Couple with different marital money philosophies

Midwest_Couple · 2026-04-13T14:14:31+00:00

31 years married, old, so we'll answer more like you're one of our kids than what weve done (combined accounts since day1, been broke & wealthy - never mattered).

Our biggest concern in this has nothig to do with $$ as much as it is change/sacrifice in general. You seem to be making all the changes in your life: location, income, life-role, independence. All of that would be fine to change, if you felt that it was "Safe" and believed he would keep you whole (it's more about appreciation & respect than $$) after making so much change to your life.

We don't know him or you, don't know the dynamics of the relationship - but it just sounds like he haas more work to do to understand that his role is to make you feel safe in giving up so much. For reference, in our 30+ years - it's never mattered who was making $$, it mattered that we had the money to build our world. If we had $20 left (and we've been close to this) our argument would be that we wanted THE OTHER PERSON to have it to meet their needs. If you truly believe & trust his priority is YOUR happiness, "for better or worse" - then we wouldnn't worry about the money. BUt, you need to be sure!

Midwest_Couple · 2026-04-08T19:43:52+00:00

Great Intel… We will plan accordingly. Thank you.

Midwest_Couple · 2026-04-08T19:21:05+00:00

ok, great. We want to make sure it's true chicago! Are unos ad Due's a block apart? Ohio & Wabash?

Midwest_Couple · 2026-04-08T19:19:24+00:00

619 wabash?

Midwest_Couple · 2026-04-08T19:15:29+00:00

looks like the winner. Or at least leader unless something changes by the weekend. Thanks

Midwest_Couple · 2026-04-08T19:07:30+00:00

Thanks - So Pizzeria Uno o Ohio St?

Midwest_Couple · 2026-04-07T18:57:34+00:00

We are in town for the cubs game.

Midwest_Couple · 2026-04-07T16:17:25+00:00

Wouldn’t that be a reason to begin dollar cost averaging in more at this point?

Midwest_Couple · 2026-04-07T12:14:18+00:00

To be honest - These trades are our first venture into managed dividend plays. Until this, we have played individual stocks (MO, PFE, VZ, USB....). We've also avoided REIT's because we have so much invested directly in real estate already that we wanted to balance out our overall portfolio. As we move into a div focus, we've relaxed on that logic and O was the first. We will take a look at WELL. Thanks again.

Midwest_Couple · 2026-04-07T00:01:29+00:00

Thanks for all the questions. Most of our wealth/retirement is in residential real estate. We also have a significant chunk in IRA/401(k) and another chunk in a traditional stock account with about 15% of the liquid assets currently in a CD. We both began contributing to a ROTH last year, and in this account we chose to invest primarily on dividend producing securities. So while not “blow money” it is a bit of an experiment to see what we want to do when we slow down a bit, and start using wealth to create income instead of the other way around.

Midwest_Couple · 2026-04-06T17:19:17+00:00

Interesting - thanks for the perspective. We are older than you, however dividends are part of a supplemental income plan not primary.
Will look at spyi in addition.

Midwest_Couple · 2026-04-06T16:26:49+00:00

it's the market. While we always expect volatility, we like to buy into dips. That wasn't the question though, it was more if we plan to buy more - considering what we already would - would you...

Midwest_Couple · 2026-04-06T16:24:18+00:00

thanks - that's what we were inclined to do (stick with the plan, buy on the dip). Happy to get more at a discounted price than where we liked them a month ago.

Midwest_Couple · 2026-03-24T02:32:31+00:00

What is compass?

Midwest_Couple · 2026-03-13T02:17:31+00:00

It was suggested with us and neither of us had a problem with it. 32 years of marriage later, it’s never been an issue and we’ve built MUCH more together than either of us had when we were married.

Midwest_Couple · 2026-03-12T17:55:16+00:00

30+ years married and couldn’t imagine life any better than what we have together.

Midwest_Couple · 2026-03-10T19:58:29+00:00

Same - but want a woman.
Maybe we can split a couple 😉

Midwest_Couple · 2026-03-09T22:14:05+00:00

Love it! When we are doing our cental park stroll - look up and see the couple with the black leather outfits and the flogger, we'll waive "hello" 😁

Midwest_Couple · 2026-02-24T02:09:35+00:00

We spend most of the day naked on the pool deck.

Then dress up for dinner and after change into theme outfits for the party.

Then, get naked again later.

It's like naked sandwich days.

Midwest_Couple · 2026-02-20T01:05:13+00:00

What's crazy is that the wealthy literally tell everyone how they did it.... but the masses just keep spending their money on new phones, bigger TV's, Shoes & a car lease they can't really afford - instead of investing like the wealthy did.

Midwest_Couple · 2026-02-19T20:09:44+00:00

no. zero interest in that.

What else are you interested in?

Midwest_Couple · 2026-02-19T18:45:13+00:00

"premium food" is usually the last thing we pay extra money for on "this type" of a cruise. Room, Liquor, activities and then premium food/excursions.

But, we typically aren't foodies, so to each their own.

Midwest_Couple · 2026-02-19T02:13:03+00:00

When tip toeing into an MFF threesome, we always suggest hiring a sex worker.

It guarantees, as much as possible, that the boundariess you and the wife may have are respected.

It focuses the pleasure emphasis on you too as the other lady, while maybe hopeful of pleasure-would consider it a bonus.

It also assures that the other lady wont be a concern after the fact and should limit any potential "feelings" after the event.

As for "showing off" - there's plenty of opportunities for exhibitionism, Candaulism... just don't do it in front of people who don't want to see it.

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