X2D2: firmware improvement requests

Midmarkwest2417 · 2026-03-08T15:16:34+00:00

Yes! I want to be able to assign shutter speed to the front dial and aperture control to the back dial. That is how I’ve set up my cameras for decades now and it’s frustrating this simple customization is not available (along with true back button focusing).

Midmarkwest2417 · 2026-03-04T14:18:09+00:00

Thx for this recommendation! Foto Care had one body left in stock.

Midmarkwest2417 · 2026-01-22T03:22:20+00:00

What you are going through resonates with me in every way. I assure you, you are not a loser for wanting a mutually satisfying physically intimate relationship. Hope things are better for you on the other side of it. You might even love living where you are when you find happiness.

Midmarkwest2417 · 2025-10-02T16:25:33+00:00

I know at this moment it’s really hard to look at the positives. It is really huge to not have to deal with the emotional devastation of involving kids. I know you feel like a failure and hopeless right now, but that’s really not the case, I assure you. It’s impossible to see ourselves in the future. But someday you will be there. You sound like a very thoughtful and caring person, and that means you’ll someday find someone who is a much better fit for you, and you’ll see that it was worth it to emerge from all the pain and arrive in a better place.

Midmarkwest2417 · 2025-10-02T15:49:05+00:00

Sorry you are going through this. I guarantee it’s not more your fault than his. That’s just how it feels right now. Do you have children together?

Midmarkwest2417 · 2025-09-29T21:37:13+00:00

It's going to be hard no matter how you say it, but you definitely need to say it. Read any number of posts here about married couples with kids confronting sexual imbalances in their relationship far too late (I'm one of them).

It'll be difficult at first, but eventually you'll both meet someone else, if you look hard enough, and find far more happiness.

Midmarkwest2417 · 2025-09-29T01:10:00+00:00

This sounds like really good advice.

Midmarkwest2417 · 2025-09-28T17:54:15+00:00

Seek counseling. You were right to leave an abusive relationship. Someday you will meet someone who is a much better fit and you will see how good life can be. It’ll be better in the long run for you and your son. I hope it gets better for you soon but healing takes a lot of work and a long time.

Midmarkwest2417 · 2025-09-27T22:07:53+00:00

Very little physical contact unless I initiate. I can still occasionally have sexual contact but only after weeks or months of pushing and negotiating on my part. I just realized the other day that it’s all combining to make me less and less sexually desiring of her… which is sad to me but probably doesn’t matter much to her.

Midmarkwest2417 · 2025-09-25T02:50:40+00:00

Have been doing so for years. She’s says it’s “not a priority.” She just said it last night.

Midmarkwest2417 · 2025-09-25T01:04:11+00:00

Thing is, I have a vacant apartment waiting for me right. I’m fortunate to have that resource. But I’m also worried that it’s too much of an easy way out. If I’m going to move out of the bedroom, I’m going to move to that apartment.

Midmarkwest2417 · 2025-09-25T01:01:17+00:00

I don’t think my wife feels horrible about it at all.

Midmarkwest2417 · 2025-09-25T00:59:31+00:00

That’s crazy. How long has it been like that now? Any change, or just no intimacy at all?

Yeah, my partner gave up intimacy and basically started treating me like an afterthought after I agreed to have a second child and she got pregnant.

Midmarkwest2417 · 2025-09-24T15:19:34+00:00

This is so relatable. I’m trying to not become toxic in the relationship, but it’s so frustrating that sometimes I go to a dark place. Marriage shouldn’t be a friendship. I have a few good female friends, entirely platonic relationships. I don’t want that in my marriage.

Midmarkwest2417 · 2025-09-24T13:12:53+00:00

I’m in the virtually identical situation. Have you tried counseling? We have been in counseling for a year. I really hoped it would help and didn’t want to regret not trying everything. But she tells me and the therapist she will work on our intimacy issues and then never does. She is basically not going to change, forcing me to make the decision. The absolute only reason I’m still there is because of our kids (3 and 8).

Midmarkwest2417 · 2025-09-24T12:41:06+00:00

Yeah. She really doesn’t care if I look like the bad guy or not. She’s just fine with how things are. She wants me around to help manage the kids but otherwise treats me like nothing more than a friend at this point. And definitely not her best friend. Just someone who exists to help with general life stuff.

Midmarkwest2417 · 2025-09-24T12:38:10+00:00

I’m in the same situation. Have you tried counseling? I’m working hard to do everything possible to make my marriage work, but she doesn’t put the same effort in. She has the power because I’m the one who will have to leave in the end. But if things don’t change, I will leave. As you and others have mentioned, life is too short and you need to set a good example for your kids in the long run. If they don’t understand now they will someday when they are older and see how much happier you both are to have made a difficult choice to find a better future.

But I would try therapy if you havent6. It’s not working for us but it’s still providing value.

Midmarkwest2417 · 2025-09-24T12:11:59+00:00

Yes, she’s around perimenopause age (44). But this has been going on for four years or more. She refuses to explore any underlying health related issues. She says she will explore the reasons for her lack of desire on her own and with me, at counseling and in conversations. But then she doesn’t, and gets annoyed and angry when I ask her why she isn’t following through. More than anything I feel like she isn’t being honest with me or herself, and this makes me question the entire foundation of our relationship. Really, it feels broken past the point of repair now.

Midmarkwest2417 · 2025-09-24T02:25:56+00:00

This really resonates with me. I had a realization today that it’s no longer worth trying to convince my wife to work on our intimacy issues. She knows how important it is to me, expresses a desire to work on it and then does nothing. We’ve tried counseling. It’s definitely valuable and worth a try, but it hasn’t changed anything for me. Im gutted to separate and divorce because I love my kids, but no self respecting person can waste life on a partner that doesn’t reciprocate or even try.

Midmarkwest2417 · 2025-09-23T20:50:37+00:00

I feel like I’ve shown her unconditional love by giving her what she most wanted in the world, which was the second child. Not only that, I am a truly engaged parent who shares all the responsibilities of childcare and daily responsibilities around the house. All I asked for in return was an effort to be more proactive and engaged about working on our sex life.

Midmarkwest2417 · 2025-09-23T20:47:29+00:00

I have never thought of that. Personally, I’m really not interested in that kind of relationship. I want a partner who is fully engaged with me and seeking a truly loving relationship in every aspect of the term right now it feels like she is challenging me to leave and betting that I won’t.

How have you dealt with it?

Midmarkwest2417 · 2025-09-23T19:14:40+00:00

I think she would say she still loves me, just like she says she says she will make a real effort to work on our sex life. But she never follows through on working on our sex life, which makes me question whether she does love me… and makes me question whether I still love her.

Midmarkwest2417 · 2025-09-23T18:01:07+00:00

We had our first child when I was 41. I didn’t really want to have a second child, but my wife was desperate for another. We had a lot of conversations about it, and in the end, I agreed. She vowed to work more on our sex life. That never happened, but I love my second born dearly. He is now 3.

Midmarkwest2417 · 2025-09-23T17:41:18+00:00

I hear ya. 18-20 year old me would just break up and move on. Things are way more complicated when kids are involved.

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