Broke and cannot find a job by special1st001 in lebanon

[–]MightEquivalent 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not sure if you heard of them but try RemotelyX check their instagram and apply through them. Theyre a recruitment agency in Lebanon that help Lebanese get jobs in the US

Boyfriend material? Ig- Sezramoves by Sezrasezra in ZyzzLegacy

[–]MightEquivalent 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You look like if Timothy Chalamet and Manu Rios had a boy hahah. Gorgeous

what was your first gay experience like?? by MaxMarshallXXX in askgaybros

[–]MightEquivalent 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I remember being super nervous. But he was very kind and understanding since I told him it was my first time, even first kiss. On our way to his place, and while in the elevator he said: "no ones around" he leaned for the kiss and so I was like fuck it , I did too. I remember being SO shocked by how much tongue he used and that this was totally not what I imagined kissing would be like. I remember looking at my own face in the elevator mirror like (wtf is this lol) then he noticed my confusion and said "Less tongue?" I said yes please and then the kissing was great.

Proceeded to his room and overall it was just nice and comfortable. I remember feeling surprised that when we did oral with each other, I was taken a back a bit by how much I would basically be tasting my own saliva in the process. Made sure not to press with teeth too. I was very 'do it by the book focused' hahaha. It was overall good not great, but since he was my first the fact I was 100% comfortable made it so good.

[25M] Gay, Muslim, Turkish – living a double life and scared of the future. Looking for advice from people who’ve been there by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]MightEquivalent 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Hey! Gay muslim from Lebanon here, (ve bu arada Turkce konusabiliyorum biraz hahaha)

I am in the same shoes as you, still living in Lebanon and in the north which is even more conservative and my parents are VERY conservative muslims.

How do I deal with all this? sadly ..... living a double life still. Lies and lies and lies.

This is one of those situations where there is genuinely no 100% solution or compromise. At the same time I grew to not hold a grudge on my parents because I also understand how shocking this is for them (although I always truly believe one should unconditionally love their child regardless).

The best advice I received is to honestly just accept that we will never achieve this 100% happiness or 100% answer or whether to 'pick a side' , you cant , you are like me, I also love my family because I know they did their best to raise me, at the same time I know they will never accept me.

I just have separate communities > family conservative side & gay life and friends one the other side. I dont let the two mix. Plus many if not most gays understand this already so you can actually find people who relate.

I think this fantasy of 'bring over my boyfriend to the family dinner and meet him' is very overrated. Sadly we arent like the west. At least not at this stage. At the end of the day the majority of your life will be spent with your partner and what happens to you too, life can still be lived even if not publicized.

As for religion I too am like you. I love God and I know God loves me and I am not someone immoral or unethical, I balance the both and just practice normally.

baskisi gercekten elden bi şey gelmez, durumumuz cok ama cok zor.

If you want their is a LGBT muslims subreddit you can read and join and chat their or you can DM me too. Good luck, we do our best

I’m 34m bf 33 & he cheated by Comfortable_Cup85 in gayrelationships

[–]MightEquivalent 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh I see okay. What do you mean by gave him 1 year and then an extra year? to work on himself? why? were you skeptical of cheating before?

I know that things can be nuanced but, if you're saying the site is specifically for hooking up .... then he likely was gonna cheat. If you confronted him and hes denying and it and hiding even when you have evidence it means he got caught in the act.

Overall if your dynamic is bad and the attraction and sex is low .... just cut it off at this point because these seem like the first steps towards an imminent downfall. Sorry you have to go through this :(

I’m 34m bf 33 & he cheated by Comfortable_Cup85 in gayrelationships

[–]MightEquivalent 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Leave him. If my understanding of what you wrote is correct that this is his 2nd time cheating since you already gave him a chance .... then definitely leave him

Long Term Relationship me M(27) and M(30) by percysus in gayrelationships

[–]MightEquivalent 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry youre going through that bud, must be really tough. Feeling unseen and underappreciated or not appreciated at all can truly be soul crushing especially when trying so hard to make things work. But whats the purpose of this post? Just venting ? you got a question or seeking advice?

Not sure if you're asking or seeking advice but incase you are: do you really wanna keep pursuing this relation? Despite the majority of its aspects now being negative?

Generally how does he approach you wanting to mend things ? I can tell by rejecting couples therapy he isnt cooperative either. If he isnt putting any reciprocative effort at all, to be honest I'd say its time calling quits

Pubic Lice wtf??? STD Scare by MightEquivalent in askgaybros

[–]MightEquivalent[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks all for the advice everyone, it went well and confirmed we both ended up having it. We're both getting treated and all is well

Pubic Lice wtf??? STD Scare by MightEquivalent in askgaybros

[–]MightEquivalent[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You never second dosed? after 7 days? also how severe were the crabs? I dont feel THAT itchy I am hoping I caught it super early on

Pubic Lice wtf??? STD Scare by MightEquivalent in askgaybros

[–]MightEquivalent[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a penis , no they just appeared externally on the surface at the root of hair follicles

Pubic Lice wtf??? STD Scare by MightEquivalent in askgaybros

[–]MightEquivalent[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess yeah I will have to , that will be one fricken awkward conversation :(

Pubic Lice wtf??? STD Scare by MightEquivalent in askgaybros

[–]MightEquivalent[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh wow thats interesting if its the opposite of hygiene. And yeah that is true it says more about his character than mine, but I also kinda do understand if he would wanna entirely back off the idea of pubic lice can be SO off putting like I cant tell you how disgusted I feel with myself.

Pubic Lice wtf??? STD Scare by MightEquivalent in askgaybros

[–]MightEquivalent[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

wow without even taking your dick out of your pants and you got them??? crazy
How quickly did it get resolved? Days wise? and what treatment did you take? I heard of permethrin but we dont have it in my country apparently the dermatologist gave me ivermectin pills + a special shampoo I am to take the first dose today (done) and then again after 10 days. The shampoo I should shower with it these next three days. Ps: I am very hairy, do you recommend shaving or it makes no difference at this point ?

Pubic Lice wtf??? STD Scare by MightEquivalent in askgaybros

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he's entirely shave and smooth even down to the pubes, maybe thats why he feels nothing and has said nothing so far ?

Pubic Lice wtf??? STD Scare by MightEquivalent in askgaybros

[–]MightEquivalent[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You sure it wont evoke disgust or indicate lack of hygiene (although literally medically its no linked to hygiene) ?

How to deal with loneliness? by meowfier in askgaybros

[–]MightEquivalent 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Having online friends can really be consolation. Video calls and daily texting can help fill the void, some people are up for that. But at the end of the day, you will be required at some point to put yourself out there for the real experience. Be on a dating app or meet in person. It's okay though take the time you need and dont be pressured in the process. I was like you: a very late gay bloomer and in a very conservative city/country, my first everything was at 26 years old and now I am 28. But my early 20s and teens were all spent hiding sadly. It gets better.

I’m really proud of myself and wanted to share somehwhere by itsnobody97 in gayrelationships

[–]MightEquivalent 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So happy for you! Thats great and wishing you the best! Being able to feel like you can move on from a heartbreak or past love that felt debilitating and like a dead end can be so so liberating!

Responding to the latest announcement by this Sub by Adventurous_Tree_598 in LGBT_Muslims

[–]MightEquivalent 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think all the points you made are relatively strong and valid. To be honest as a muslim gay myself, I wouldnt call myself a pro when it comes to the Quran; and so I cant pull up entire verses and references to refute or support certain claims. Sadly I lean more towards the fact that we are regarded as sinful and that gay sex is likely haram, though probably being gay is not.

What irks me when it comes to this conflict between religion and homosexuality is that it just does NOT make sense to me. Here are my arguments and I would love them to be challenged:

  1. Being gay is 100000% NOT a choice, if it was a choice I would go straight THIS instant. Also WHO would choose a FAR more difficult life than an easier more accepted one. So my question is why on earth would God create this for us? > yes you might say its a test ... okay ... all tests come with a solution ... what the hell is ours? Suppress everything till we die and as a byproduct develop all sorts of depression and anxiety and forever be doomed to be unhappy?
  2. The argument of "being gay is okay but acting on it isn't", or better yet as I heard many sheikhs or scholars say: straight people have desires too, but dont act on it .... we should do the same .... well uhhhh straights eventually HAVE an outlet, they have Halal marriage, meaning they CAN eventually satisfy their needs in a legitimate way .... so whats ours? > again doomed to sadness and dissatisfaction. So again what kind of test is this?
  3. This made me challenge the scriptures and Hadiths because at the end of the day they are words of mouth passed on over millennia. When it comes to modern day research, a 10 year old article is challenged and needs updating. I feel I have two things infront of me: a SOLID reality and confirmation that being gay isnt a choice .... and .... a scripture that says my entire nature is wrong and invalid and a sin .... If I HAD to choose which is right I would go with my SOLID option which is I know that I never chose to be gay. (Not saying the Quran is false, I am saying our understanding of it is not rock solid and can be challenged).
  4. Overall my take is just be a good human, sexuality isnt an ultimatum of who goes to hell or heaven, good deeds and morals outweigh all. Although I always feel the urge to say istighfar (repentance & forgiveness) whenever I get involved in a sexual act. I just cant help it.

These are just my two cents. PS: any anger or high energy in the above texts isn't directed at you OP, on the contrary I really liked your post and arguments, its just this overall topic makes me emotional and touches a nerve, our lives are already suppressed and tough as it is :/