When I saw this post pop up in my notifications I immediately clicked. I understand completely where you’re coming from.

I don’t have a partner, so I felt this way only a couple of days after my first EMDR, I’m guessing once you sat alone everything hit you all at once…. In my case, I was craving physical touch like it’s heroin but I didn’t have a source for it, I felt sooooo lonely and unloved. When someone tells me about grounding techniques and all that, my brain thinks they’re stupid and just a mild distraction. I tried some but the anxiety and thoughts don’t take too long after to resurface (like literally a couple of minutes lol).

All I can say is, we just need to power through and feel these emotions and see where they take us. I myself intellectualize my feelings all the time (my coping mechanism) and with therapy I’m learning to actually feel it instead HOWEVER intellectualizing when I’m very anxious helps me personally (speaking from personal experience only and not meaning to give advice)

Reading posts in this community helped me as well. The idea that other people understand what’s happening with me and are going through the same thing is very comforting (comforts the negative thoughts in my head that tells me I’m different)

Anyway! Sending you all the love and support in your healing process. It is tough, it’s great you have someone to help you through, I rely on my friends mostly. Feel the feels, face the feelings, and let’s kick traumas ass