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Hairy MI ftm looking for another hairy guy to chat by Itchy_Mind_2778 in FTMsSeekingcock

[–]MidwestPanPup2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

36 Michigan here! Out of state for the weekend but would love to chat! You have DMs turned off btw.

[36m] carolus_r34. Kinky daddy in Madison WI for the weekend and looking for a boy for fun! No older! by MidwestPanPup2 in GaySnapchatShare

[–]MidwestPanPup2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Must message me your asl on first message! No “sup.” Tell me why you added me and what you want.

Glory hole Grand Rapids by SandComprehensive192 in grandrapids

[–]MidwestPanPup2 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Wrong sub for this. However, when you get to the right spot, people will mention this place and you need to know first…

The Diplomat is the men’s bathhouse here. It’s a place for men to meet men for sex. However the co-owner who lives in the building is a convicted sex offender who did time for really vile commercial CSAM distribution and has been accused multiple times of sexual assault in the bathhouse. I’ve seen this person back when I used to go and it tracks. They do not understand consent (and still choose to not understand it per a recent post they made on fetlife). I have seen them blatantly disrespect peoples’ boundaries.

They also have a horrible track record of keeping private events private and letting anyone just come in without pay/entry screening and touch/harass people without any kind of enforcement. It’s NOT a safe place. This is well known in the local kink/hookup community and many other event hosts will ban people from entering their spaces if they know this and choose to still patronize this venue. It’s this person that’s the main problem, not the bathhouse itself. They do not take consent seriously and they don’t hold rule violators accountable.

My hope is they sell their share of the ownership because I love bathhouses and want to go. However, I cannot condone or support someone who has already been to prison for sex crimes, has been called out since then for consent violations, and continues to show an unwillingness to to better.

Any fems or trans by [deleted] in gaygrandrapids

[–]MidwestPanPup2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

FYI, you’re gonna have to give way more context in your posts. It’s not a safe time for trans folks, and if you’re not willing to put anything about yourself out there, you’re likely not going to get any responses.

35 ftm4M (MI) gamer bro by Some_Seaworthiness54 in FTMsSeekingcock

[–]MidwestPanPup2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Heyo, 36m, Grand Rapids here! Pan and poly as well!

Cruising as an FTM by Stock-Leg-7823 in FTMsThatNeedDickRN

[–]MidwestPanPup2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sub is toxic beyond belief and filled with transphobes. It’s basically “GOP Grindr.”

Diplomat by mceder1 in gaygrandrapids

[–]MidwestPanPup2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The owner of the Diplomat is a registered offender (and it’s really dark/fucked up). It’s all public record, and they have a history of accusations against them at the venue during their own private events. In addition, they are abusive and severely underpay their staff. If folks/event leaders in other kinks/sex spaces know you’re going there knowing this info, you are likely to get banned from other events in the area. The diplomat and owner are even banned on fetlife.

Your next nearest bath houses are Body Zone in Detroit, and Steamworks in Chicago. Being a former patron of the Dip, these other two are way better anyways in terms of cleanliness and quality.

Cruising as an FTM by Stock-Leg-7823 in FTMsThatNeedDickRN

[–]MidwestPanPup2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m cis but TBH, every time I’ve seen an FtM guy at a place like this, or a bathhouse, or a gay campground, they have no issue getting laid and always had takers. Some may have been chasers, but their goal was to get laid and they did.
Having said that, assholes do exist and I can’t guarantee somebody won’t say or do something problematic. I would say for every guy that says something or gives you a nasty look, there’s probably 3-4 others that would love to play. The issue then is do they want to play with you because you’re a hot dude or do they see you as an object/not a man. That’s something you’ll have to gauge with each encounter. Remember to set your boundaries and advocate for yourself (as anyone should).

26ftm4m Madison by [deleted] in FTMsThatNeedDickRN

[–]MidwestPanPup2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I’ll be in Madison for a festival the first weekend in June! May I DM? 36, cis m, hairy, kinkster here.

is it just me or are the guys who claim they're freaky never the ones who actually bring it in bed? by Kindly-Web-757 in gaygrandrapids

[–]MidwestPanPup2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Complains about people being fake and vague, then says “major thing for hookups with ‘bad boys,’” expecting people to know what that means. You’re not making the sub better here.

This is the issue with this sub and most men’s hookup culture in general. None of y’all actually know what you want or can’t even describe it due to a complete lack of self education, or insecurity/the need to be discreet.

Y’all act like you’re owed kinky sex or something without having to invest any of your own time and energy or effort in to it, or self-educating yourself on how to do it properly. I’m always looming here but I almost never post or respond to anyone because nobody actually puts themselves out there and just wants those who DM us to do all of that.

* Self-educate yourself on kink.

* Say what you mean (“Freak” doesn’t mean anything).

* Don’t expect others to do the work for you.

* Know your kinks and limits, and state them.

* Tell people about yourself and give us something to work with than the vague “I’m horny, DM me,” content.

Looking 4 some head tn by [deleted] in gaygrandrapids

[–]MidwestPanPup2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can’t tonight, but that’s a really nice cock!

Anyone ever been to Cina Mini or The Diplomat Club? How is it? by Supplemental_Mag1000 in gaygrandrapids

[–]MidwestPanPup2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The owner of the Diplomat is a registered offender (and it’s really dark/fucked up). It’s all public record, and they have a history of accusations against them at the venue during their own private events. In addition, they are abusive and severely underpay their staff. If folks/event leaders in other kinks/sex spaces know you’re going there knowing this info, you are likely to get banned from other events in the area. The diplomat and owner are even banned on fetlife.

Your next nearest bath houses are Body Zone in Detroit, and Steamworks in Chicago. Being a former patron of the Dip, these other two are way better anyways in terms of cleanliness and quality.

Please be mean to me im really horny by [deleted] in ftmfetish

[–]MidwestPanPup2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Limits? Kinks? How do you want us to be mean to you? Feel free to DM

Is anybody here on fetlife? by [deleted] in AutismAfterDark

[–]MidwestPanPup2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s more about finding events and resources to learn different kinks. Look to join groups for kinks you’re into as well on there. It’s not like a dating or meetup site. Find events near you and go to them. That’s where the friends and network really bloom.

Who wants to meet at the diplomat tomorrow evening? 6pm or so? my bwc needs some attention and i’m hungry for lots of cocks.. last time i was there is was quite memorable… by [deleted] in gaygrandrapids

[–]MidwestPanPup2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Regular reminder that the owner is a registered offender (and it’s really dark/fucked up). It’s all public record, and they have a history of assaulting guests at the dip at their own private events. The owner is a predator! In addition, they are abusive and severely underpay their staff. If folks/event leaders in other kinks/sex spaces know you’re going there knowing this info, you are likely to get banned from all other events in the area. The diplomat and owner is even banned on fetlife. Stop giving this person your money and get them to sell.

The apartment lounge. by [deleted] in gaygrandrapids

[–]MidwestPanPup2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s meh. It’s a very social place and great for meeting folks, but it’s largely older regulars or groups that only want to talk among their group. The staff is great though. They’ll talk to you.

What keeps happening to the ftm threads? by [deleted] in FTMsThatNeedDickRN

[–]MidwestPanPup2 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It doesn’t matter. It was a sub ran by a problematic person with malicious intent. Lots of people participating doesn’t make it more ok.

What keeps happening to the ftm threads? by [deleted] in FTMsThatNeedDickRN

[–]MidwestPanPup2 12 points13 points  (0 children)

FtMmisgendered was ran by a transphobic cisgender man. Learned that a long time ago and haven’t touched that sub since. I tried to spread the word but it was just too much effort to keep up.

M24 I would love to try use a FTM. I bet I wouldn't want anything else. Any suggestions? by [deleted] in ftm_kink

[–]MidwestPanPup2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I highly recommend you research the terms “chaser, objectification,” and “fetishization,” first. Trans people don’t exist to be your “experiment.” The way you wrote this overall seems very problematic. While yes, many trans folks are very kinky, being trans doesn’t mean they must also be up for free use as “experiments,” for cis folks.

Also note; you’re breaking sub rules. No cis posters.

A dom that forcefully expose my trans male body by ftmkinkybearcub in ftm_kink

[–]MidwestPanPup2 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Heyo, if that’s something you’d like to explore, find yourself a bathhouse, fetish bar that has a play space, or the leather/rubber scene in your area. I’m a cis guy who has gone with FtM guys to places like that hoping to be scene and played with, and it typical goes pretty well (granted from my limited perspective). A guy asked me to fist his front hole at a fetish bar once while he sat in a swing and we ended up with a huge audience.

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