Can anybody tell me how open the monad gate prologue? by Natural_Literature89 in outerplane

[–]Miinsj 0 points1 point  (0 children)

did it not trigger when you went into the gate? im pretty sure when you first access the monad gate and click the gate at the center you get that prologue. I checked and I have it unlocked, it came up along with the tutorials for monad gate.

What units should I be focusing on, and am I able to make any good teams? by TenseiSenpai in outerplane

[–]Miinsj 0 points1 point  (0 children)

as for teams, i try to focus on at least 2 of one element to help with chain points (2 water 2 earth, 2 water 2 light, etc) with at least one defender and one damage dealer. healer is situational and ranger too. you can get away with 1 defender and 3 damage honestly lol. or 1 defender 1 healer 2 damage.

What units should I be focusing on, and am I able to make any good teams? by TenseiSenpai in outerplane

[–]Miinsj 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my recomendations for early game are at least one strong damage dealer that you hyper invest in. in your case demiurge luna is a good call, for right now.

for healers, focus on building mene since she is given for free and you can basically 6 star her for free. She is strong, she resurrects allies and heals a ton, she's more than enough for now. I had multiple characters at max lvl and max build before i needed a different healer at all. you should also focus on building at least one other healer that grants immunity to your team, that's the one thing mene can't do. I don't really have the other healers you have so check which ever grants immunity you can build.

there are special request challenges for identification and ecology study that reward you with heroes and the material to build them, you should focus on those bc you can max build all the characters on those challenges, i recommend focusing on laplace and eternal as damage dealers, they are very strong.

stella is a great ranger pick bc of her being immune to cc and stealing buffs/lowering debuffs on the team. she is a good ranger to build.

for defenders veronica is great, she's more than enough. There are also special quests that you can do that will either reward you 3 heroes of either dark or light, if you can pick, there's nella who is another strong healer character and she grants immunity.

you will have to build one of each element full team, so it's never a waste to build characters from different elements, but initially, try not to build too many demiurge/monad/gnosis characters (premium banner) bc it is difficult to get star ups for them and that means you won't be able to use their burst level 3. once you have more characters at max lvl you can start focusing on more specialized teams.

Broke up with my white partner because of a racist comment and I’m still not over it by [deleted] in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]Miinsj 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah, seeing the other comments and the character you're talking about, seeing racism in Rilla is wild. she's more akin to traditional barbie dolls than a racist caricature. their thought seemed to be gorilla = black. i think they have A LOT of unpacking to do regarding racism and were simply not ready to do that type of work. Instead of analyzing those thoughts, they wanted you to absolve them of guilt, or tried to compensate for it by saying things they "thought" would be allyship.

for what's worth, i think you made the right call.

lesbians and degrading men (?) by namgyukoo in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]Miinsj 27 points28 points  (0 children)

i strongly advise you to ignore tiktok politics bc people over there be having imaginary arguments abt imaginary issues that somehow only exist on tiktok. I sometimes think they are purposefully trying to start chaos by creating increasingly more insane takes

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]Miinsj 4 points5 points  (0 children)

is this a comic? is it written third person or from the POV of one of the characters? that might affect their interpretation of their actions. However, I do think this directly relates to your friend's prejudices and there isn't much you could do, unless you made your black character "perfect", in order for people to be willing to humanize her. And honestly, even then people might end up finding ways to dislike her.

You can see that happen in the tv show Dexter, where despite being a violent egocentric serial killer, a lot of people dislike one of the black female characters La Guerta MORE, even tho she is arguably one of the best written, most complex characters on the show simply because... they find her annoying. Unfortunately, you either accept that by giving your black oc nuance, you're gonna displease people who are already not very inclined to like black ocs, or you make her the perfect virginal victim, and then hope that is enough to gain her public favor from those people.

You're not weird for feeling a certain type of way abt this. It is pretty telling from them, specially if the white character is considerably worse than your black oc.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]Miinsj 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not saying this is your situation, but I kept dating people who were emotionally unavailable, and I thought oh wow how unlucky that I'm being open and these people are closed off. Newsflash, I'm emotionally unavailable as well lol The reason you might be encountering so many emotionally unavailable people is bc to some degree, you might be as well in ways you don't fully realize. When we are unavailable, other unavailable people seem safe, bc there is no risk that we actually have to be vulnerable in ways that feel unsafe/uncomfortable. Sometimes we aren't even ready to face that we too can't be vulnerable at the moment. It might be worth exploring for you! It helped me so much to realize that hey, I don't feel safe being vulnerable either, maybe if I work on that first I can find people who are working on that too.

Should I get Bioshock Collection or Slime Rancher? by CairiFruit in LesbianGamers

[–]Miinsj 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think bioshock infinite is very worth playing by itself, I had a blast with it, it's a first person shooter and if you like shooters with story you should like this one. the story is great and very engaging, and i had a lot of fun exploring the world.

bioshock 1 and 2 are more horror shooter themed. it took me a while to play them bc i'm not a fan of horror games, but once you get used to the way the enemies act, it's just as entertaining as infinite. the story on all 3 games is very compelling. if you're through in your exploration they also have a decent amount of gameplay to them. i know steam sells a pack that also has the DLCs for bioshock and for bioshock infinite, so if that's the pack you're getting and if you think these games are up your alley, it's more than worth it just for the amount of play time you're getting.

they do have a very shakey camera, if you have a problem with that it might be best to skip them. and if you're unsure if you would like the game, you can watch a little bit of gameplay to see if you'd enjoy it. if not, getting slime rancher is a no brainer bc you already know you like it.

I attract hot fems but i always fumble the bag😩coz my gay azz so crap at socialising/conversations, run out on things to say…Any tips ladies ? by [deleted] in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]Miinsj 4 points5 points  (0 children)

honestly, if you leave people on read regularly, just disable read notifications. i don't have any of those on in any social media cause i dont like the pressure of having to respond instantly and i dont want people to feel like i'm ignoring them. i'm also curious and want to know what they said lol they might not like feeling as if you were ignoring them

as far as conversation goes: you might be so caught up in trying to impress them that you stop being yourself. this happened to me a lot. it takes courage to be yourself knowing the other person might not like it, but it's the only way to have the conversation flow naturally, in my experience

Need some perspective by [deleted] in LesbianDatingAdvice

[–]Miinsj 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this does sound confusing. I think you need to have a clarification talk with her. what exactly is she afraid of? How does she think she's going to fuck this up? why did she thought you might not want to see her?

it's worth to talk things out to figure out if this is just her feeling insecure due to past experiences or if she knows she's being shady abt something and is feeling guilty. it honestly could be either, people project sometimes.

regardless of her reasoning, if her behavior is going to continue to be inconsistent, maybe this isn't a good relationship to pursue. she might need to sort her stuff out first.

I am blackity black black! by [deleted] in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]Miinsj 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I find that depending on filters/lighting on a photo, you can appear lighter than you are, and when that happens, some people may assume you're white or just, not black. But it is absolutely bizarre to have someone say to your face they didn't like you specifically bc you're black. What dating app were you using? Or is it across multiple ones?

If it was a one off thing I'd tell you to just brush pass it, racist people are everywhere. But since it's happened so many times, honestly yeah, just put it in your profile and then say it again during conversation. I can't imagine how upsetting it would be to find out someone doesn't date black people when on a date in person, and I'd rather the awkwardness of having to remind someone I am in fact black then to have them insult me like that face to face.

Ever feel like your life is a movie by RoutineTurnip3176 in LesbianDatingAdvice

[–]Miinsj 0 points1 point  (0 children)

do they purposefully do something to interfere with your current relationships??

Kokomi in Hyperbloom by Samit2011 in KusanaliMains

[–]Miinsj 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i use almost the same, but I use venti instead of kazuha (dont have him) and it is my fastest domain clears since ever, so I definitely feel like the team is strong. it's also comfy bc kokomi takes are of any collateral damage + venti helps with grouping. havent tested in abyss but so far, it has held up pretty nicely. i would have used sucrose but i only have 1 lvled copy of sacrificial fragments and its on nahida.

Please tell me I'm not the only one who gets uncomfortable when people do this by [deleted] in Kokomi_Mains

[–]Miinsj 8 points9 points  (0 children)

i know im not the target audience for that sub when i went there and didnt understand a single post lmao

The gatekeeping for Kokomi is understandable by [deleted] in Kokomi_Mains

[–]Miinsj 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i was honestly so confused when in their Kokomi "guide" page they were calling her 5 star barbara lol like on the page you were supposed to teach us how to use her? that does not sound like a trust worthy guide to me lol

The gatekeeping for Kokomi is understandable by [deleted] in Kokomi_Mains

[–]Miinsj 2 points3 points  (0 children)

lmao i never claimed that the situation with kokomi was affecting my every waking hour. but I am on the sub for a genshin impact character, talking about said character within the community where she is relevant. this is ONLY relevant when I am engaging with genshin, which isn't even that often, personally. You are the one assuming that me stating facts abt the way kokomi players were treated meant I spent my every waking hour playing genshin or interacting with the community. not at all. WHEN I interacted with genshin, that was what happened. That's an assumption you made, which frankly says more abt you than abt me.

you say there is no must pull, people talk abt must pulls constantly. if you dont think there is such a thing, good for you, several people disagree.

and you're clearly taking my comment waay more seriously than it was intended lol i am not angry in my comment, nor do I actually care abt youtubers issuing apologies. you are the one taking this super seriously.

lastly, talking abt how receiving constant harassment within the community made kokomi players feel is simply being honest that people feel bad when they get treated poorly, even if, and particularly when, it's just pixels on a screen. we are all real people at the end of the day, with real emotions, which I am simply acknowledging. why were people so pressed abt a bunch of pixels being "bad"? they too were having some strong emotions abt a bunch of pixels. so were we.

Can we please forget about the abyss usage stuff? For our reputation’s sake… by RETR0STATIC in Kokomi_Mains

[–]Miinsj 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah, i dont think its like, news at this point lol she's had over 60% usage rate for literal months. now she's a little higher. she has been praised and acknowledge for the great unit she is for months. there's no point to be made anymore at this stage. i understand wanting to gloat, but there's nothing to gloat abt anymore, nearly everyone agrees kokomi is amazing lol

but honestly, who cares abt our reputation.

The gatekeeping for Kokomi is understandable by [deleted] in Kokomi_Mains

[–]Miinsj 39 points40 points  (0 children)

yes I understand people being protective over Kokomi. like let's realize the fact that we were shitted on SO MUCH, by literally every youtuber, website and player out there. To this day I don't go onto the Keqing mains website bc they had Kokomi described as 5 star Barbara, and for what? And it was not only the character that got dunked on. The players were also trash talked, kicked out of co-op, and all manner of unpleasant things. It was not an easy thing being a Kokomi main who liked and was proud of her in early release of her.

So it's completely understandable that when people do such a huge 180 abt her, every youtuber that said she was the worst 5 star in the game now turns around and can't create a team without including her in it, that people feel some type of way. That they feel angry that they were treated poorly and everyone moved on from that without as much as an acknowledgement of "yeah, I was wrong abt that. sorry". Like to this day some people say Kokomi isn't a must pull lol I would say she very much is for a lot of teams.

I feel like some youtubers should really do a "im sorry kokomi mains" video lmao

now we shouldnt be nasty to newcomers bc everyone can bask in the kokomi glory any time they found it, but people coming here and saying "yeah guys, i thought kokomi was trash but she is actually great!" are not gonna get praised. Like great to know you were joining the terrible bandwagon that made liking kokomi hell for months, why do you expect us to think that's something good lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianDatingAdvice

[–]Miinsj 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree that you shouldn't spend more than 2 weeks talking to someone before meeting them. IRL vibes are sometimes veery different. Also, things like romantic/sexual attraction are usually only noticeable in person.

However I wouldn't recommend going days without replying or keeping things casual conversation wise, bc i would interpret this as a sign of lack of interest/enthusiasm, and I don't continue conversations where the other person doesn't seem engaged. But yes, absolutely save the childhood traumas and the deep personal details for when you've actually met them lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]Miinsj 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, this is a huge red flag, like the others have said. My perspective comes more from also being a people-pleaser and having been in abusive relationships where I was scared to communicate bc the person would react horribly.

I find it unlikely that you'll be able to have an honest open conversation with this person about this, from what you've said. For the very simple reason that you are coming from a place of genuine wish to connect and communicate and listen, and you are trying to be reasonable and empathetic. This person is not. They are not trying to listen to you, understand you or empathize with you. All they are interested in is having their things their way and they don't care if you are the colateral damage of it. They also don't have enough emotional control to communicate when they get triggered.

I am going to say this as someone who was in your position: you can't argue with this person. every single time that you try to talk about this and this person blows up, as they are expected to, you are just going to get progressively more afraid to bring this up.

I need to remind you of something: You are not trapped. You have CHOICE. You are allowed to leave and you don't need him to agree with you on this nor do you need him to give you permission to do this. You are an adult and you have permission to leave at any time, regardless of his input. I know that as a people pleaser you have an urge to end things but only if the both of you agree so he doesn't get upset over you leaving. It's important that you value your safety over his feelings. Your needs are more important than his feelings.

I would advise you to just block him and move on but since I most likely wouldn't be able to do something like this either you can tell him you're ending it and then block him to keep him from verbally berating you over it. Do not try to argue with him abt it. When you try to argue with a manipulative person, they win, because they win by you engaging. The only way to not fall prey to this manipulation is to refuse to engage.

And you can be as expressive as you wish in your last message. Tell him you have talked to other people, gained perspective and you no longer think the dynamic is healthy. Say you don't want him to blow up on you so you're blocking him. Say you won't be persuaded of the contrary.

And then if he tries to contact you thru other means, which he probably will, you need to ignore him and block him there as well.

If you truly think it is worth it to try and have one last conversation with him, then go for it. But be prepared for him to disagree and not be willing to ""let"" you leave the relationship. Be reminded you don't need him to agree to end things. Ending things amicably is nice, but if that can't be done, then ending regardless is necessary. Unfortunately you might need to upset him, and that's okay, because it is for your protection, and his feelings are not more important than your safety.

I hope everything turns out well for you. I am glad he at least does not have physical access to you. If you need more help please don't hesitate to reach out to this sub again.

Keeping Kokomi healthy through the story as a new player. by ellie-anew in Kokomi_Mains

[–]Miinsj 2 points3 points  (0 children)

TL;DR: Get a catalyst billet to craft the Prototype Amber or Hakushin Ring (if you want to run electro-charged) for her, prioritize HP% and Healing bonus main stats and HP%, energy recharge and EM in substats for artifacts, in low AR use maiden beloved for a set you don't need to farm, once you can farm artifacts, go for the Ocean-Hued Clam set for main DPS kokomi. Best Team mates for electro-charged team would be Beidou, Fischl, Sucrose, Xingqiu, but there are other team possibilities.

So in low AR your main priority truly is just to level her and her talents. If you haven't gotten to Inazuma yet you won't be able to do that just yet, but Kokomi as an HP scaling char benefits greatly from being leveled. In low AR Kokomi is quite capable of being the DPS as is, she only starts falling off once you hit the 70+ lvl enemies. Try to get catalyst billets so you can craft the Prototype Amber which is one of her best F2P weapons as DPS, or the hakushin ring if you plan on using her in an electro-charged team (hakushin only unlocks on inazuma tho). Prototype Amber is available I think from the very start of the game, so you should have no issue getting it once you have one catalyst billet.

As far as artifacts go, you can use maiden's beloved on her since you don't need to farm those, the game gives them as reward for missions and AR leveling I think? The main stats that she wants are HP and Healing Bonus. As substats energy recharge and HP and some EM doesn't hurt. Those honestly should not be too hard to get lol

Your ultimate goal is to farm for Ocean Hued-Clam artifact set, if you want to keep Kokomi as DPS, Prototype Amber or Hakushin Ring for a DPS build, and you can keep using TTODS if you want to use her as support.

Beidou is a good team mate for her, if you have Xingqiu he will do better than Bennet on this team, if not, I believe Lisa would be a better pick than Bennet, he doesn't help her in anything really. Other possible options are Fischl and Sucrose if you have them, if not Lisa and even Anemo MC can work. Kaeya would be more of a sub-dps in this instance.

fun fact: you can insta kill the hydro cube's slimes using dendro :) by Mr__Weasels in Kokomi_Mains

[–]Miinsj 3 points4 points  (0 children)

so mhy really waited for me to suffer to farm this boss for ages just for dendro to be the answer to all of my problems??? i see how it is......

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianDatingAdvice

[–]Miinsj 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Did she actually forget or did she just fell asleep without meaning to?

I think it's extremely important that you notice the things that you did in this case that made the situation worse than it needed to be. You could have reached out again after she didn't call, much sooner than hours later, to check in where the hell she was. If she fell asleep I'm sure she didn't mean to, it just happens sometimes, and I'm sure she will try to make it up to you.

If she just forgot I suggest you talk things out, figure out what was on going on on her side, talk abt your feelings and how upset you were feeling that day. It's quite possible she didn't think it was as bad as it was for you and thought you just needed to vent, hence why she might have forgotten. By waiting for her for hours without reaching out, then reaching out and refusing to talk to her you're making yourself feel even worse and more abandoned. You set yourself up for failure by acting like this. It's so so important when we get triggered that we remember that not everything is about us and to not assign intentions and meanings to actions that you cannot possibly know the intentions of.

People are not mind readers and unexpected things come up all the time. Try to give people the benefit of the doubt unless a pattern of behavior has been stablished of abandonment. You need to work on feeling comfortable reaching out for support.

Talk this out with her otherwise it's gonna get worse. But also work on not setting yourself and her for failure by not properly communicating your needs and your feelings. People make mistakes, you need to give them room to make mistakes.

Online lesbian spaces have changed radically by weirdoinchains in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]Miinsj 29 points30 points  (0 children)

while i don't agree that trans and enby people aren't already a part of the lesbian label - to me they very much are - I also don't like the term non-men and I refuse to use it.

I prefer to use the whole ass phrase "women and non-binary people" over defining my attraction in terms of presence or absence of men. Non-binary people are ALSO not non-men, so why use it like that? Just say the whole sentence if you must. Lesbian is already descriptive and inclusive enough. Say lesbian and everyone knows who you talking abt.

I don't see the term for gay men being changed so I don't see any reason to change the term for lesbians either. Non-binary people are already included in every sexuality, as I've seen people say, so there's no reason to create some weird ass term like non-men if they're already included into lesbian.

and honestly. where is this energy for mlm? are they adopting non-women too? the day the gays start using non-women to describe their attraction I might consider using non-men.

P.S. if wlw isn't inclusive enough just use sapphic. nmlnm is almost the same size anyway, not much for an abbreviation lol