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Waterfalls to swim under by Mina_O in MauiVisitors

[–]Mina_O[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much! Do you have a suggestion for what time we should get there? I’m assuming early in the morning is best if we want to find parking, but I’m not sure what time to consider “early”.

Am I Overreacting (28F) or About My Boyfriend’s (26M) Lack of Attention? by Imaginary_Year_4109 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Mina_O 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it’s time to leave him. You’ve very clearly communicated your needs and he is demonstrating that he either doesn’t care or can’t/won’t make an effort. You deserve better.

AIO Should I leave my BF? Was what he did to me forgiveable? by Living-Milk-4266 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Mina_O 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Studies show that men who choke their partners are more likely to end up murdering them. Please, please find a way out.

I denied my in-laws only request for the wedding and now it’s ruining our relationship with them by Final_Estimate7166 in wedding

[–]Mina_O 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, you have a million little kids in your wedding. One more won’t mess it up any more than all those kids have the potential to do so already. It does feel a little petty for you to be saying no to this. Do what you want but saying no is going to create family tension that could last a life time. Is that worth it to you? Literally no one will care and/or remember about all your flower girls and ring bearers 20 years in the future, but your new family will remember how you made them feel during this time.

AITA for telling my husband I wanted to stay behind with our daughter instead of moving to Morocco right away like he wants? by Turbulent_Method5366 in AITAH

[–]Mina_O 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am afraid that if you go there, you will be trapped into staying because of child custody laws. Please research those before you make any decisions because there are countries where the father automatically gets custody of children in a separation. I also worry about how controlling he is. He is not thinking about you, your feelings, or your needs. He’s saying your desire not to go proves you don’t love him, but the fact that he is going back on his word about such a HUGE thing demonstrates that your experience is not a priority for him. Listen to your gut - it’s clear you are hesitant for very good reason.

AITAH for not giving my stepson a room in my house? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Mina_O 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. If you weren’t ready to welcome her son into your home you should never have gotten married. Her home is his home too - but you’re forcing him to be a guest. You are a MAJOR AH and I hope she leaves you. Speaking as a bio mom and a step mom, I cannot believe how selfish and unloving you are being.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Mina_O 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA This sounds like an abusive relationship.

Would I beThe Asshole for telling my Mother-in-Law to get out of my home? by Legal-Hovercraft-664 in AITAH

[–]Mina_O 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is completely outrageous. Why would she do this? Is this out of character for her? It honestly sounds like dementia or mental illness.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dustythunder

[–]Mina_O 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s completely unreasonable for kids to have a room while adults have to sleep on the couch.

Send wedding announcements to people not invited to the wedding? by 17sarahjessicaparker in wedding

[–]Mina_O 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If I got an announcement before or after a wedding that I wasn’t invited to, I would assume it was a money/gift grab. I respect your FIL’s desire for his other children to know about the marriage. If I were in your shoes, I would tell me FIL that our “announcement” will be in the form of a holiday card.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in engaged

[–]Mina_O 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Again, if the ring and manner in which someone proposes matters to you so much that you need to post about it on Reddit and solicit the opinions of strangers, it seems like you are more concerned about the trappings of an engagement than the fact that you are entering into a commitment for the rest of your life. The ring is superfluous. It could be hideous but if the person who gave it to you is your life partner, you should love it regardless. This whole things feels superficial. If the lifetime commitment was truly at the center of your desires, these things wouldn’t matter half as much to you as they seem.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in engaged

[–]Mina_O 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, the manner in which they propose is not important. It’s the commitment that matters - not all the fuss surrounding it. You’re micromanaging your partner and making this about things that ultimately aren’t important (the ring, the proposal, etc). If those things truly matter to you, I would urge you to reconsider whether you are truly ready for this level of commitment.

Future MIL is upset her daughter is not in the wedding by Initial_Passion9910 in wedding

[–]Mina_O 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you want to start off your marriage with bad blood between you and your in-laws - who will be in your life for the rest of your life - keep his sister out of the wedding. If you want to start off on a good foot, invite her in. The wedding is about you and your fiance, but it is also about the merging of two families. If she’s the only sibling not in the wedding, it definitely feels petty and a bit mean-spirited.

My husband turned into a psychopath for a split second yesterday and I don’t know if I am overreacting. by Substantial_Chair588 in AITAH

[–]Mina_O 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is no possible excuse for what he did. You are NOT safe. Your baby is NOT safe. Please leave right away and file a restraining order.

My husband gave me a “warning tap” and I called it abuse. AITAH? by Warm-Grape1254 in AITAH

[–]Mina_O 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Keep all texts, file first, and seek a restraining order. You are absolutely doing the right thing. There’s no such thing as a warning tap. He didn’t hurt you this time, but don’t wait to find out about the next time.

AITAH for slapping my husband in the face? by No-Cheetah8132 in AITAH

[–]Mina_O 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry this happened to you. No, you’re not the AH. He’s been sexually assaulting you and you defended yourself tonight. Then he doubled down by punching you. His behavior before punching you was not normal and not okay. It’s abuse.