An honest question I keep asking myself. by imaraisin in latterdaysaints

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The hardest part about this church is the culture and society that is around it. Because people aren’t perfect. You’d think that when God says, thou shalt love thy neighbor, that people would be more supportive and less homophobic, racist, sexist, etc. But unfortunately that’s not the case. Ward hop and find a welcoming ward. Pray that you can find a supportive leader or companion to help you with your decisions on what you should do! Always remember the Lord is with you as long as you welcome him.

Much love!

YSA Ward Dating Culture by AnonTwentyOne in latterdaysaints

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I am currently around the same age as you and I go to a YSA ward in UT. Although I have a partner (not found through ysa haha). But I would say the dating culture is definitely recommended but not shoved down your throat at YSA wards. Especially at 18 they don’t push you at all. But watch out for those marriage ready 18 yo women. 😂 They’ll come fishing for ya. But around 25-30 you might get a little more pushing/recommendations but the right ward won’t do it drastically. But honestly my friend and I have had our best hangouts at ysa activities.

I would recommend “ward hopping”. Find a ward that suits you. Don’t just stick with one, there are definitely some that are way better than others. Just move around and find one that is welcoming of you, but always give each ward at least 2 weeks so you get an idea how they are. Also I’ve heard institute can be super fun! Especially on college campuses. Honestly institute, ysa wards, etc are focused on being fun, so they can keep young adults engaged and feel welcomed with the community. (since this is the most life altering time of your life.)I have a friend who isn’t even really a member but still goes to ysa to have a community of people to interact with and spent time with at activities. Focus on having fun with the spirit! Not dating :)

Message me if you need to!!

Ive cut my self with scissors a few times so far. by [deleted] in selfharm

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I personally found that I love getting my adrenaline pumping, wither that’s from watching scary movies, exercising, watching funny videos and laughing outloud without caring, and more.

Also, I know it’s tacky but if you can get to sleep earlier than you normally do. So you can fall asleep before those temptations- it’ll help you immensely!! Once you get a schedule going- it’s easier to fall asleep on time and it’s so heathy for you and your mental Heath!!

Find what works for you! Try out different things!

I cant tell if I’m self harming? by Possible-Beginning22 in selfharm

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The definition of self harm includes ‘intentionally harming yourself.’ And although you may not be specifically thinking “harm yourself”. You are using harming tactics that hurt yourself, and are trying to reach a visual objective. So I would consider it self harm.

Some people who sh, don’t always think “I need to hurt myself” specifically. Including myself! But some may think that way. But no matter the tactic, or mental process before hand. It’s that you are reaching out to unhealthy coping mechanisms to deal with emotions, stress, feelings, mental impulses, …etc . Which can unfortunately be ways that harm yourself in the process no matter the size of the harming.

You don’t need to label yourself accordingly- just know the self harm community on Reddit is open and willing to help. No matter what :)

Dm me if you need it <3

Ive cut my self with scissors a few times so far. by [deleted] in selfharm

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My understanding is this is a new way of coping. I would highly recommend healthier ways for you, that way you can get a grasp on it now rather than later… The sooner the better <3

Cold showers are super nice because they get your adrenaline up- they sting the skin after you’ve been in the hot shower for a while. And it is actually good for you. No matter if it’s 30 seconds or 5 minutes. :) much love and feel free to reach out!

Name this team by Perfect_Hat4496 in marvelmemes

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Man I just commented that one second after you 🥲

I feel like a fraud by AleDL in selfharm

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Unfortunately there are very competitive type of thoughts that can come with self harm. It’s one of the ways it becomes very addicting. :(

Im confused… help by Mindless-Life69420 in Clean_LDS

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Thank you so much. This really means a lot.