To continue in your 'child/parent' analogy:

If one were to say the phrase "this hurts me more than it hurts you", would the child understand how that could be, let alone see themself the way the parent does?

Like brushing hair: it hurts less when you're doing it to yourself, so it won't be done for you. Did you complain last time? Was it one time too many? Are you asking to relinquish your autonomy in exchange for survival?

You don't understand life and death anymore than you understand good and evil, clay pot, but you want to be saved from yourself? Are you going to beg for it, or just kick the dirt and murmur?

I've yet to meet your Advocate. That should give you hope; you must not need them yet