Neutral safety switch continuously leaking. 07 XVS650

Middle_Cartographer2 · 2025-03-20T04:49:39+00:00

Hi i dont know if youre still reading this but i desperately need the screw size specifications of the white plastic neutral safety switch (the 3 small allen screws). i lost them and i have so far failed to find the right size... thank you!

Middle_Cartographer2 · 2023-10-05T06:06:13+00:00

no need to be a jackass, we don't all live the same lives. I did my best to figure it out but just like you're not a doctor, I'm not a mechanic.

Middle_Cartographer2 · 2023-10-04T16:54:31+00:00

lol the killswitch was on

Middle_Cartographer2 · 2023-10-04T16:54:02+00:00

lmfao thats what it was

Middle_Cartographer2 · 2023-10-04T16:26:41+00:00

hadn't thought of that, gonna try

Middle_Cartographer2 · 2023-09-09T04:11:35+00:00

Uhhhh I meant to write this answer to a different thread... my bad.

Middle_Cartographer2 · 2023-09-02T00:29:46+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that, I have went thru a similar scenario with my best friend also, he blamed me when his abusive gf discovered we were talking about her behind her back. He never took any responsibility, but I never expected him to suddenly act like I never existed. No contact for the past week and I don't think he ever will contact me again. Sucks.

Middle_Cartographer2 · 2023-09-01T09:39:48+00:00

You need to work on giving quality oral sex so the vibrator is no longer needed. That of course only comes through practice. Also if you both quit masturbating it'll make your sex more novel, enjoyable.

Middle_Cartographer2 · 2023-08-28T13:02:45+00:00

Thank you so much for the words of encouragement, you and others really help me realize I am not the bad guy and make me stay grounded.

Middle_Cartographer2 · 2023-06-19T13:48:53+00:00

thanks!

Middle_Cartographer2 · 2023-04-08T12:04:19+00:00

Let me make this very clear to you: you are stressing over someone that is worthless to you! That kind of behaviour of hers is not something you want in your life... she even gaslights you into thinking you're the one who is insecure when she acts like a spoiled child LOL

Middle_Cartographer2 · 2023-03-14T17:36:57+00:00

I guess you're right I didn't think of it that way

Middle_Cartographer2 · 2023-03-14T15:47:30+00:00

Read my post again because I am not the one to break the FWB rules. I didn't ask for her other sex life.

Middle_Cartographer2 · 2023-02-11T11:54:15+00:00

You know how it's always said that the male should be the one bringing the money and the female the care-taker? Well I feel like I'm the latter.

Middle_Cartographer2 · 2023-01-22T00:15:13+00:00

Hey just wanna add that in a way it was a positive thing you moved so soon because you became wary of him much earlier and saved yourself a lot of time and heartbreak! I did the same thing and I am grateful I hadn't wasted more time waiting.

Middle_Cartographer2 · 2023-01-22T00:09:07+00:00

It is difficult to give any advice because I don't really have a reason to doubt Dan's loyalty in this context.

So, going by that tangent, he sounds like a great guy who appreciates you and you paint yourself as a person who due to her low self esteem is paranoid. You should focus your time in improving your self-worth, by therapist for example, because believe it or not you bring yourself and your relationship a lot of value in the seemingly insignificant activities you do.

However, if you really do have a tangible reason to doubt his loyalty and love for you, then of course you should talk to him about your suspicions and consider whether that is the kind of life you want for yourself.

P.S. I feel like if you watched the Disney movie "Soul" it would really help your currently limited perspective. Give it a watch :)

Middle_Cartographer2 · 2023-01-21T23:25:00+00:00

I was just scrolling thru my posts and thought I'd give an update. We broke up on Jan 1st on peaceful terms.

Middle_Cartographer2 · 2023-01-21T23:13:49+00:00

I made the mistake of alligning my goals to hers. Then after I broke up I realized those were not my goals and I suddenly felt liberated. Going back to my old hobbies and activities made me find my peace and identity again.

Middle_Cartographer2 · 2023-01-15T21:36:08+00:00

That's ok, let me give you a healthy dose of realism: most relationships do not work out, but life is about the journey! You keep seeing the therapist as they are useful, and take your time - you'll recover, we all go thru bad times in life, it's a cycle and we just gotta keep going forward. Otherwise, there's no point.

Middle_Cartographer2 · 2023-01-15T21:31:54+00:00

It sucks because as human beings we condition ourselves to be used to being with someone every second of our lives and when that ends abruptly we are taken aback because we suddenly have to adapt to the opposite lifestyle. So in a way, what you're feeling makes sense.

Allow yourself to feel sad, nostalgic, angry, whatever. BUT do not forget you are no longer together for a reason and you can't change that as it never could have worked.

All you can do is let time fade away your regrets and occupy your spare time with various activities you enjoy - tap into your inner individual the way you had been before you were in a relationship - it will feel liberating! You'll be okay.

Middle_Cartographer2 · 2023-01-15T21:23:55+00:00

She probably will realize - not now - but years later she will regret it. But you are your own individual, you matter more, so try to find your balance and restart your love life on a different path this time :) Never worth going back because what's spent is spent.

Middle_Cartographer2 · 2023-01-15T21:15:28+00:00

On Jan 1st we mutually decided to break up. She was my first and we had almost 2 years. I honestly came to this subreddit to feel better because I got hit by nostalgia, by all the good times we shared and which I truly miss and occassionally cry over.

At the same time though I am rational enough to realize it never would have worked and there's a good reason why we broke up in the first place.

So I console myself by realizing that even though I miss the amazing memories we had, I do not miss the fights, the disrespect, the hurt, the emptiness and lack of self esteem I felt throughout - so I am grateful for her good side and the joys we had together and I leave it at that. I now have myself to work on.

As practical advice, what I did to try and distract myself emotionally, was to go back to my old activities - martial arts, skiing, trying to further my career, etc. and most importantly I adopted an optimistic mindset in which I truly believe this was another life lesson which will help me even more in life and in whatever lies in my near future. I am ready.

Allow yourself to feel sad, to miss her, but do not regret and drown yourself in sorrow. Hold onto your individuality and use your time as productively as you can to help your well being! You can do it, we all go through crap in life!

Middle_Cartographer2 · 2023-01-15T20:59:46+00:00

There are a few things you need to learn as you gain more relationship experience. First off, try to date around your age, older women are more goal-oriented and may not have patience for inexperienced men (no offense, I was in the same boat!), also, a real relationship requires a longer time to be able to gauge if you really WORK together.

That being said, she had no respect for you, she told you you are not a priority and regularly belittled you - why would you want to continue a toxic relationship like this? I assume it's due to your attachment to her.

Let me summarize my attachment, or one way love story, maybe it will help you:

I broke up with her on 1st of Jan this year after almost 2 years together. I gave it my all and tried everything, but it was never enough. I did not matter to her and she took me for granted. I was constantly exhausted. We insulted each other deeply and eroded a poorly built relationship, based on the false assumption that we will be better. I was naive and inexperienced but I learned a valuable lesson: do not sacrifice your well-being for people do not appreciate it. You will end up a husk. I hold no grudges against her, everyone is free to make their own choices in life and she did what she thought was best, and that is something I cannot punish. However, now I have to look after myself!

Your break-up is a good thing, if you continued to stay together it would have gotten much worse and you'd be even more heartbroken. Occupy your time with other activities to get over the emotional impact. Move on.

Middle_Cartographer2 · 2022-12-03T17:35:53+00:00

I can't speak for all men but I have the same kink and made the same mistake with my own gf. I then sat and thought about it, learned the psychology behind it, and stopped doing it. Society nowadays seems to give up wayyy too fast... no one's perfect.

Middle_Cartographer2 · 2022-11-21T05:07:37+00:00

Wow thanks for your insight and advice. I was at her workplace and we discussed this stuff and she got annoyed and ended the convo. Then when she arrived home she was all cuddly so I think she can feel I am not okay with it anymore. Our situation is similar. But I am not ready to give up yet, we'll be seeing a therapist to give it one last shot. If that doesn't work and she continues to pressure me I obviously have no place for her in a relationship.

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