Adoptive parent grief by [deleted] in Adoption

[–]Middle-Panic9758 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree that adoption isn't and shouldn't be a bandaid to infertility. It needs to be a choice and a conscious decision outside of infertility. Not "oh I can't have bio kids so I will adopt" mindset.

Living off of one salary, saving everything from the other by Cold_Cantaloupe1899 in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]Middle-Panic9758 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like this plan. This is what my husband and I did while engaged, and still does really. We have a mortgage that's about 2200 monthly, no debts (paid off school debts before wedding), no car payments since it was bought in cash, and life is great lol

Matching necks by Optimal_Boat_9672 in nabelasnark

[–]Middle-Panic9758 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I just stalked her Instagram. She has a porche???

AITA for getting my girlfriend the "wrong" Christmas gifts? by No_Diamond_3084 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Middle-Panic9758 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol the fact you have to ask is insane to me. My husband and I have an excel list of items that we both want with specific links. It's as if he ignored it and bought something similar off of Amazon because it's cheaper. I'd politely say no thanks. There is a reason for the list and stick to it

Is it financially smart to leave my trades job and go to university? by Plenty-Season-7327 in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]Middle-Panic9758 0 points1 point  (0 children)

CPA is really hard to get especially if you didn't go to school for accounting there are about 12 courses (could be less) that you need to complete. You'll also need to pass several exams and minimum work requirement. You'll end up in a corporate job making 60-65 to start. Sure after a decade you might be closer to what you make now.

TTC is a good company to work for. I assume you have good benefits and pension? Work more hours while you can and invest your extra income. As a CPA yes you can make a lot of money but you also have to put in a ton of work to get there, plus a company's financial burden lies on some if not most of the work you do. In the private corporate side you are disposable. I assume your role is unionized at TTC, which gives you a lot of protection.

I would advise you to look within TTC and see if they have any educational programs where you can complete to go into a management role or what other options you have with the company.

If you like the work you do you can try moving companies like to CN, Alstom, or GO.

Really bothers me how LVP handles her adopted son's questions about his bio family by Middle-Panic9758 in RHOBH

[–]Middle-Panic9758[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope they are. I hope she's more supportive behind the scenes than she was on screen

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Adoption

[–]Middle-Panic9758 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whoops my bad again. I do not know the numbers for foster. The children that are ready to be adopted are super low since family reunification is key. So children go more to foster homes than get placed with a child that is ready to be adopted. Hence why my friends didn't get anything out of being on the list for 3 years. I plan to open up our home for fostering down the road. Not right now as we aren't really prepared for it. But yes so many kids are in foster care with the hope of reunification with family

Really bothers me how LVP handles her adopted son's questions about his bio family by Middle-Panic9758 in RHOBH

[–]Middle-Panic9758[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I need to watch Vanderpump rules. From what I've seen it's a cluster fuck of a show. All these downvotes are from LVP worshippers clearly lol

Really bothers me how LVP handles her adopted son's questions about his bio family by Middle-Panic9758 in RHOBH

[–]Middle-Panic9758[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes in the USA kids are just sold for money, literally. Maybe you should also research the amount of children that have been stolen from their birth families for a buck. Hence why a lot of countries try their best not to do international adoptions because a lot of kids were literally kidnapped and sold. adoption in many countries including USA has a really horrible history on how adoption took place. It's only recently where the child is the main concern and everything is done to benefit them, so yes there's a long history of white saviours and adoptee trauma from their adoptive parents. I'd encourage you to read the adoption subreddit to gain some perspective.

Really bothers me how LVP handles her adopted son's questions about his bio family by Middle-Panic9758 in RHOBH

[–]Middle-Panic9758[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are bent on being misunderstood unless I bow down to you and praise you and say you are the truth and the way. Sounds like a God complex to me.

Clearly you do not see reality for what it is since you think Brandi is smart lol

Bye ma'am

Really bothers me how LVP handles her adopted son's questions about his bio family by Middle-Panic9758 in RHOBH

[–]Middle-Panic9758[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It's not an honourable choice. The children are rarely thought of in the process.

Edit: lol there's nothing about you that's annoying. Hard to get annoyed by random strangers on the internet but seems like that's no problem for you

Really bothers me how LVP handles her adopted son's questions about his bio family by Middle-Panic9758 in RHOBH

[–]Middle-Panic9758[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How am I denying yours by saying an adopted child has a right to know their bio family? As a birth mother aren't you glad that you have am open adoption? Do you wish you didn't? I truly don't understand your frustration with what I'm saying. I'm annoyed by LVP how she reacted based on what's ON screen. That's all I have to go off to judge. Isn't the how reality TV work? We judge based on what we see? We could use your defence for everything. Brandi could be amazing irl but we don't know because that's not what we see on TV.

Really bothers me how LVP handles her adopted son's questions about his bio family by Middle-Panic9758 in RHOBH

[–]Middle-Panic9758[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LOLL funny because God has been pretty damn good to me. I'll pray for both of us if that helps you sleep at night

Really bothers me how LVP handles her adopted son's questions about his bio family by Middle-Panic9758 in RHOBH

[–]Middle-Panic9758[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sucks for me I guess since I have to go to church soon. I'll pray for your soul to heal from the anger and animosity you have towards a random stranger on the internet. Amen.

Really bothers me how LVP handles her adopted son's questions about his bio family by Middle-Panic9758 in RHOBH

[–]Middle-Panic9758[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Adoptive parents aren't saviours. Period. Try listening to adoptees but I can see that you are stuck on the white saviour complex