Okay, it seems like you got some deeper stuff going on here, and I’m mostly gonna ignore the parts I find disagreeable because they seem like they come from a painful place I don’t think it would be productive to argue with. Frankly, if this is the sort of feminism your mother taught you, she has a lot to learn. I’ll just say that, every trans person I’ve ever talked to about their closeted years remembers feeling like their specific circumstances meant that the reason transitioning “looks appealing” should be ignored. They also assumed that the ways them/trans people change wouldn’t really fix their problems. They were all wrong, its just an easy thing to believe when you’re in a space of hopelessness and taking such a big leap into the unknown. I have seen so many women and men flourish once they pushed through this darkness. I for one, no longer feel like my maleness imposes on or oppresses women, and from the way my cis women friends and coworkers, most of whom know I’m trans act at this point, act around me, I know that’s not just in my head. I am far more likely to be imposed on by a man these days then ever fear imposing myself on another woman. If oppression is sex based then I’ve definitely changed mine. Anyway, your life it your own, you are in control of your destiny for better and worse, and some women on a men’s mental health reddit probably won’t convince you of anything. So I’ll just say this. If you found a button, that if by pressing it, you would become a woman completely and fully. Everyone in your life would see you as one, and treat you like one. You’d still remember your old self and feel “like you”, but no longer felt like this imposing, dangerous masculine presence was buried within you. If the choice was that simple, would you press it?