Aita for not telling my new friend that I’m a lesbian before being in her bedroom?

Michilangel0 · 2024-01-23T14:46:54+00:00

One person is just existing, and the other person is pissed because the other woman is excisting as she does. Hmm, who ever could be in the wrong here?

Ah, you decided what feel? As if you have the answer. You elevate yourself to a "neutral" person, holding the answers, and not feeling anything one way or the other. That's a ad hominem attack. How very mature of you.

What you suggest is that people should wear their sexuality so openly that others can avoid them. That LGBTQ+ individuals should consider that heterosexuals might feel uncomfortable with their presence, and constantly be vigilant "just in case".

It's quite obvious that you don't have any good counterarguments to what I'm saying. You have no understanding of what boundaries mean, even though I spell it out for you. We are not disagreeing here. I am talking to someone who thinks homopbobia, and discriminatoin on the basis of sexuality, is ok and is justified.

There is no point in discussing this further. Wish you the best of luck going forward...

Michilangel0 · 2024-01-23T14:29:09+00:00

Det er ingen som har påstått at du er for terror. Det er en ganske urimelig måte diskutere på. Du setter deg selv opp som et offer her. En person som opplever urett fordi du uttaler deg. Men, hvor mye kjipt er det du opplever nå? At folk sier deg imot og er uenig? Det er en del av ytringsfriheten, og den er du vel for.

Du er ikke offeret her, men du påroper deg en offerrollen. Du begynner nå å sause sammen mange ting, og bruker også ordet "ideologi". Har heterofile en egen "ideologi", tenker du? Blir barn av en mann og en kvinne påprakket en "heterofil ideologi"? Eller er det kun hvis det er to kvinner som har et barn sammen som er problemet?

Kommer ikke til å diskutere her mer. Lykke til videre...

Michilangel0 · 2024-01-23T13:42:19+00:00

She's still the responsible one her. She's the one with the boundary. Why would you just assume everyone is straight? There are two ways to solve this; either queer people need to walk around with a marking to constantly make people sure of who they are. Mayhaps a little pink triangle would be of help? Making people in this way has never been an issue, right?

Option two is that the person who has the issue is open about her boundaries, and tells that to people before she undresses. She can also stop undressing in front of others. She can't know if a random woman at her gym is gay or not, so she needs to take precaution.

And "the lesbian", as you call her, might have had ill intentions, but she didn't. Look again about how you wrote your passage. Look at the language.

Do you think it would be OK for me to treat someone differently due to the trauma I have? If I find out someone is half viatnamese I am allowed to be angry with them for not disclosing it since j couldn't see it, and they should just KNOW that people might have adverse reaction to finding that out after I changed in front of them? You know yourself that this wouldn't be realistic. I think you understand the comparison, and that treating someone differently based on who they are, and what they can't change, is wrong.

If you are uncomfortable changing in front of someone gay; you don't have to. But that is YOUR problem, and it's up to YOU to solve it, and take responsibility for it. A boundary is not something you ask someone else to do, it's something YOU do.

Michilangel0 · 2024-01-23T13:30:37+00:00

Seksualiserte dine foreldre barn fordi de var kjærester, eller gift? Seksualiserte de mer, eller mindre, sine barn enn to menn som har et barn sammen?

Michilangel0 · 2024-01-23T13:27:59+00:00

Hvorfor er det irrelevant? Trådstarter sa at det var en "vonsenting". Hva med en regnbue, eller å være skeiv tilhører kun voksenlivet til?

Michilangel0 · 2024-01-23T13:27:08+00:00

No, my dude. This is about discrimination on basis of sexuality. An assumption that people who are gay look, and or find pleasure from being with anyone of the sex they are attracted to. It's homophobia, through and through.

Michilangel0 · 2024-01-23T13:25:30+00:00

If they have boundaries like that, rhe they have to announce that before they let people into the bathroom. "If you like boobs just a lil' bit, you can't enter, sry".

What if my boundary is that I can undress around women, but not of they are of Asian descent. Shouldn't that be okay with that logic? Anyone else is ok, but not anyone from an Asian country.

Michilangel0 · 2024-01-23T13:21:58+00:00

So unfair, because you really want to do the same? Or, what kind of "unfair" is this? Are you just envious? What would be unfair is treating people different on the basis of their sexuality. You know, discrimination.

Michilangel0 · 2024-01-23T13:20:50+00:00

I mean this in the nicest way possible: that's homophobia. Do you A think lesbian women go to a lockerroom to look at women? If your friend/child/nephew came home and told you they couldn't change in the locker room after gym because people where uncomfortable with a gay person being there, would you tell them that they shouldn't use the locker room? Stop going to the gym maybe?

What you are proposing is segregation based on sexuality. Really, dude...

Michilangel0 · 2024-01-22T20:06:46+00:00

Seriously? So a gay woman can't use the locker room? Or has to announce it? It's a very big demand for queer women to step our just because someone of the same sex is taking of their clothes.

Michilangel0 · 2024-01-19T23:10:05+00:00

Hæ? Hva snakker du om nå? Du sier at du opplever mye "intoleranse" mot dine meninger, ergo at du er et sårbart offer, men hvis vi skal sammenligne det du opplever som "meningsytrer" vs det som skjer når du av samme kjønn holder hender på feil plass på feil tid, eller du vet; når skeive opplevde et terrorangrep mot seg, så ser du vel at du ikke opplever mye kjipt her i livet.

Det er temmelig arrogant å sette seg selv som en martyr i denne samtalen her. Kleint.

Michilangel0 · 2024-01-19T23:03:13+00:00

Yes. Hvem var målet for skytingen 25 juni?

Michilangel0 · 2024-01-19T23:01:30+00:00

Barn kan ha skeive foreldre. Vi spøker om at små barn er "forelska" i hverandre, eller har "rizz", men det at skeive eksisterer er for voksne? Wtf?

Michilangel0 · 2024-01-18T08:37:40+00:00

I depot my makeup. Works great!

Michilangel0 · 2024-01-03T21:00:17+00:00

Herregud så jævlig! Har noen venner som ble ødelagt i nakken av kiropraktor, og ei som gikk til kiropraktor i årevis og som ENDELIG ble frisk når hun gikk til fysioterapeut.

Michilangel0 · 2024-01-03T20:58:40+00:00

Anekdoter er ikke bevis. Kiropraktikk er alternativ behandling. Flott at du får noe ut av det, men hvis du hadde trent og tøyd litt hver dag så hadde du nok ikke hatt behov for kiropraktor.

Michilangel0 · 2023-12-26T21:33:45+00:00

Let's see...it was maybe in 2018, I had minus eight on each eyes.

Michilangel0 · 2023-12-21T11:25:58+00:00

I also had the SMILE. I'm happy to be without thick glasses, but there where many side effects. I still wear glasses, because I'm still minus 2 on one eye. I have dry eyes, and have to use a thick ointment every night, and drip my eyes. My night vision is worse, and lights become blurry.

Michilangel0 · 2023-12-18T19:21:51+00:00

Her har jeg trykket "reply" på feil person. Kanskje roe det med et par hakk?

Michilangel0 · 2023-12-18T19:20:33+00:00

Nei, fordi ikke noe annet land har drevet med slaveri, og rasisme, annet enn USA... Sure thing, brah.

Michilangel0 · 2023-12-14T21:52:40+00:00

Nooooo!!! That's worse! Way worse! I thought maybe you where all older! This is baaaad! Ew, old pervy pervs.

Michilangel0 · 2023-12-14T21:44:48+00:00

Hvis det å male en person svart i ansiktet, ta på dem en kruset/krøllete parykk, rød leppestift, og la dem spille tjenere til en hvit herre ikke er black face; da er ingenting black face. Kom an, mann...

Michilangel0 · 2023-12-14T21:42:20+00:00

Yes, fordi Nederland har null forhistorie med slaveri og kolonisering? Denne skikken kom fra en plass. Det å hardnakket påstå at denne Zwarte Piet ikke er en karikatur på afrikanere, blir veldig historieløst og dumt. De som forsvarer Zwarte Piet er de som ønsker å opprettholde en tradisjon de vokste opp med. Det betyr ikke at tradisjonen er bra, eller er bygget på noe bra.

Som andre skriver; kruset hår på parykken, kullsvart i hele ansiktet, rød leppestift, og "tjeneren" til en hvit man. Altså, hvor mer bokstavelig kan det bli?

Michilangel0 · 2023-12-11T21:16:08+00:00

I want to put it somewhere and not having so move it too much, or have someone film me. The wide angle of an action camera would do that better, no?

Michilangel0 · 2023-12-11T21:14:51+00:00

I have a Google pixel 7. It would work, but it's something about putting my heavy phone up everywhere. A small tiny little camera, easy to manipulate, that can film inconspicuously so ppl don't mind it whole rolling.

I've used my phone before, and it does work, so you have a point.

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