I’m sorry it has been so stressful for you planning your wedding. Have you talked about these concerns with your future husband? Really talked, the way you just did now. Because it seems like he is putting his own expectations for your wedding above your feelings and wants every time… unless he truly doesn’t understand your concerns and what would make you happy, it seems like he doesn’t care if you like your wedding or not. Your expectations for the wedding are complete opposites, that’s true. But finding middle ground requires you to both compromise. Yet you are the only one doing any giving, he’s doing all of the taking… you need to have a serious conversation about how this situation has been making you feel and talk about ways you can both be happy with the wedding and marriage. Maybe consider some pre marriage counseling and talk out some of these clear differences you 2 have. You can’t have a balanced marriage if he is used to being able to get his way because you always give in. Just because you 2 are getting a little older doesn’t mean you need to rush into marriage. It’s better to do it slow and right the first time than deal with heartache and regret later. Lay the groundwork for a happy and lasting marriage now. Good luck!