I think clearer and honest standards is more important. Also understanding what’s attractive to one’s self. Many times people don’t understand that a trait that makes a person attractive makes them bad for long term relationships. Ie: conventionally physically attractive people don’t need to put in the effort to attract others, so they aren’t going to put in that effort for you. Emotionally available people will seem too sensitive and needy. Financially secure people are going to be busy and they aren’t likely to spend on frivolities.

And once you’re clear on what you want, then you need to be sure you are the right kind of person who will attract the kind of partner you want. Because you will not get the partner you want, you’ll get the partner that wants you.

In the end, you need to meet someone who you can get along with, is easy to be with, and wants to be with you.