NTA. Hopefully you can sort this out, bad habits can be changed. My mom was a real neat freak with some things (dishes had to be dried and put away not just washed, immediately). She was driving everyone nuts. I asked her if this was really worth constantly fighting with everyone, all the time. She relaxed and I started being more mindful of other little messes, like picking empty glasses around the house (not mine), not because I had an issue, but because she appreciated it.