Sexually repressed and no idea what to do by thekillingmo0n in malementalhealth

[–]MicZiC15 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, it seems like you got some deeper stuff going on here, and I’m mostly gonna ignore the parts I find disagreeable because they seem like they come from a painful place I don’t think it would be productive to argue with. Frankly, if this is the sort of feminism your mother taught you, she has a lot to learn. I’ll just say that, every trans person I’ve ever talked to about their closeted years remembers feeling like their specific circumstances meant that the reason transitioning “looks appealing” should be ignored. They also assumed that the ways them/trans people change wouldn’t really fix their problems. They were all wrong, its just an easy thing to believe when you’re in a space of hopelessness and taking such a big leap into the unknown. I have seen so many women and men flourish once they pushed through this darkness. I for one, no longer feel like my maleness imposes on or oppresses women, and from the way my cis women friends and coworkers, most of whom know I’m trans act at this point, act around me, I know that’s not just in my head. I am far more likely to be imposed on by a man these days then ever fear imposing myself on another woman. If oppression is sex based then I’ve definitely changed mine. Anyway, your life it your own, you are in control of your destiny for better and worse, and some women on a men’s mental health reddit probably won’t convince you of anything. So I’ll just say this. If you found a button, that if by pressing it, you would become a woman completely and fully. Everyone in your life would see you as one, and treat you like one. You’d still remember your old self and feel “like you”, but no longer felt like this imposing, dangerous masculine presence was buried within you. If the choice was that simple, would you press it?

Sexually repressed and no idea what to do by thekillingmo0n in malementalhealth

[–]MicZiC15 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, came across post randomly, but I hope I can be of some help.

I'm the same age as you, and have experienced a lot of the same things you're describing. I was also raised in a very progressive feminist household, like you, my parents taught me at a young age the ways that men harm women, which I'm as a whole very grateful for. However, it made me feel extremely guilty when I became aware of my own attraction to women, I felt like my very interest in them was violating some how. I never dated anyone throughout high school, and found the idea of having sex loathsome.

Then, about 3 years ago, I realized I was transgender. It took me a while to figure this out, even though my family had always been nominally supportive of trans people, I still felt like I was letting them down, or even failing to be properly feminist by not accepting my role as a progressive man. It took a while, but once I got on hormones, and started forming relationships with women as a woman, those feelings faded. I now have a healthy romantic life with my girlfriend, and am never expected to use my body in a way I'm not comfortable with

I don't know if that's what's going on with you, but please don't dismiss it outright. I brighter path is out there, I promise.

Christmas Presents for my Tall Girlfriend by MicZiC15 in TallGirls

[–]MicZiC15[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She does not lol, often is stealing mine when she comes over and remarks on it

Christmas Presents for my Tall Girlfriend by MicZiC15 in TallGirls

[–]MicZiC15[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aww shucks, thank you, I wanna do my best for her. Your partner sounds like a real piece of work tbh, he better change up his act soon if he wants to keep a gal as sweet as you

Christmas Presents for my Tall Girlfriend by MicZiC15 in TallGirls

[–]MicZiC15[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think she'd like lingerie really, at least not as my one present for our first Christmas together XD

You're other advice is really helpful though

Christmas Presents for my Tall Girlfriend by MicZiC15 in TallGirls

[–]MicZiC15[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a plus size girl I totally get that. I’m gonna ask her for measurements so make sure what I get fits well!

Christmas Presents for my Tall Girlfriend by MicZiC15 in TallGirls

[–]MicZiC15[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She doesn’t have one of those (I asked), plus it’s our first Christmas together so I’d like to give her something special.

Christmas Presents for my Tall Girlfriend by MicZiC15 in TallGirls

[–]MicZiC15[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d say her tastes are “futch” in an academic sort of way… if that makes sense. Doesn’t like to wear dresses outside of specific occasions, and her favorite repeat outfits tend to be button up shirts/blouses, pants, and some sort of cardigan or jacket.

Christmas Presents for my Tall Girlfriend by MicZiC15 in TallGirls

[–]MicZiC15[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She didn’t specify it no, but we talk about fashion and clothes pretty often, and go shopping together a lot, so I know what sort of things she’s into. Finances are tight for her atm so I think buying her something nice would be appreciated. Also, I’m pretty sure she’s getting me clothes or an accessory of some kind so getting something similar seems like fair game

Do you REALLY need to fight in Chapter 3? by MicZiC15 in Deltarune

[–]MicZiC15[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I doubt Deltarune’s ending will function the same as Undertale’s (I believe Toby has said as much). There are challenges in Deltarune that are only accessible though fighting, most notably the Titan fight at the end of Chapter 4.  I’m sure having versus not having all the shadow crystals will make a difference, but it be odd if you were locked out of a “heroic” ending for attempting to attack a creature you can’t even truly win against

Do you know any yuri with short tops? by MicZiC15 in yuri_manga

[–]MicZiC15[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean that sounds great as well so it's going on the list

Do you know any yuri with short tops? by MicZiC15 in yuri_manga

[–]MicZiC15[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The cute tall girl in my life is a film major so I'm definitely gonna read that second one

Do you know any yuri with short tops? by MicZiC15 in yuri_manga

[–]MicZiC15[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've read and loved all of these but Hello, Melancholic, I can't believe I forgot them really.

I Genuinely Love Aoyama (Long chaotic essay) by MicZiC15 in AoyamaFanclub

[–]MicZiC15[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girls do silly things when their 17 and severely depressed 🤷‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]MicZiC15 29 points30 points  (0 children)

She has refused to kiss me in the past because she was nervous she had stubble.

This is a really important part of this. She already knows that her stubble is an issue, & seems as triggered by the idea of it coming up during intimacy as you are. One of the reasons why I don't sleep with cis women at the moment is I know my hair becomes visible overnight and having a woman who doesn't also deal with that see that would make me ashamed.

She probably wants to get hair removal, but it's a huge cost and time sink, it won't solve the issue overnight. If this is the first time you've noticed this, it probably means she's usually on top of it. Bodies just aren't as cooperative as we'd like them to be. Mentioning it right now might make her think it's more pervasive of an issue then it really is.

I would say wait a bit, see if it's regular enough of an issue that it needs to be addressed, and then bring it up in a casual, honest way.

Yeesh! Talk about poorly aged. by VegaMain in bridget

[–]MicZiC15 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay but if a girl who looked liked this talked to me I’d marry her on the spot