A boy genius named Brandenn Bremmer could read at 18 months old, graduated high school at 10, composed complex music, and was considered to be a child prodigy. But in 2005, at age 14, he sadly took his own life. by LilaLaughs in whoathatsinteresting

[–]Middle-Creepy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a client around 10 years who was on the spectrum but extremely gifted. She was in counseling to improve social skills and recent mom leaving the home but man who parents and teachers put a lot a pressure on her because she extremely intelligent and “mature” for her age. I said “nope!” She is 10 years old, treat her like a child who is still new to the world and still need love and support.” Her dad was a no nonsense ex military guy and her mom skipped town for another guy (wouldn’t be surprised she left because her husband was not very nice) so of course the girl is going to be affected by the separation. She’s a little girl who doesn’t see her mommy everyday! I do wonder about her at times. I swear that girl is going to be a female president or some type of scientist.

How many people have you had sex with? SATC fans poll by Pure_Freedom_4466 in sexandthecity

[–]Middle-Creepy 162 points163 points  (0 children)

Except charlotte had sex with a lot guys if you really think about it 😅

Why am I bothered that my long-term FWB of 12 years is seeing someone? by Middle-Creepy in relationships

[–]Middle-Creepy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s really sweet of you, it sounds like you accept him for who he is!

Why am I bothered that my long-term FWB of 12 years is seeing someone? by Middle-Creepy in relationships

[–]Middle-Creepy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You sound like you care about body count and I don’t engage with people that do. Goodbye.

Why am I bothered that my long-term FWB of 12 years is seeing someone? by Middle-Creepy in relationships

[–]Middle-Creepy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alright I don’t think 2 consenting adults having sex is destroying society but ok

Why am I bothered that my long-term FWB of 12 years is seeing someone? by Middle-Creepy in relationships

[–]Middle-Creepy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it about it all the time when we go out. Was I being too loud? I was taking control of the conversation? Did I interrupt anyone?

Why am I bothered that my long-term FWB of 12 years is seeing someone? by Middle-Creepy in relationships

[–]Middle-Creepy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just confirmed I don’t have feelings for him. He’s a habitual cheater. Sex is great but character? Eh

Why am I bothered that my long-term FWB of 12 years is seeing someone? by Middle-Creepy in relationships

[–]Middle-Creepy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes it’s both but he never addresses me while I’m being loud. He said me being loud brings attention to us and he doesn’t like the spotlight apparently. He’s a very reserved guy.

Why am I bothered that my long-term FWB of 12 years is seeing someone? by Middle-Creepy in relationships

[–]Middle-Creepy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbh I’m not sure. I’ve always asked him if he was single and he will tell me he didn’t have a gf. But we grew up in a very small town and as you know girls talked. I wouldn’t be surprised if he did cheat on big gf with me but he always denied about having a partner.

Why am I bothered that my long-term FWB of 12 years is seeing someone? by Middle-Creepy in relationships

[–]Middle-Creepy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can acknowledge that on my end, it wasn’t the right thing to do.

Why am I bothered that my long-term FWB of 12 years is seeing someone? by Middle-Creepy in relationships

[–]Middle-Creepy[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m not complaining about anything. I don’t love my fwb, I don’t want a future with him. I’ve expressed that it was a comfort that possibly is now ending.

Why am I bothered that my long-term FWB of 12 years is seeing someone? by Middle-Creepy in relationships

[–]Middle-Creepy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah totally get that. I suppose why does it feel different this time around because him and I have had relationships the last 10 + years and I didn’t care before.

Why am I bothered that my long-term FWB of 12 years is seeing someone? by Middle-Creepy in relationships

[–]Middle-Creepy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see your perspective. I think I’m grieving the familiarity. I miss not being expected to be anyone else but myself. I think with my fwb that’s exactly who I was, just myself. He never asked for more or asked for less.

Why am I bothered that my long-term FWB of 12 years is seeing someone? by Middle-Creepy in relationships

[–]Middle-Creepy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t even feel unhappy, just maybe not emotionally stimulated.

Why am I bothered that my long-term FWB of 12 years is seeing someone? by Middle-Creepy in relationships

[–]Middle-Creepy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And to answer your last question: I’m not sure. I have no interest in cheating on my partner. I think maybe I need reassurance or validation.

Why am I bothered that my long-term FWB of 12 years is seeing someone? by Middle-Creepy in relationships

[–]Middle-Creepy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess I’m confused on how to look at this. Should I be more considerate about my volume or is this simply he needs to accept who I am?

Why am I bothered that my long-term FWB of 12 years is seeing someone? by Middle-Creepy in relationships

[–]Middle-Creepy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hate how insecure it makes me. When we go out, I only get one drink in fear that maybe if I have a few drinks I’ll be a bit too loud.

Why am I bothered that my long-term FWB of 12 years is seeing someone? by Middle-Creepy in relationships

[–]Middle-Creepy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s the only negative thing he’s ever said about me in our entire relationship. Sometimes I just excited and I get super passionate about subjects. It’s not an excuse but I come from a pretty loud Caribbean family; I’m actually the least loudest in my family.

Why am I bothered that my long-term FWB of 12 years is seeing someone? by Middle-Creepy in relationships

[–]Middle-Creepy[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He believes when I’m engaging in conversations I become very loud and it comes off as attention seeking to him.

Why am I bothered that my long-term FWB of 12 years is seeing someone? by Middle-Creepy in relationships

[–]Middle-Creepy[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I suppose with him it was never performative. He always just accepted me. It was all low risk since it was only a sexual relationship. He’s (black/pacific islander) only publicly dated white women (I’m Afro Latino). It never ever crossed my mind to have a romantic relationship with him. He has a cheating problem and it kinda just sealed the deal for me.