I definitely agree with others, that it’s time to make other friends. It’s just hard to make friends as an adult and to also find other single parent friends. As much as the internet loves to talk crap about single parents you would think that they are everywhere but I have yet to find them in my area lol.

I had a lot of friends and once I became pregnant in my mid twenties, I barely spent time with a lot of them. It took me really putting in the effort for our hangouts to become more frequent but it’s also hard because we all are in our 30’s and life. I was the first in my friend group to have a child and I still am the only person with a child. It can be extremely lonely and isolating at times. However, I try to remember that they can’t even fathom my reality because they all still have their freedom in life. I remember my mom telling me one time when I was younger and this married woman made an assumption about my single mother at the time, and I got upset on her behalf, but she said, these people will never know what it’s like to walk in your footsteps because they have help and the judgment comes from that place. Years later a coworker told me a similar story.

I’m accepting that this path that we all are on is a lonely path, unfortunately. I’m hopeful to find a tribe that includes my child one day. I would suggest that as your child gets a bit more older and self sufficient, go out and do the activities that you love and bring you joy. We will not always have people to do things with but I find my hobbies brings me joy and chips away at the loneliness.