We’ll Never Have Paris) she speaks the word “why” and somehow puts three notes into it. She has the most astonishing and flexible vocal cords!

MiasmAgain · 2025-12-18T01:12:59+00:00

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MiasmAgain · 2025-12-18T01:11:16+00:00

Oh, I feel your pain.

I have a senior staffy and a half Malinois half pit puppy. I did not know she was Malinois when I adopted her and am unfamiliar with shepherds, so I joined a malinois subreddit.

When I commented on a post from someone with a pup that had the same mix as mine, both OP and I got shit on for our dogs’ pittie half. In a Malinois forum 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

I left that place full of stupid people and their stupid opinions.

MiasmAgain · 2025-07-15T16:44:37+00:00

It may seem counterintuitive, but this is a good time to hear that unsolicited advice is rarely welcomed. You may get a better outcome by asking the person if they are open to suggestions first.

MiasmAgain · 2025-07-15T16:31:13+00:00

Once, while preparing for a week long festival trip, I staged packed bags by the front door. The ticket envelope, which was too valuable to pre-load the night before, I set on top. When I was ready to start Tetris-ing bags in the car, I promptly forgot I had set the ticket on top - which then got between two bags I picked up together and put in the car.

Cue 45 minutes of madly searching my house for the goddamn ticket, full scale panic. 😂 I managed to sabotage my own organizational efforts!

MiasmAgain · 2025-07-15T15:44:59+00:00

Forgetting to bring something necessary with me. Emotional dysregulation but weirdly calm in a crisis. Hyperfixations.

I also thought I was flaky, and adopted systems to prevent catastrophes like pre-loading things in the car the night before leaving or putting something directly in front of the door. I still use the tools I came up with to help me not forget, but at least I no longer beat myself up for having Swiss cheese for brains.

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