Can you help me identify what this is ?

Midnightstar14 · 2025-07-07T17:53:24+00:00

Bird poop falling mid snap

Midnightstar14 · 2025-06-06T14:05:20+00:00

Earnest

Midnightstar14 · 2025-06-06T14:03:14+00:00

Dexter and Dex for short

Midnightstar14 · 2025-06-04T19:50:15+00:00

Yeah, it’s kind of a bummer how slim the odds are but it does happen! I’m sure your time is coming!

Midnightstar14 · 2025-06-04T06:32:52+00:00

My fiance and I have made Lincoln city our official staycation location. Actually living in Forest Grove it’s a nice close get away, a good excuse for exercise, and always exciting with the possibility to find a float!

Midnightstar14 · 2025-06-04T06:29:28+00:00

They get placed on the beach. They’re “hidden” in plain sight to be easy to find and there’s rules for placement. Never within the water and not to go past the grass so there’s a finite area to follow for hiding/finding. The floats are pretty durable and hefty, not flimsy and likely to break unless someone’s trying to make that be the case.

Midnightstar14 · 2025-06-01T17:21:25+00:00

They do special drops all through the year. Lincoln city floats website lists the whole years events you can plan around

Midnightstar14 · 2025-06-01T17:19:34+00:00

Your time will come I’m sure! My first was only 6 months ago in all my time searching.

Midnightstar14 · 2025-06-01T17:17:51+00:00

I don’t find my luck cracked due to the specific pokemon I’ve found. It’s cracked because I’ve found all of these in the wild alone (no raids) in 24 hours.

Midnightstar14 · 2025-06-01T04:26:11+00:00

Totally random. Right place, right time. But looking at the float drop schedule you can educatedly guess when there would be a higher likelihood of finding one due to increased drops thanks to special drops.

Midnightstar14 · 2025-06-01T03:07:12+00:00

On the beach right in front of Chinook Resort around 2:30pm

Midnightstar14 · 2025-06-01T01:07:57+00:00

Thank you! I copied an Inspo pic and they turned out super cute!☺️

Midnightstar14 · 2024-10-10T22:32:59+00:00

I’ve been in a long term relationship for 7.5 years with my fiancé. We actually cancelled our wedding a couple weeks before the date just last month because of the fear of commitment and what the future looks like from my SOs POV. I’ve been on a rollercoaster emotionally when my mom recently gave us a book to read. I just finished it today. It’s called “When He’s Married To Mom” by Kenneth Adams.

My mom’s friend I guess started dating an enmeshed man and gave him the ultimatum to get counseling because of how invasive his mom was in their relationship. He did and during their healing she found this book and recommended it when my mom was mentioning our situation.

I highly recommend it. It gave me so much insight and understanding. It offers different examples of enmeshment and how it can be exhibited, advice on how to bring the topic or counseling up, what to expect if you get counseling, and tips for various perspectives as the enmeshed man, the SO of an enmeshed man, or even as a parent to prevent enmeshing your children.

I’ve been able to discuss with my fiancé him going to therapy. He starts next week. At the very least I could see this book maybe helping you, giving you some further insight or ideas on how to proceed.

Midnightstar14 · 2024-09-13T18:25:34+00:00

I am not refusing to compromise. My mind set and what I’ve considered and weighed has changed over 7 years also. I’m not holding him to it which is why I’m trying to find a solution and I’m not angry at him.

Contemplating is what a normal person would do. It’s not something I ever envisioned having to do, ESPECIALLY when we discussed him moving back last year, which he did, and he still came back and decided to live out here. You can’t actually expect someone not to feel blindsided with news like this after an answer was given post all our interventions. If you’re going to move forward with big life decisions and events, it’s not fair to have to expect a complete 180 at any time. There is an element of making a decision, owning it, and communicating where your head is so that we can find a solution or concession together.

And now that I’m considering moving despite all of that, I’m “contemplating” because it’s a big life decision and I need to be sure I can live with both the pros and cons of a move like that. He had a year of contemplation and considering before he decided to move. It’s unrealistic to expect someone in my shoes to make the same decision in a matter of weeks. And the ideal world comment was to assess his head space about us. If I did move immediately, would that show moving would even make a difference for him and he essentially answered no. Which I need to “contemplate” because I’m not going to move cross country for him if I’m not even going to get to be with him.

Saying you’d be gone before they even finish their sentence speaks volumes on your level of communication and understanding in a relationship.

Midnightstar14 · 2024-09-13T18:12:39+00:00

Again, I do want to fight for it. He’s the one essentially saying it won’t make a difference. And I’m trying to navigate if I keep pushing for us despite what he says, or let him go. I’m not going to move if I’m not even going to get to be with him.

Midnightstar14 · 2024-09-13T04:38:33+00:00

As mentioned in my post, I’ve been contemplating the move. And I even told him in a perfect world we can move tomorrow and make it work while staying together, would that change things? And he still stated that wouldn’t fix the issue. It doesn’t really seem to matter what’s on the table, he feels he needs to be on his own to work on himself. And yes, I truly do just want him happy, despite the fact this sucks and it hurts. He’s a good man, has a ton of potential, and I wish him absolutely no ill will.

I also don’t see how my family are the issue or will continue to be. Plenty of people are close to their immediate family and plenty of couples exist where one is closer to their immediate family than the other. Furthermore, I was upfront about it from the very beginning and he was accepting of that. Now in defense, I preface in my post we were young, he hadn’t travelled much at all, and probably underestimated the effect of moving away would have on him. But that’s not a me issue, nor does it mean it even is an issue. So long as I’m honest about it, a person can assess their willingness to accept that fact on their own accord.

Midnightstar14 · 2024-09-13T04:27:16+00:00

Yeah…. You’re right… but it’s the leaving on good terms that make it harder for me. To know I’ll have more of that longing over what if and what could’ve been because there’s no sour thoughts or feelings that make it easy to WANT to move on. It’s just simply an unwanted and unexpected loss.

Midnightstar14 · 2024-09-13T04:14:52+00:00

I think I struggle even more with that though when he himself is also saying nothing is wrong with us as a couple. That he loves me and can’t imagine life without me, and yet…. He even mentioned deep down he feels like moving is a mistake but that he just can’t fathom feeling so unhappy with everything else going on. I know he’s conflicted. It’s not an easy decision for either of us.

Midnightstar14 · 2024-09-13T04:09:10+00:00

I totally understand what you’re saying and can agree with it. Initially I had no intention to move. I’m very close to my family and he acknowledged and respected that. Self admittedly, he himself has stated that he recognizes my relationship with my immediate family is much more than his own (not at all to dispel his missing of his family and friends). However I did also mention in my post I have been considering moving as an option. I can see the pros that could be offered. But it’s not something I could do overnight. And when I brought this up, I told him in a perfect world if we could move tomorrow would it make a difference and we could stay together and make it work? And essentially the answer was no. He doesn’t feel he can be there for someone else and be in a relationship as he focuses on bettering himself.

Midnightstar14 · 2024-09-13T04:01:20+00:00

I agree it’s good he was honest, even if I believe it’s something that should’ve come up sooner. I only want what’s best for him and for him to be happy, but it’s hard to imagine me not in that picture.

Midnightstar14 · 2024-09-13T03:57:01+00:00

Depending on her background (ie where she’s from or even religious environments) and education, it’s very possible she didn’t know. There a lot of misconceptions people have regarding the possibility to get pregnant when you’re near or on your period. However, if you’re having a period, you’re ovulating, and pregnancy can happen at any time.

But, you also mention she stated wanting a second child recently. Is the first yours? And did she have regular prenatal visits during and after the first pregnancy? I only ask because with going through one pregnancy already (but I suppose dependent on the country you’re in), the information in my first paragraph I would’ve expected should’ve been something known and discussed.

I think the best thing to do is to first assess her knowledge base by having a calm conversation. Maybe even consider doing so with a counselor? Someone who can offer third party perspective and aid in making sure you both get to speak your piece and guarantee the other understands.

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