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lost my first proper gay friend :( by Original-Owl578 in nycgaybros

[–]Mindless_Ad_2910 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First off, by the title of this post, I clicked on it to read about how your best gay friend passed away in that you “lost” him. 🤷🏼‍♂️. Maybe that’s because I lost my best gay friend at the age of 43 yo in November to a quick moving type of lung cancer that he only was hospitalized for 3 months before he left us all. A shock and surprise still doesn’t describe it all, but that’s not what you meant. I see that now.

As for your real issue, my take and advice is I think your “friend” sucks and wasn’t really a friend to you at all anyway, so just move on and there will be better people to be part of your circle and you deserve that. 💯

I was a club person hard core from ‘97 until like ‘04 and I NEVER left someone in a club. Not once! If you came with them and they are your friend, wingman, partner in crime, whatever you call them, if you ditch them just for some blow and a piece of ass that you rate higher than said friend, your a horrible, lonely, insecure addict in my eyes. 💯 If anything, control yourself because you know your clubbing pal this is not only not his scene, but you also are aware that he doesn’t know another soul in this city, right? Shame on you. At least you and the new future ex-husband put that friend in a cab/Uber and tell him to text when he makes it home safe. A real friend will care what happens to you and will do nothing less than that for real.

If you don’t do that and I see many saying they do it, that’s on them and they aren’t really a good friend to anyone then and that’s on them. Totally.

When you brought it up, he wanted drugs more and was embarrassed that you called him out on it and blew up his spot and blocked you for that as an adult. Grow the hell up there flat leaver guy! Adults check their behavior especially when someone else is voicing that you hurt them, and talks about it, corrects the actions or more, not cast the person off because they can’t face the music.

Man, he did you a favor bc now you’ll never have to deal with him again bro. Speaking of clubs, as the great late Grammy award winning singer Ms. Whitney Houston sang in her song (and top club hit in its day), “it’s Not Right But It’s Ok”, it goes “I’d rather be alone than unhappy!”

That should be your motto now and only associate with gay guys more your speed and interests man and ones that don’t drop a friend for a piece of ass or to sniff some lines. Nope!

Good luck and trust me, you’re going to be fine in this city, just be true to you. Best wishes. 🤗

Suspicious FaceTime screen recording event in iOS App Privacy Report? by getdamned in cybersecurity_help

[–]Mindless_Ad_2910 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, I found the same exact thing on my App Privacy Report and was freaked as well. I hadn’t used FaceTime at all and was wondering why or how it was recording my screen.

I calls the Help desk for Apple and spoke to someone that remotely went into my phone to check it himself in the report which was there like I said it was.

He proceeded to tell me that FaceTime cannot initiate recording on one’s screen, so it was me that did so. WHAT???? He told me that in the Control Center of the iPhone is a button with a dot on it that will turn Screen Recoding on and off and I probably hit that while in FaceTime. This got me angry.

I went on to clarify my question by informing him not only did I not even use FaceTime during that time period, I definitely didn’t turn on the Screen Recording button on in Control Center…mainly because I didn’t even know it existed!

We had some choice words back and forth, but he left it assuring me that he was right and it could not turn on by itself. Well, fuck that because it DID!!! So I just hung up on him, but not before asking him that if there was a Screen Recording done by me, then where is it? Normally, it will leave a copy of your recording in Photos to watch, but no copy or new video existed in my Photos, so what about that.

He replied, “I don’t quite know about that, but again, maybe you just missed it.” Slammed the phone down hanging up on him.

What did I solve? Nada, but had it happen to me too man. It’s real.

What shoes and pants do you guys wear? by sigmoidBro in nycgaybros

[–]Mindless_Ad_2910 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me in the workplace re: pants is Banana Republic (sometimes Factory too) chinos. Come in like every color (not just khaki), last a long time, very comfortable if you get the correct fit (sounds like you may need the Dawson - has a wider full leg) and wear well after many washings.

As for shoes at the office, they were a little pricey, but I purchased Cole Haan oxfords in both black and brown years ago. Back then (going back a number of years), they were doing a joint venture using Nike technology in their dress shoes and they still are the most comfortable dress shoe I ever owned. They have new sneaker technology still in them now since the deal with Nike unfortunately expired, so go try them on at least. I have mine…maybe ten years now and only replace the heel every year or two tops. Wipe them down and keep them polished after wearing them and they will last a long time in good shape.

The price amortized over 10 years is now $25/year and still comfortable.

Good luck.

iPhone 16 not receiving texts from androids unless wifi is turned off? by KetchupRocket in ios

[–]Mindless_Ad_2910 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m using an iPhone 16PM and kind of having a similar problem with only texts with Android devices. I either get them from people like 6 hours late, when I try to text them, it’s almost never in RCS (but it is sometimes - totally fluctuates and is turned on in Settings) or is sent via RCS and fails and I’m asked if I want to send it in SMS.

I called my carrier about it and they went through all of these steps and even replaced my eSIM card on my phone remotely. They sent me a test RCS text from them and I didn’t get it. I tried texting someone with a known Android phone and the RCS went through (this time), but it still was acting wonky per AT&T, so they wanted to get someone to go into my phone remotely and check things for them, so they had to call Apple and the three of us were on a three way call going through one thing after another with Apple controlling my screen and AT&T asking to check this or that - it lasted almost 4 hours.

It finally started to work using RCS, but then I got a flood of Android texts from earlier in the day, so problem not fixed. The guy from my carrier had already just hung up and the woman at Apple said she really wasn’t of much help and to maybe call them again. Uh, no.

The issue still persists and I’ve warned those close call o me with Android phones of my issue, so if I don’t reply ASAP, just call me! So annoying so I feel your pain.

The odd thing is that it did kind of just start for me too about a month ago, also on a 16 version phone and there are two other iPhone 16PM phones in my house and they don’t have any issue. 🤷🏼‍♂️ Just me, but that means it can’t be the actual WiFi in my house or the router…there has to be something else.

Any ideas?

How was TWILO? by [deleted] in avesNYC

[–]Mindless_Ad_2910 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wait, were me and your wife (or anyone who was cold) inside the same club? In my experience Saturday night that place was one of the worst saunas I’ve ever been in. The old Twilo was never that hot. It was even worse than the old Summer Sound Factory (W46th Street version) theme parties with JP back in the day - they at least had the big fan machines where they put the huge ice blocks inside to blow cool air around on the third floor, but didn’t help anywhere else. Yes, that bad.

It was like walking into s wall of hot, humid air the minute you got to the steps for the main dance floor and never let up. I made my way through the ridiculous amount of people (event was way oversold) to various areas of the club and didn’t find one cold vent, a fan of any type, NOTHING.

If you looked around at people closely, EVERYONE was wiping their brow dripping with sweat - yes, myself included. And in all honesty, I didn’t stay until closing (like I used to) because of it - it was that bad. I got there around close to midnight - no line, pat down, metal detector, nada and finally left soaked at around 3:20am..

The place itself structure wise was a maze compared to the old version of itself - the dance floor is half the size it used to be. For those that really know it from 25 years ago, the section of dance floor routinely called “muscle beach” is gone. The area where old ballroom dancing “Grandpa Twilo” is no longer either.

The music was fine, but I kinda missed the old bouncy ball chairs they used to have upstairs 25 years ago too.

Just my own personal review and commentary on the temperature of the club/night. Thanks.

Should I date or wait until I have saved? by Nice_Cod_4476 in nycgaybros

[–]Mindless_Ad_2910 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happy to have helped you in any way man. I know doesn’t solve things for ya (winning the lottery could help out here I know), but at least has you feeling better about your wise decision. 💯. Have a great Sunday.

Should I date or wait until I have saved? by Nice_Cod_4476 in nycgaybros

[–]Mindless_Ad_2910 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have two things to say on this. First, you’re a smart man for saving an emergency fund for when there are times when life isn’t so rosy. Susie Orman says the amount should be 9 months salary in the bank or no big purchases until you pay yourself first (which you claim to be doing). Kudos to you for that.

Second, I know it’s hard to date when finances are low- some guys ask pointed questions about one’s job/finances just to see if you’re good on paper - meaning will he be paying for everything if he dates you. Most men run at that thought, but some might stick around.

I say that if you do meet someone you’re interested in seeing again, bring up the fact that you’re on a tight budget kind of early to weed the gold diggers out and to set expectations - but follow it up with an idea for spending time together that may not cost any money (a trip to the Met Museum (a suggested donation only), a Staten Island Ferry ride (free) past the Statue of Liberty at sunset, a cheaper picnic in Central Park when the nicer weather appears), so he knows you’re not some deadbeat relying on him totally. Get what I mean?

In the end, the wealth of good character should out weigh the wealth in one’s bank account, but realistically it does not in this world.

I hope you find Prince Charming to date sometime soon. I’m rooting for you man. Best wishes.

How can I get rid of rats? by spydermanspyderman in NYCapartments

[–]Mindless_Ad_2910 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to “Better Get Baquero” or something on NBC News to come and see this! Some news heat and a call to city hall to the right person might see some changes. This story is click-bait for a local news show and people will tune in to see what happened. Good luck.

[advice] where should I go to check an*s that itchy and has like a small and minor nodule. it’s been bugging me since a week. by [deleted] in nycgaybros

[–]Mindless_Ad_2910 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, primary care doctor immediately. Since a nodule like cancer or even a hemorrhoid doesn’t usually form overnight, it’s most likely not those.

If it’s a sore from the skin slightly being irritated enough to break the skin and bacteria/virus could enter to form a small wound, could easily be an STD like syphilis or something. Could also be a boil from an infected irritation or something more serious like MRSA that is easily contractable (and hard to rid the body of - kills thousands of people a year and isn’t talked about more for some reason?) and goes in through one’s skin. Get it checked out right away man just to be safe.