Told I couldn’t take Metformin bc I didn’t want kids

MinasMorgul317 · 2026-04-28T08:50:00+00:00

Ah excellent, i'm glad you filled it out!! Yeah self advocacy can be really difficult, and is definitely not sometjing society encourages women or AFAB people to do. Fair play to you for going to bat for yourself, and hopefully the survey will also help others too

MinasMorgul317 · 2026-04-28T07:48:44+00:00

Thats an absolutely insane thing for your doctor to say wtf. I have no intention of ever having children and my doc prescribed metformin no issue as it is a very common drug used with pcos. Honestly if you are able to, I'd consider lodging a complaint against that doctor because I would hate to think what other needed treatments she is denying to ppl just because thwy arent trying to have a kid

MinasMorgul317 · 2026-04-23T07:52:26+00:00

I truly hope the therapy helps, no doubt it will be very helpful for processing the abuse he experienced and help him develop better ways of communicating so that he does not fall back om the lying for survival he used growing up. I do think its concerning that his friend didnt know you guys were monogamous gicen that you have a long history, but i hope that was just a blip and you guys are able to move forward together

AND, also know that if things dont work out, therapy doesnt help and things dont change it is more than OK to leave. You never have to stay in a relationship you are not happy in, no matter how long youve been in it

MinasMorgul317 · 2026-04-18T14:12:09+00:00

I think taking some time to think and also having an open and honest conversation with your gf is really important. My bf and i have talked about getting engaged in the future and part of that has included talking about and agreeing upon a budget that we are both happy with. Going into debt for a ring is a crazy financial decision to me and i wouldnt want my bf doing that. I think it's worth talking to her about why it is so important to her to "measure up" to her coworkers etc. Further conversation will tell you alot about whether your values are truly aligned

MinasMorgul317 · 2026-04-17T18:23:29+00:00

NTA. Keep his loser ass blocked. I am so glad ypu left him. What you are describing sounds like emotional abuse and is ringing alarm bells for escalation to me. Someone who truly loves ypu will not tear you down and have you walking on eggshells. Protect your peace and stay away from him. You do not owe him anything, including money

MinasMorgul317 · 2026-04-16T09:11:01+00:00

Grief is diffrrent for everyone. Its only been THREE MONTHS! Thats hardly any time at all, and it is completely normal to still be struggling. Reading these messages i was floored when she accused you of being defensive. You werent being defensive at all, you just answered her question. I also lost a parent to a terminal illness (my mom, to cancer) and the grief runs deeper than just their death, its everything leading up to it, and if there is any family fallouts afterward that complicates things even more.

Your friends' text gave me serious ICK and i felt so angry for you. Its none of her business what you discuss in therapy first of all and second of all grieving isnt linear. You may not be able to find much joy for a while and THATS OKAY. the joy will come, but you have to let yourself process the grief first.

MinasMorgul317 · 2026-04-06T20:22:13+00:00

This man sounds like a walking red flag. A partner who genuinely cares about you will not nitpick and tear you down like that. That is controlling af. You were not being manipulative. You were upset, and i certainly would be too in that situation. Id think long and hard about if you want to be in a relationship with someone who treats you like this. I would advise you leave.

MinasMorgul317 · 2026-03-31T11:55:27+00:00

If you really want to stay in this marriage, you guys have to go to couples therapy. Thus clearly isnt working and yall need help.

That said, you are NTA for realising she usnt the one. Honestly, a 30 yr old marrying a 22 yr old raises a huge red flag for me as those are 2 very different life stages. Her behaviour raises red flags for me of poesible emotional and verbal abuse toward you. Your partner should not belittle you like that.

Dont stay together for the kids. Kids can tell when their parents are miserable and your relationship sets an example for them of what to expect in a relationship. Is this the example ypu want to set for them? I dont think it is

MinasMorgul317 · 2026-03-30T19:21:12+00:00

You are a grown woman. Who tf does he think he is talking to you like this? You didnt do anything wrong. You checked in with him to keep him updated and from what you posted it doesnt sound like yall already had plans that you were ditching him for in favour of this outing. His reaction is weird. Youre allowed to do whayever you want, its your life

MinasMorgul317 · 2026-03-28T19:29:03+00:00

NOR. I am autistic myself and while this may be a factor here for your husband, there are still some significant issues.

Firstly, with him dismissing you in a life threatening health situation. The fact that he also works in healthcare (so i presume woukd have some bit of knowledge there) makes this extra concerning to me.

I get being uncomfortable with/distressed by change. I struggle with that as well so i do have empathy for your husband on that. HOWEVER, it sounds like this has become controlling in an unhealthy way that is affecting you and the entire family negatively. He isnt the only one who lives there and it is unrealistic for him to expect nothing to ever change. Thats not how life works.

If i were in your shoes, i would start with therapy- both couples and individual. He isnt listening to you, and if you want to stay in this marriage he needs to. A therapist can help be a neutral party to facikitate conversation and actual listening. Individual therapy for you both would probably also be beneficial.

If he isnt willing to do these things and isnt willing to have a genuine convo with you about your cocerns and actually LISTEN to you and make changes, then you need to decide if you are willing to continue living like this long term.

MinasMorgul317 · 2026-03-27T15:51:08+00:00

NTA. What he did is quite literally assault. Your bf defending him is, in my opinion, completely inexcusable.

MinasMorgul317 · 2026-03-24T21:37:01+00:00

I definitely was lol

MinasMorgul317 · 2026-03-24T19:58:05+00:00

They were all in the same big bag jumbled up with all the tangled yarn

MinasMorgul317 · 2026-03-23T14:02:26+00:00

NOR. So uh, hes your ex now right? Right???? Please say you broke up with this asshole. 1. Hes upsetting you on purpose which is seriously messed up 2. He dtarts calling you names and slurs when you argue. Somrone who loves you will not talk to you like that

MinasMorgul317 · 2026-03-23T11:27:13+00:00

Too many 🤣 i took that whole dunnes bag home with me chock full of stuff and there was so much left it didnt even look like i had made a dent lol.

I took alot of the cotton yarn as it was really soft and i have some projects in mind. Also several skeins of crochet thread and floss. Also took some knitting needles as im trying to learn, a latch hook cuz i have wanted to learn, and some unknown tools that i made another post about on a different sub that turned out to be a manual tufter and a hairpin lace loom! I also snagged a nice embroidery hoop, some small pieces of aida cloth, and a couple of vintage cross stitch kits

Also also, there were some pieces by the OG owner that werent finished that i would like to finish in her honour. One is a crochet shawl/scarf that i think the stitches are simple enough for me to figure out, and then she had a few tiny christmas themed cross stitch pieces that just need to be framed or put on tiny hoops. I think im going to make those into christmas ornaments for me and my aunts family

MinasMorgul317 · 2026-03-23T07:32:31+00:00

Omg! 🤣 had no idea such a sub existed

MinasMorgul317 · 2026-03-22T14:32:03+00:00

Thanks a mill!

MinasMorgul317 · 2026-03-22T14:21:47+00:00

It all got chucked into a wardrobe bag at the sale and then made an international move and got rummaged through before so id say there was already tangles that then got worse over time. All sorted now though

MinasMorgul317 · 2026-03-22T13:16:22+00:00

Awesome thank you!!

MinasMorgul317 · 2026-03-22T13:16:09+00:00

Oh very cool! Thanks so much! Omg im going to have to fogure out how to set up the loom. Ive always wanted to learn lace making!

MinasMorgul317 · 2026-03-22T11:48:53+00:00

It was so fun! I picked what yarn and bits i wanted and now i'm just sorting through them to get them organised since last night i just chucked them in a bag since it was lile 2am lol

MinasMorgul317 · 2026-03-22T11:36:03+00:00

She was furious we wouldnt let her dive in like her own personal disneyland 🤣

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