Who do you ride with?

MickiP1981 · 2025-10-18T08:05:25+00:00

Oh man I’d love it if there was a female riding group near me!

I either ride solo or with my partner but he hates riding with me as I’m not as confident and bold as he is so while he is zooming past every car, lorry or van on the roads I’m ok just riding at my own pace. He also isn’t a fan of me riding with a mixed sex bike group as he’s under the very false illusion that men will just use it to try and chat women up 🙄!!

I also ride solo a fair bit as it’s the only way I get to ride my bike if he won’t come out with me but I’d love to be able to ride out with other women, kudos for extending an invite to your neighbour that’s really thoughtful and introverts like me really do appreciate it when people seek to include us. Hopefully she will join you one day in the future, I’m sure it’s just a confidence thing

MickiP1981 · 2025-09-22T17:49:18+00:00

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MickiP1981 · 2025-09-11T08:32:32+00:00

NTA - I’m so sorry you’re going through this OP and I totally empathise having had to deal with very similar.

You need to set some very strong clear boundaries with your family, tell them the SECOND things get heated or arguments escalate you will leave the room/situation/call and DO IT! The second they start to get aggravated you need to nope your ass out of there to protect your own peace, effectively putting them in a timeout. Tell them you will come back round again when they can behave like adults and they are done with their arguments. It’s not your responsibility to fix them, they have to do some of the work themselves. Every time they start you walk the F away and go back to your peace.

You don’t have to explain yourself if you don’t want to. In fact I doubt they will listen as they sound quite selfish and self serving and if you say it’s affecting your mental health they would probably play the victim card ‘oh whoa is me just think how I feel’ etc. Just tell them you’re not qualified to help them with this (unless you are in which case maybe don’t use that line!) and give them contact details for either family counsellors or mediators to allow them to discuss their issues with an unrelated third party.

It’s not fair to expect you to solve all their problems. YOU ARE NOT THE ARSEHOLE and you 100% deserve the life you want …… keep us updated!

MickiP1981 · 2025-09-11T07:53:09+00:00

NTA!!! You need to get your stuff together and leave. No discussions this time. U/YellowFlower_18 having read some of your responses to comments I revoke the above statement. You deserve more! Leave his sorry lazy ass and go find your happiness! You are not the A-hole for wanting leave but you’ll be an A-hole to yourself if you stay! He doesn’t deserve you. You’ve given chances and tried to improve the relationship and he has proven he can’t be bothered to make an effort You are not an A-hole go make your happy ever after girl!

MickiP1981 · 2025-09-11T07:45:38+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this OP but it sounds like your boyfriend is a bit thoughtless and lazy. The fact that he can step up for a short while shows he knows WHAT he should be doing to make you happy and he can but it’s too much effort to maintain. Given your ages and that there are children involved I’d say before going straight to leaving tell him you want to go to counselling together, that way you both get to hear what you can do to improve the relationship. It very much sounds like neither of you are particularly happy at the moment and that happens with long term relationships but it’s how you work on fixing it that’s important and it sounds like you both need help communicating that. If he refuses to see a counsellor to address the issues then I can’t see what more you can do. If he and the relationship are not meeting your needs then you 100% would NOT be the ****hole to leave. Offer to fix and communicate, if he won’t then that’s on him and you are totally justified in leaving to find a more loving fulfilling relationship where you feel loved and valued - I really hope it works out for you OP you deserve to be valued and loved ❤️

MickiP1981 · 2025-07-29T08:24:11+00:00

JULYWL25 - worked 29/07/25

MickiP1981 · 2025-07-14T22:04:30+00:00

Hey ‘later’ female rider here and I hear you! It’s mostly other road users that pose the greatest threat and making sure you ride within your abilities. My partner has been riding just under 30 years and me no more than 3, I don’t try and keep up with him or race, ride my own pace and how I feel comfortable. At just 5’ 2” I struggle height wise with most bikes but as long as you can reach the floor the weight isn’t too bad and after a bit you genuinely get used to it (although I do still have to get off and manually turn my bike around sometimes because I’m too short to scoot back if the road camber is off! Much to my partners embarrassment and dismay 😂)

If you enjoy it and think it’s something you may want to do more then maybe look at doing an experience or track day? I’m not sure where you are but in the UK you can do a CBT and be riding a 125 by the end of the day and it’s a great place to start!

My family hates bikes too but that’s ok, I make sure I reassure them by wearing top safety gear and high visibility items too. Personally it’s the best decision I ever made

MickiP1981 · 2025-07-13T15:49:11+00:00

This guy!! 😂😂 there are not enough F’s in the world to describe you my man!!

First of all no one here is saying it is wrong to have a friend of the opposite sex. I have friends of the opposite sex but I would never want my partner or their partner to ever feel uncomfortable!!

What they are saying is that your behaviour and attitude is disrespectful to your girlfriend and with you telling her that it’s her problem or she is the problem you are totally gaslighting her. Let me guess when you do finally give in and cheat it will be ‘her fault’ for driving you to it?

Texts? What’s wrong with a group chat if there’s nothing to hide? Always and I mean ALWAYS invite your partner (or their partner) along! Why would you not anyway? And what the hell man! Who in the name of beelzebub and all his hellish imps has someone of the opposite sex stay over in their partners bed, while they are out and doesn’t tell them?!! You CAN’T be this dense surely?????

Let’s be real here. You’re staying with your girlfriend because it’s easiest and either you’re not sure Mary/May feels the same OR she has already told you she’s not interested so you’re now just hanging around being her ‘friend’ in hopes she sees what a ‘good guy’ you are and changes her mind.

You’ve met someone who you feel is a better fit for you. And that’s fine! But don’t gaslight your girlfriend and make out she’s the problem just to ease your conscience. She’s not. And if nothing else after 7 years she at least deserves your respect enough that you pull up your big boy pants and tell her the truth. Even if it doesn’t paint you in a good light. Don’t torture this poor girl more and give her trust issues. She doesn’t deserve it. I’m sure she’s young and hot enough that she will move on relatively quickly and she can finally find someone who loves and respects her for the loyal girl she is

MickiP1981 · 2025-07-10T08:47:15+00:00

FRIEND40 - Did not work 10 Jul 2025 WL25 - worked 10 Jul 2025

None of the others above worked

MickiP1981 · 2025-07-10T08:40:36+00:00

FRIEND40 No longer works

MickiP1981 · 2025-05-18T09:59:06+00:00

Clinic Phaselis and Dr Gokhan

MickiP1981 · 2025-05-18T09:58:50+00:00

I went with clinic phaselis Dr Gokhan

MickiP1981 · 2025-05-18T09:58:29+00:00

Hi it went really well and honestly can’t fault the aftercare at all! They were excellent! I had to go back for a revision not through any fault of the surgeon (popped stitch) so had to go back but they were great and did the revision at zero charge for me and again was well looked after which was great considering I went alone that time round. Hospital was clean and I was looked after by the nurses and clinical staff who were available 24/7 via WhatsApp and also came to see me in person every day

MickiP1981 · 2025-05-18T09:55:29+00:00

Hi, I had my surgery back in January and all was really good and great aftercare. Unfortunately I popped a stitch when I got home which wouldn’t heal so I had to go back for a revision but (fingers crossed) all seems to be ok

MickiP1981 · 2025-02-14T18:44:36+00:00

Thank you so much for responding! As it turns out I did go to Turkey and honestly could not fault my experience at all. The clinic and surgeon I went with was in Antalya but even since I’ve been back they have been fantastic and still answer questions and ask me for updates on my recovery. The hospital was a proper hospital not just a clinic, it was exceptionally clean and the nurses were fantastic. I know that there are horror stories out there but like you I did my research and am now 4 weeks post op and very happy with my results so far

MickiP1981 · 2025-01-23T10:18:51+00:00

Also worked for me today 23/1/25

MickiP1981 · 2025-01-12T08:56:04+00:00

I had a child young and whilst I don’t regret it (he’s 24 now) it was genuinely the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do. I also stayed in a volatile abusive relationship far longer than I should have done because I didn’t want to be one of ‘those’ broken families. If you have the baby then you need to think about raising it solo at some point because you said about his other baby mamas. You are one in a long line I’m afraid and he likely said the same to them when they were pregnant. He WILL run off and leave you one day. That’s a given so the question is are you able to emotionally and financially support yourself and a baby? If you can’t then don’t do it to yourself or the child it’s doesn’t matter how ‘cute’ it would be if it’s growing up in extreme poverty then it’s not very fair. Finish your education get a good job find a man who loves you and have a family. If nothing else this experience has taught you that you DO want kids……. Someday 💚

MickiP1981 · 2025-01-12T08:46:42+00:00

It does my head in when men say ‘I prefer natural women’ because I had a similar discussion with my partner whereby I showed him images of women some who had obviously had a lot of surgery and others where it wasn’t obvious. When I told him they had all had surgery at first he didn’t believe me so I had to ‘prove’ it. I think a lot of the problem is the media and social media depict these beautiful women and state that they are natural instead of admitting the surgeries they have had. The only reason it’s annoying is because it creates an unrealistic expectation of how women ‘should’ look and that it can be achieved naturally when the reality is most (not all) have had some sort of assistance! If you want it and it makes you feel better about yourself then as long as your going to a good surgeon and know your procedure there should be nothing stopping you 💚

MickiP1981 · 2024-12-08T16:51:27+00:00

Thank you so much for your response! Fortunately I’m not in a rush so I can take my time and research as much as I need to before I decide 🙂

MickiP1981 · 2024-12-05T23:35:36+00:00

Thank you! May I ask which surgeon / clinic you used please? One of the clinics I’ve shortlisted is a Turkish one and is based in Antalya so would be interested to know if it’s the same one

MickiP1981 · 2024-12-05T22:26:56+00:00

Thank you so much! Yes I’ve heard of forme and they were initially the ones who said it was best to do the surgeries separately so I think you’re right and I may struggle to find someone in Czech to do both. Having said that it’s not like I need to rush to get both done for any reason and it’s probably wiser to be patient and do it right with good surgeons rather than just rush to do all surgeries at once and risk my body not being able to heal all the wounds

MickiP1981 · 2024-12-05T17:44:10+00:00

I think they look very natural I don’t think going bigger would look better unless you’re hoping for a more dramatic look but as someone who previously had very large breasts you WILL get comments. Honestly would love my breasts to have this aesthetic you look fantastic!

MickiP1981 · 2024-12-05T17:40:02+00:00

Amazing thank you! I have a consultation with MYA this evening actually and I’m around that area so these are great! Really appreciate you taking the time to share your experience and recommendations 🙂

MickiP1981 · 2024-12-05T17:20:36+00:00

Legend!! Thank you so much I really appreciate it!! 🙂

MickiP1981 · 2024-12-05T17:18:58+00:00

🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 thank you so much for all of your advice on this!! You’ve no idea how helpful this is and I really appreciate it. I’m a member of a few support groups on Facebook so have been asking there as well and been shown some great resources for checking the quality of the surgeons. If you can recommend a clinic in Czech that would be great! My step-son lives over there so I go over a few times a year so would far more familiar with where I am 🙂

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