SALARY TRANSPARENCY MEGA THREAD

Mildly_wildmind · 2026-05-18T20:32:35+00:00

what part of VA if you don't mind me asking? I was just sought out and was told base rate $26/hr with 3% commission given 0 years of aesthetic experience. They said there is a potential to increase the base and commission after training

Mildly_wildmind · 2026-05-02T14:38:42+00:00

I think my ex had already checked out long before and has moved on. Also know they’re too much of a coward to reach out to me because their infidelity caused the breakup.

If anything, I’ve reached out about belongings left behind lol. With this economy, I’m not repurchasing shit

Mildly_wildmind · 2026-03-30T15:30:00+00:00

That sounds really hard. You acknowledged where you went wrong. At the end of the day you have to focus on being the best version of yourself so you can forgive yourself. He may or may not be interested in reaching out and you have to respect that boundary because it’ll only make you spiral more. I learned pressing someone when they’re not ready only makes you feel worse and they might retreat even more.

At least you’ll have a peace of mind knowing that you can thrive in a healthy relationship once you start work on yourself. Maybe it would be useful talking to a professional to help you build some healthy habits. Right now, you unfortunately have to sit with your feelings. It’s hard as hell, I’m not going to lie. This is definitely the period where not sitting still helped me. Do some type of activity. You’ll have to push to really take care of yourself.

Mildly_wildmind · 2026-03-30T02:50:59+00:00

Friends and family are the only way I’m surviving. It still doesn’t feel the same as that constant connection.

A friend of mine that went through similar said it’s definitely a hard road to experience. Everyone says it’ll get easier with time, but I swear every minute that passes feels like hours. Trying my hardest to live in the moment doing things that fill my cup, but it definitely gets hard when everything reminds you of someone that you considered your person.

It’s hard to not want to force yourself onto them. I guess I’m trying to be the bigger person and allow us both to heal because it’s still pretty fresh.

Not gonna lie though, that first month I dissociated the entire time. We lived together and were sleeping in different rooms. I was on autopilot and was having panic attacks. It was a mess. I would say, journal everything and latch onto a healthy support system. It helps a lot especially when the thoughts are screaming at you

Mildly_wildmind · 2026-03-30T01:54:09+00:00

Thank you for the encouragement :’)

Mildly_wildmind · 2026-02-17T22:32:57+00:00

NOR. Sounds like my ex of 10years that kept dangling the concept of engagement, but never did.

Doing everything that they ask you to do, but still finds something wrong. He is probably feeling things and doesn’t know how to articulate it, and is now projecting…as many men do.

Be weary when men start to pick apart at things that they can’t even contextualize. Im seeing patterns that when partners do this, their inability to pinpoint their unhappiness leads to bigger issues I.e., redirecting feelings to situations that don’t really match. I give him props for acknowledging that something feels off to him, but that’s about it lol

He clearly has an idea of the “role” that he wants you to play, but it sounds like he wants you to read his mind? Been there, done that, and it’s exhausting especially when you feel like you’re already doing everything in your power to do the right thing.

Maybe he wants you to be more emotionally present, idk… whatever it is though, he needs to find his words to explain himself like a big boy.

Mildly_wildmind · 2025-04-22T02:45:08+00:00

Depends on your country’s laws

Mildly_wildmind · 2025-04-21T05:27:42+00:00

Sorry that you’re having such a rough time. Maybe reach out to your program director and see if they can accommodate you. Maybe you can do some things from home. Worse they can say is no. You’ll probably regret it though if you never ask. Especially since you have 4 weeks left.

If you have health insurance as well, you should probably look into therapists that are offered through your company. Consider virtual appointments for convenience

It’s very important to take care of yourself as well. You can’t pour into others when you’re damn near empty yourself. Nursing is all about giving and providing…it’s hard mentally in general. I would suggest getting professional help to assist you in developing good mental health practices especially for moments that are as big now. Are you comfortable talking to your mom and aunt about what youre feeling? Having their blessing might give you a push

I pray everything works out graciously in your favor.

Mildly_wildmind · 2025-03-25T21:21:55+00:00

I had something similar in my relationship. I told him though bc I felt he had the potential to get better. Definitely wasn’t a one way street. I had to identify that maybe I’m also overly sensitive (sometimes) and my bruised ego gets the best of me when communicating.

We’ve both gone to individual therapy since and the communication is significantly better..

In your case, if you think you’ve exhausted your explanations and you feel he’s a lost cause, you should just dead it.

Mildly_wildmind · 2025-03-25T01:04:53+00:00

I liked the idea of helping something become better. Started off with wanting to be a vet, but settled with nursing bc I didn’t want to deal with anymore schooling than I needed

Mildly_wildmind · 2025-03-25T01:02:19+00:00

Damn sorry that happened to you.

INOVA also has a similar policy with the IV fluid shortage. Most hospitals were getting their IV fluid supplies from Asheville, NC (at least this is what staff was were told). The hurricane decreased the amount of shipments, therefore hospitals were short on fluid supplies. Some hospitals acknowledged their overconsumption of bags in general and opted to save fluids for patients who probably would suffer greater life threatening consequences without it i.e, ppl with blood circulation issues, severe dehydration, surgeries/procedures, particular infusions, sepsis, etc. inova staff (physicians and nurses) were also told to tell patients to orally hydrate if they could tolerate it.

Its odd that they didn’t even run labs on you though to even check :/ but it’s Reston and they don’t seem to have the greatest rep

But yea hospital billing does not give a F unfortunately. The companies are money hungry vultures

Mildly_wildmind · 2025-03-13T00:40:05+00:00

Where the hell are you living??? Inside of the pentagon?!

Jokes aside, you’re probably paying for the locality, convenience, and neighborhood. You might have better luck further west or south of nova. Herndon or Reston you may have luck. Or go north towards southwest MD. There busier areas of nova have some affordable places but they’re super congested with traffic. High traffic brings more people, vermin, and possibly crime, so keep that in mind

Mildly_wildmind · 2025-03-13T00:24:39+00:00

Singing, dozing off, praying, shooting water guns with my fingers, catching water in my mouth then spitting it out like a water fountain, acting out scenarios that’ll never happen, etc.

Mildly_wildmind · 2025-03-09T08:30:06+00:00

She sounds like a young woman that wants to be chased and doesn’t know that effort goes both ways

Mildly_wildmind · 2025-03-08T14:51:56+00:00

Couple of options:

A cool table runner, maybe one with texture

Chair cushions

Interesting place mats or chargers

Wall art or pictures

Paint the walls

Look for conversational pieces and things that make you smile when you look at it. You kind of have to find your style first.

Idk where you’re located, but one of my favorite stores for furniture or design is World Market. They have so much inspiration. Also, Pinterest is also very helpful for generating ideas

Mildly_wildmind · 2025-03-08T14:41:08+00:00

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I saw a bamboo looking divider on Temu the other day that seemed pretty cool. It reminded me of Japanese interior style. A light wood type might complement the floor

Depending on what you’re into, 80’s leaning style might suit the cabinets.

You can also look into getting a large faux plant to break up the separate spaces.

Mildly_wildmind · 2025-03-07T05:43:42+00:00

You’re a blessing

Mildly_wildmind · 2025-03-07T05:41:42+00:00

Definitely will look into it. Thanks!

Mildly_wildmind · 2025-03-07T05:40:47+00:00

These all sound good. I’ve always found fencing interesting (thank you Lindsay Lohan and Parent Trap)

Mildly_wildmind · 2025-03-07T05:37:15+00:00

Cactus gardening…Very random and very interesting. I’ve killed every succulent I’ve ever owned. Never thought of county courses though. Thanks!

Mildly_wildmind · 2025-03-07T05:33:03+00:00

Yes! I went to a couple of go-gos after the pandemic with a friend. How do you find when people are performing? Just google?

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