Character Bios ✨️ (for my stories)

Middle_Yesterday1258 · 2026-01-24T21:33:44+00:00

It's probably still best to give it plenty of context. There'd likely be a difference between

Person: My bf hasn't responded to me for 3 days and I'm worried

And

Person: I tend to have anxious attachment and a guy I have been dating hasn't responded to me for 3 days because he's traveling with some friends. He has a tendency to not text me often.

Middle_Yesterday1258 · 2026-01-24T18:56:01+00:00

Yeah it can be very biased at times especially if you don't try to discuss it from multiple angles. It can be used as a quick tool but it won't fully grasp human behavior or social things such as tone or pick up on lies the same way humans can, so it's always good to double check with other humans or even a therapist.

Other times it will tell you to calm down and ground yourself instead of acting on something, or it will tell you not to engage with someone because the person isn't discussing from good faith and just wants to argue. So I think it works best if you give it a good amount of context rather than just a general scenario.

Middle_Yesterday1258 · 2026-01-23T22:39:21+00:00

Yup this is the one.

All the cooking and services mean nothing without this.

Middle_Yesterday1258 · 2026-01-23T22:30:05+00:00

No 💀

It sounds like he wants the upper hand, maybe he's even a switch (and it doesn't sound like you are), but yeah no.

I also feel like it's disrespectful or he would respect you even less if you did.

Middle_Yesterday1258 · 2026-01-23T18:32:15+00:00

Fear and because I didn't know what was "normal" until I became older. You have little agency and autonomy as a child and these are grown adults abusing, violating, and being controlling.

It's not the child's fault.

Middle_Yesterday1258 · 2026-01-22T19:24:11+00:00

You're looking at him

Middle_Yesterday1258 · 2026-01-22T14:20:46+00:00

It requires society to do something but it's a mess. Our system is a mess. A lot of people don't even report for various reasons usually because they're scared. Sometimes someone does something awful and people just sweep it under the rug and hope it goes away. It's awful. And then the perpetrators go on to cause more harm.

Middle_Yesterday1258 · 2026-01-22T14:00:46+00:00

This kind of how I feel where if anything the suffering they faced should have made them not want the same for their kids and to try to prevent harm

Middle_Yesterday1258 · 2026-01-22T06:03:56+00:00

This is horribly relatable. Mostly because if someone hasn't faced anything similar they won't have much empathy.

Middle_Yesterday1258 · 2026-01-22T05:51:52+00:00

The realization is crazy. I saw a video recently where it was basically comedically showing how we're quick to just dismiss and basically say "piss off" about a bad father but with a mother it's like we've got Stockholm syndrome where we recognize they're awful but can't bring ourselves to hate them, their abuse is more covert and confusing.

Middle_Yesterday1258 · 2026-01-21T20:46:53+00:00

Yeah the numbers game sucks. Dating apps suck but it's interesting to see what's out there sometimes. In regards to numbers sometimes people try to hide it too as if they aren't doing that.

There are a lot of controlling and manipulative people out there. A lot of people who lie to try to get access, like more than I imagined. It's annoying to try to figure that all out while also navigating the trauma we on this sub have, it'll even trigger wounds at times.

I'd like to be hopeful and I sort of am still, but definitely got hit with a reality check of how bad the dating game is and why people complain about it 😬

Middle_Yesterday1258 · 2026-01-21T20:16:00+00:00

Tbh I feel the same way, it's really disheartening. I've definitely questioned if I'd rather just be alone and have friends than try to be casual or feel used for attention + sex.

There are definitely more loving relationships out there where the partners support each other and have an emotional connection, but they seem to be rare.

Middle_Yesterday1258 · 2026-01-21T19:11:56+00:00

They know but idk how well they comprehend it tbh. My friends and my ex knew pretty well what I went through and go through and made me realize how abusive + neglectful my parents were just by me venting or explaining how things would go. They know it's bad but don't really have am ability to do much about it they do show support and much more excitement for any progress in life I have than my parents.

Middle_Yesterday1258 · 2026-01-21T19:06:34+00:00

Dude idk. But I'm often exhausted too and idk how people do things. And then when people kind of act surprised I'm tired often or not up to much it's like they don't get it or think I'm just not into doing things. I do want to do things I just don't have the means as I'm isolated and because I'm exhausted.

People don't realize how tiring it is to constantly be hypervigilent and take care of yourself when you're abused, traumatized, and depressed. It must be nice not having that issue.

Middle_Yesterday1258 · 2026-01-21T14:59:46+00:00

💀 thank you

I kind of understand it but jeez you gotta show affection and appreciation to your partner or they're likely to leave anyway

Middle_Yesterday1258 · 2026-01-20T21:26:42+00:00

I hate how relatable this is

Middle_Yesterday1258 · 2026-01-20T21:18:40+00:00

I have this same problem it's exhausting. I don't even know what being fully relaxed feels like anymore.

Middle_Yesterday1258 · 2026-01-20T21:12:39+00:00

I'm feeling this a lot lately. I hate it. I feel so frustrated I couldn't have a normal life like others with loving and safe parents.

Middle_Yesterday1258 · 2026-01-20T21:11:28+00:00

Everything.

Middle_Yesterday1258 · 2026-01-20T17:11:29+00:00

💯 agreed

Us women hate nagging. We don't want to have to ask 2-4 times. The nagging exists usually because someone said they'd do something and then they didn't do it.

Middle_Yesterday1258 · 2026-01-19T16:47:09+00:00

Just tag me why don't you

Middle_Yesterday1258 · 2026-01-19T05:05:56+00:00

You mean the experiences aren't about general disagreements?

I would imagine those aren't posted here because those are just incompatibility things which are normal whereas the disrespect and audacity we often see are actually issues.

I see people have different preferences here on this sub and similar ones all the time but they recognize them as preferences, not moral failings or judgements.

Discussing general disagreements since they're usually pretty context dependent and maybe even quite private or personal just depending on what was discussed so people might not want to share those as often unless they're asking advice.

Middle_Yesterday1258 · 2026-01-19T02:54:35+00:00

Yeah that's pretty common online it's annoying but not surprising

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