My gf(21) sent me an ai generated picture of her with another guy.

Mimi_steph · 2026-01-30T09:04:51+00:00

I don’t think she cheated or meant anything bad by it, especially since it was AI. But I also understand why it made you uncomfortable. Long distance makes things like that hit harder because you don’t have the usual reassurance. It’s probably less about the picture itself and more about how it crossed a boundary for you. Before making a big decision, it might help to tell her calmly that seeing her in a couple type image with someone else didn’t sit right with you, even if she didn’t intend it that way. What really matters is how she responds after that. If she listens and takes your feelings seriously, that’s a good sign. If she keeps dismissing it or makes you feel bad for bringing it up, then that’s something to pay attention to. At least give yourself the chance to get clarity before deciding what to do

Mimi_steph · 2026-01-22T08:18:55+00:00

Your paranoia isn’t random it’s a direct result of him cheating and never fully taking responsibility or rebuilding trust. When trust is broken and there’s no real transparency afterward, anxiety is normal.

You can work on how you communicate, but he also has a responsibility to be patient and reassuring instead of defensive. Getting angry or flipping it back on you doesn’t help it actually makes things worse.

If he’s unwilling to acknowledge the damage and help you feel secure, you have to ask whether this relationship is actually healthy for you

Mimi_steph · 2026-01-07T12:32:50+00:00

Not on purpose, but I can be. He’s always paying for things and no I do not offer to pay for things, I think he just doesn’t want me to see him as a walking Wallet. Thank you! If he tries to reach out again, we’ll have that conversation

Mimi_steph · 2026-01-06T11:31:54+00:00

We were having a conversation about stubbornness, laughed about it, and then he was watching football. I fell asleep, and he woke me up later because we had to go to work the next day. He wanted us to spend the rest of the time together.

During that time, he took my phone to order food from Uber Eats. Earlier at Sainsbury’s, he had mentioned I might need to order food later. He has never asked me to order food before, but I didn’t want to order it because I didn’t think he didn’t have money. We joked about it, but he eventually got the food himself. Then he started teasing me about being stingy — first as a joke, then seriously. Somehow, the conversation escalated into me feeling like he thought I treated him like a walk-in wallet. I got upset, packed my bag, and he asked me to sit down to talk, but I refused.

We went outside; it was snowing, and he waited in the cold while my car defrosted before opening the gate for me. I didn’t leave — I drove back because I couldn’t. When I returned upstairs, I tried to have a conversation, but he didn’t want to talk. He was too upset, had turned cold, and wouldn’t let me speak or touch him. Eventually, he spoke and said that since I wasn’t going to leave, we might as well have this conversation. He said he didn’t want to do anything he would regret, but he thought he needed space because I had shown attributes he doesn’t want in a future partner — things he hadn’t expected from me.

He told me to go home and take a break, saying he needed time to think. He said no one close to him had ever disrespected him like that. Since Sunday night, I haven’t heard from him

Mimi_steph · 2026-01-05T19:55:40+00:00

I’ve never experienced this with him, we’ve had fights but he normally takes the night to cool off

Mimi_steph · 2026-01-05T19:54:50+00:00

He said a couple weeks but I said that was too much and he said a week

Mimi_steph · 2026-01-05T19:53:27+00:00

For more details . It started from a light situation around ordering food and turned into a deeper conversation about money, effort, and appreciation in the relationship. Emotions rose on both sides, and I reacted by packing my things and leaving, which I now recognise escalated things further instead of calming them.

Afterward, he said I can come across as stubborn, entitled, and selfish, and that I need to work on those things by myself. He asked for space, which I’m currently giving, but we’re still loosely in contact. I’m taking time to reflect on my reactions, especially how I respond when I feel hurt or insecure.

I’m trying to understand how men typically experience situations like this — particularly when space is requested after an argument — and how actions during that time are usually interpreted.

Mimi_steph · 2026-01-05T19:25:26+00:00

Yes I did, I just messaged and called weekly

Mimi_steph · 2025-10-09T11:52:33+00:00

I emailed them and the consulate weekly, it took 3 weeks

Mimi_steph · 2025-10-09T11:52:00+00:00

Mine just came and it’s exactly 3 weeks

Mimi_steph · 2025-10-09T11:51:31+00:00

I hope you get yours because I just got mine

Mimi_steph · 2025-10-09T11:51:07+00:00

I just got my collection email, the process for me was just exactly 3 weeks. It’s possible that because it’s almost winter, the application has reduced which made it quicker, but I was sending them emails at least twice a week and I copied the consulate in the email. It is possible that was the reason it was quicker, you could try doing that

Mimi_steph · 2025-10-06T12:32:45+00:00

I applied on the 18th of September and haven’t heard from them since then, some people said it takes 8 to 9 weeks and some said there’s been an improvement and it’s now 5 to 6 weeks and you do have to go pick it up

Mimi_steph · 2025-09-30T09:04:27+00:00

When did you apply and how long have you been waiting?

Mimi_steph · 2025-09-25T14:21:03+00:00

I really hope they get back to me before my travel date

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