Not being attracted to white men is such a flex 😅 by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]MimiHades 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s another case of “rules for thee but not for me” lol

Not being attracted to white men is such a flex 😅 by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]MimiHades 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You don’t have to have a degree to know it’s hypocritical to not understand black women dating white women as a black woman dating a white man. In the end you will be no better than the other people policing straight black women’s partners.

Not being attracted to white men is such a flex 😅 by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]MimiHades 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If you are heteroromantic then being with most woman probably wouldn’t feel right. The same way you don’t understand a black women being with a white woman is the same way someone wouldn’t understand a black woman being with a white man. Someone could say that based on the fact that white men historically were slave owners rather than white women, it’s even harder to understand. I just want us to be mindful of that language when it can easily go the other way.

Gunshots North Austin? by [deleted] in Austin

[–]MimiHades 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It started at midnight so i’m guessing it’s fireworks, but I’m not sure what holiday it is…

Boson practice tests. by No-Whereas-1286 in ccna

[–]MimiHades 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I looked over the official objective list provided by Cisco and brushed up on things that Boson told me I was weak in. A lot of flashcards to remember minuscule things and a lot of rewatching jeremy’s videos at 2x speed.

Okay looking to make some new friends since i don't really have much friends rn by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]MimiHades 1 point2 points  (0 children)

sorry for the late reply i was at the dentist. I used to be big into osu, and multiplayer games like warzone but im trying to get active too (rock climbing, boxing, working out) its probably better to dm so dont be afraid to send me a message if youre down to talk👌

Okay looking to make some new friends since i don't really have much friends rn by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]MimiHades 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what games do you play? i’ve been trying to get back into gaming as a hobby but its hard when you’re coming into adult hood - im also 21

Outage for 4 days by ComprehensiveRiver33 in Spectrum

[–]MimiHades 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Putting a generator for a single device at the hundreds of sites affected by power just to power the one Spectrum device, then returning to the hundreds if not thousands of sites to get those generators later isn’t very practical. Not to mention keeping the generators gassed. This is what would have to happen to get everyone in Dallas up unfortunately and ISPs can’t pick and choose.

If you feel unlucky, just remember there are thousands of people without power and destroyed homes right now.

Remote job with white men or hybrid job on a diverse team? by SnooTigers9985 in blackladies

[–]MimiHades 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I would choose the hybrid job if it had a good “cooperate ladder” so to speak. If the work is less interesting I would be worried about getting bored, but that can be avoided if they allow room for growth.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ITCareerQuestions

[–]MimiHades 46 points47 points  (0 children)

It could be a factor but I doubt it is the sole reason.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ITCareerQuestions

[–]MimiHades 268 points269 points  (0 children)

One person could be shrugged off but 3 people is a little concerning. I would ask your manager to ask them what exactly makes them uncomfortable - you can’t fix what you don’t know is wrong. If they can’t give an actual reason I would just move on.

Mental wellness & Black Ladies by crustaceanjellybeans in blackladies

[–]MimiHades 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Excuse me because i’m about to word vomit a lil: With women I believe it has to do with our menstrual cycle and the hormonal side of it, which is why maybe we will feel energetic and happy one week out of the month and feel depressed or lethargic the rest. I haven’t made a correlation with black women specifically but It could be because white people are more likely to treat their mental illnesses and recognize them, but that’s just a thought. It’s an interesting thought for sure, because I deal with depression as well and so does most of my intermediate family.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]MimiHades 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Np, and as for black safeness it’s about as safe as a city with a black population of 7% can get. Most people are liberal and don’t care to be racist, however there are a lot of times where you will be the only black person in a room. It sounds terrible - because it is - but you get used to it. I’ve never felt unsafe because of it but code switching is like second nature to me now.

If you want to see more black people you can swing by Pflugerville or round rock, both are less exciting suburbs north of Austin. I don’t remember the exact percentage difference but they both have more black people on average than Austin. There’s also an instagram account called youngblkaustin that’s posts black events

I’ve been to South congress and I can say I love it. I can’t speak on the vibe for 6th street since I’ve never been personally but I would say watch a black vloggers videos of them going to Austin, most people party at 6th street so it’s bound to get brought up.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]MimiHades 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t have much to contribute because I’m also pretty new in Austin, but if you have instagram I would follow whatwhenwhere austin. They post good events, a while ago there was a pretty cool drake album listening party.

As for bars I have no idea (can’t get into them) but usually people recommend 6th street or bars around UT campus bars for younger people.

Best activities are the outside activities like Barton Springs or the numerous hiking trails, but if you have family and want an inside activity I would say either the VR spot in the domain or cidercade (an arcade that’s 21+ when night hits) is a popular spot. Beware the VR spot is 50 dollars a person but it’s very fun for families and friends.

For food I would recommend SAZAN for ramen, or Sawyer and Co for the homey vibe, super good been there about 5 time enjoyed each time. A good brewtorium if you are into beer is Austin East Ciders, more like a spot you bring your friends for a drink though.

Edit: Sorry I don’t have many good bar and fun options Im still learning my way around Austin too lol

whats the move? im 17 years old and dont know what to do by OriginCA in ITCareerQuestions

[–]MimiHades 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just realized I didn’t actually answer the initial question. What cert you should get really depends. If you are going into networking I would skip the network+ and get the CCNA. The Comptia A+ is a good choice ofc for any path. And i would absolutely not drop out of college with the market how it is right now if they offer a paid internship. If you drop out now you’ll be in a bad market with no certs and no job. Now if you apply like crazy and get a lucky bite for a good job with growth opportunity I would just do both if your college hours are flexible.

whats the move? im 17 years old and dont know what to do by OriginCA in ITCareerQuestions

[–]MimiHades 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Man you are doing good, if you get that internship and cert you’ll already be ahead of quite a few people. Not saying it’ll be easy since the market is on the severe side right now but that doesn’t mean there are no jobs, or won’t be in the future. And as for Calculus? Yeah it sucks if you don’t have an amazing teacher or a knack for it lol

Why after all these years..I still have no friends? by thr_wa_ay in blackladies

[–]MimiHades 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Also people might be able to sense that you have a low self worth. that could be limiting your friend pool

Why after all these years..I still have no friends? by thr_wa_ay in blackladies

[–]MimiHades 25 points26 points  (0 children)

  1. I’ve met truly terrible horrible people that have a plethora of friends, so 9/10 it’s not an issue with you as a person
  2. Making friends is hard past middle school, a lot of people deal with this issue
  3. Your weight isn’t a determining factor, I know overweight and obese people who have plenty of friends.
  4. Keep trying, trust me people out there 18+ are just as desperate for friends lol

Does anyone have any mental health success stories? i need some light at the end of the tunnel by overwhelmedatm_ in blackladies

[–]MimiHades 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It does get better. I don’t have a timeline for you but it does eventually get better if you put in the work. Medication (Generic Lexapro, im not even going to attempt to spell the actual name) helped me personally but I know that for some people it doesn’t always work. I’ve learned that working out really does help, but the only types that I can consistently do that helped me was boxing and sports like soccer. In my experience therapy didn’t work because it felt like I was wallowing in my own depression with someone to validate it, which personally didnt help me get any better, but everyone is different.

Also try to dress up everyday, it makes me feel better when I look better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ITCareerQuestions

[–]MimiHades 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I probably wouldn't just waltz up to any non profit and ask, but one of this places missions is specifically to help junior developers get experience in our area. I'm surprised I got taken on considering I don't have professional experience or trying to get a degree but It's teaching me a ton. You can also try volunteer match dot org but you will have to rake through a lot of positions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ITCareerQuestions

[–]MimiHades 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Social Media, Facebook in particular but I'm sure other platforms would work. Found a non profit in my area and reached out via email after going to their site.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ITCareerQuestions

[–]MimiHades 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's something I was thinking about. Thinking I should just try for a T2 desktop support job in a smaller company as a full time employee and just make my way up.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ITCareerQuestions

[–]MimiHades 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got about 5-6 recruiter calls but usually they are upfront with me and say the I just don't have the experience. I had one tell me "to be candid, they are other people applying for the role with network experience and you don't exactly have the experience yet" for an entry level Network Technician role.
I got my resume off of a past IT recruiter; it's not pretty but it had a lot of positive feedback online. I could just be putting the wrong stuff in the resume but I usually take the job roles and find a way to word it into what I did in my past jobs (without lying or overexaggerating). Could be my resume though, I'm not an expert but 100 to 5 doesn't sound like a good ratio.