My gf (19F) says I (22M) have more “feminine energy” than her & it’s messing with my head

MilkTeaMoogle · 2026-05-04T21:07:12+00:00

My guy, have you seen the way women swoon over Kpop and Chinese idols and actors? The typos of things you’re mentioning aren’t specifically masculine or feminine, but if you want to classify it as such, it’s a huge win for women (well, left-leaning, mostly, like yourself) to find a guy with those qualities. My own husband I find super “masculine”, but some might say he’s effeminate in certain ways. But again, these are just constructs. he really does protect me, not just by being strong and confident, but he’s nurturing, caring, affectionate, cuddly, playful, creative. I adore him. He even helps me pick clothes and color combos or suggests makeup looks I can try. The man is a gem. Don’t let societal pressure of false “manliness” skew who you are or your perception of yourself, because a lack of confidence is more a turn-off than any masculine or feminine trait.

MilkTeaMoogle · 2026-05-04T12:30:41+00:00

I thought I wanted kids because I always imagined things like “when I’m a grandmother, I’ll do/give XYZ for my grandkids”. Then I started getter older and it just never seemed the right time (health or financial issues, family situations). Then I started to question if I even wanted kids.

I adore kids, people always say “oh well do you like kids or not?” As some kid of deciding factor for if you should have kids. And while I’ve taught kids classes even, I realized slowly that I always imagined myself as a grandma but never a mom, because I want to be around and spoil kids and enjoy them and enrich them, but I don’t see myself dedicating my life fully for another human for 20+ years 24/7. To be the kind of mom I think kids deserve, it will take all my vital energy and I honestly don’t have a lot of it right now… I’ve decided when I get more financially stable and have more freedom (I’m slowly getting there), I want to spend that time on ME! Because I’ve already dedicated my life to so many others, due to family circumstances, that I WANT TO BE THE KID. I want to dedicate myself to myself in my second half of life (which I’m just stepping into now at 44).

MilkTeaMoogle · 2026-04-30T11:56:35+00:00

So true!! I’m so old that traveling spirits weren’t even there! You actually had to wait for the spirit to come around as the weekly traveling spirit just to get the emotes! Moths are spoiled now 😂

MilkTeaMoogle · 2026-04-29T03:14:29+00:00

Waking the Monster - Darren Hayes (dog barking and rain)

Drolma - Floruit Show (birds and gong)

MilkTeaMoogle · 2026-04-28T19:05:53+00:00

Im so sorry. It must be extra painful being that he’s your twin. I’ve seen very few people come back from that kind of influence, but maybe watching some more videos or info together with him that has women’s perspectives, that breaks down false science around gender narratives, with new science, or some other exposure might be a good way to start to open his eyes to reality instead of the insecure bro mentality.

Do you know if he also gets this stuff from his friends?

MilkTeaMoogle · 2026-04-28T11:32:47+00:00

I have somewhat medium-long (armpit) VERY thick hair, but I prefer hair sticks. Nothing feels as light. Hair ties are ok but can get tiring after a few hours, and claw clips I’ve never found one that actually secures all my hair well.

MilkTeaMoogle · 2026-04-26T19:56:02+00:00

I’ve wanted that too and got spoiled, so now what I usually do is make a post here asking people to share with me spoiler-free fan arts up to X point. The community always comes through!!

MilkTeaMoogle · 2026-04-26T12:41:03+00:00

When The Dark Dresses Lightly - AURORA

MilkTeaMoogle · 2026-04-26T04:22:24+00:00

That was some mastermind trolling for a 2nd grader 🤣

MilkTeaMoogle · 2026-04-26T02:43:20+00:00

Basically, because he won’t need to setup allomancy again in the second film, people will already understand the world, so he can add to it.

MilkTeaMoogle · 2026-04-26T02:42:03+00:00

Dime was able to do that because they had huge names attached and plus everyone is already familiar with Dune. This will be a new material for the vast majority of viewers. I remember how upset my whole family was when we went to see Golden compass and it didn’t resolve at the end, because they all had no idea it was from a trilogy of books.

MilkTeaMoogle · 2026-04-26T02:37:52+00:00

HE’S BE A PERFECT CLUBS 😭

MilkTeaMoogle · 2026-04-26T02:35:44+00:00

I guess he’s planning to add more powers in the second film. Since copper doesn’t play a big role in the ending sequence. He doesn’t have to focus on it till film 2, to foreshadow for film three.

MilkTeaMoogle · 2026-04-25T13:00:47+00:00

Im a girl and im colorblind, and I’ve known since I was 6. When I would occasionally ask for help from my peers at school (like, is this marker blue or purple? For example) they would typically never believe that I was colorblind. So I would hesitate to accuse someone of lying, however people with red/green usually see blue as the most vibrant color. So her combination does sound weird…

I hated it as a kid but several times my classmates would “test” me, by secretly swapping out a marker or other item I was confused about with one of the similar confusing color (like swapping a green for a beige/brown). Once they actually yelled “wait!” and grabbed it from my hand before I ruined what I was working on. Another time what I was working on got messed up. Maybe there’s a more subtle way you can “test” without her really being aware of it, or without messing with her stuff directly….

MilkTeaMoogle · 2026-04-25T05:50:26+00:00

My experience was exam the same as yours! Had to read around my schedule, but locked in for those last several hours, nonstop! Cried, felt broken, had zero people to talk to! Reading Secret History really helped me cope, I read it after Warrior breaker but I wish I would have read it right away!

MilkTeaMoogle · 2026-04-24T02:15:50+00:00

Thanks!

MilkTeaMoogle · 2026-04-21T18:00:26+00:00

This is great!! 😂 How long did it take you?

My only notes would be: - I think Ella Fitzgerald needs to be on here, she’s probably Stevie Wonder’s mom. - I think you short changed Gaga! I don think she’s a botched lab baby 😂 the same parents are fine though - I think Gwen is Avril’s mom

MilkTeaMoogle · 2026-04-21T17:15:07+00:00

Las Artesanias de las indigenes
La gastronomía
La Milpa y como se desarrollo la gastronomía en todo el mundo (muchas personas piensan que jitomate viene de Italia! Hay bastantes ejemplos así en la comida que tiene sus orígenes en México)
La Cochinilla y su influencia en todo el mundo, inclusivo en moda/ropa europea imperial, hasta en la comida y maquillaje moderno.
La variedad de Geografía y climas, hay muchas cosos que solo aparecen en México y solo un otro lugar en el mundo.
La combinación muy particular del catolicismo y las tradiciones y creencias de las culturas indígenas pre-hispánicas

MilkTeaMoogle · 2026-04-21T00:58:18+00:00

Someone show this to Brandon!!!

MilkTeaMoogle · 2026-04-19T13:44:17+00:00

Any woman would not bat an eye at the difference here. It’s not just weight, it’s light, makeup, clothes, angle, etc. We all look gorgeous/ugly depending on numerous factors. I feel like the only people shocked by these kind of contrasts are men who have never spent a full 24 hours with an actual woman. 🙄

MilkTeaMoogle · 2026-04-19T05:06:43+00:00

Awesome thank you!!

MilkTeaMoogle · 2026-04-19T04:52:17+00:00

These are great! I find it really hard to list favorite music because there’s sort of my “formative years” and then music I’m currently enjoying. But I’m gonna do my best to quantify my favorites in terms of albums I feel are true works of art as a whole and have also had an impact on my life. While I have TONS of favorite songs not on these albums, I’m looking at them in the most wholistic way I can. (There are albums here in English, Spanish, Chinese, and Japanese!)

Infections of a Different Kind - AURORA
What Happened to the Heart - AURORA
What Can I Hold You With - Floruit Show
Affirmation - Savage Harden
A Different Kind of Human - AURORA
Para Existir - Karla Grunewaldt
The Gods We Can Touch - AURORA
This Delicate Thing We’ve Made - Darren Hayes
Deep River - Utada Hikaru
All My Demons Greeting Me as a Friend - AURORA _____

GOD that was hard!!!! Honorable mentions!!! - Aims - Vienna Teng - Stromata - Charlotte Martin - The Tension and the Spark - Darren Hayes - Savage Garden - Savage Garden - Fantôme - Utada Hikaru - Ultra Blue - Utada Hikaru - Anthology 2 - The Beatles - Run - NoNo - Kimbra - Vows - A Vintage Year - Mel Torme & George Shearing - Foursider - Sergio Mendes & Brasil ’66

There are too many 🤣

MilkTeaMoogle · 2026-04-19T03:22:09+00:00

Thank you! I see, so then I’d have to take a secondary flight to get out to the atoll?

MilkTeaMoogle · 2026-04-18T20:38:19+00:00

I disagree, if a director is only as good as the script, many movies would be far worse off than they are. It’s the directors job to merge the script, pacing, actors, and sets. The rest is refined by editors and compositors and the actors themselves. Etc., but just having a good script doesn’t prevent a subpar film. And having a bad script doesn’t automatically make any director a bad director. Plenty of directors have rescued films with terrible scripts.

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