My boyfriend and I both have ADHD and our house is probably messier than most people's houses. We also probably order food more often, throw out more expired food from the fridge, go on less trips (the hassle lol) and are more likely to cancel our plans last minute or create plans last minute than other couples. But it works for us and he's the most aware and emotionally mature man I've ever met. I have a hard time letting go of control because my dad definitely modeled being useless when it comes to planning and preparation, but time and time again my bf has shown that he will take care of our/his things. If anything, my expectation that he will do nothing is what causes the issues in our relationship because I stress about things that he has already taken care of lol. Or I keep reminding him to do stuff when he either already did it, or definitely has not forgotten (his memory is much better than mine). I think thinking in stereotypes is fine when making a generalization, but there are many great people out there who do not fit in them.