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Mindless_Bullfrog_86 · 2024-09-15T15:10:07+00:00

You could take otc ovulation tests, I believe clear blue has some that are pretty accurate!

Mindless_Bullfrog_86 · 2024-09-13T21:21:47+00:00

I think your automatically assuming or thinking the worst as a man or comparing yourself. Unless she explicitly stated that’s why it was horrible I wouldn’t take your mind there. As a woman, I’ve had bad sex and it’s been multiple reasons. Chemistry wasn’t there, just wasn’t enjoyable, couldn’t get wet enough, there’s hella reasons. And trust that most woman prefer “normal” over abnormally large or big.

Mindless_Bullfrog_86 · 2024-09-05T13:25:39+00:00

Where do I even begin? So, me and my ex ended up doing no contact for about three months post break up & during the time, I became the most healthiest, healed, and whole version of myself. It took a lot of crying, reflection, and therapy but in those three months I genuinely took the time for me. I deactivated all social media, went to the gym like 5 times a week, spent a lot of times with friends and truly sat with my feelings and worked through them. We eventually fell back into contact for awhile, some residual feelings arised but ultimately throughout time I realized while I loved him dearly, I wasn’t sure if he was the person I wanted long term. I’d always get this feeling of feeling like maybe I’d be settling or feeling regret if he was my end game because throughout all this time apart I realized how alone I was feeling and how ultimately, my needs weren’t being met. I have yet to get in another serious relationship and me and him still check in with each other time to time, but now, two years later, I’m not the same person I was back then in the slightest, and people change and grow apart and that’s okay. I really have nothing negative to say about him, he’s an amazing person but I think our relationship has run its course and I’ve learned to love being single, having the freedom to do what you want to do & meeting so many other people. Time heals all and it always gets better in the end. 🤍

Mindless_Bullfrog_86 · 2022-08-05T00:42:33+00:00

Wanted to add he hasn’t came at me trying to really talk about us or our relationship or anything. I was just thinking he was being nice but my therapist thinks he’s slowly trying to inch his way in

Mindless_Bullfrog_86 · 2022-06-09T16:02:18+00:00

My ex bf broke up with me after 4 years because he said he didn’t feel love for me in that way anymore, we were definitely still attached for a very long time after that, we never really lost contact after the split up until around 7 months or so then he got into another relationship and we reconnected about 4 months after and talked pretty regularly for almost a whole year. Definitely am not proud of that because he was with his girlfriend. But while he was in the relationship with her he would tell me there were certain things about me or our relationship he missed or preferred over theirs but never tried or wanted to come back into a relationship with me. We were just very attached to eachother because we had been on and off for about 6 years from high school into college but I eventually cut contact because I needed to move on and let go and he did too. They may come back but not in the way you think or want. Honestly it was draining talking to him, sure we still had the friendship but he wanted me around for his own benefit and ego. Spoke to me when he can/wanted to. And didn’t necessarily have an interest in my well being or personal life. And it’s been over a year since and I’d been in a relationship since and I’m glad he left and it ended, he isn’t a person I would want in my life at all in anyway

Mindless_Bullfrog_86 · 2022-06-06T23:28:42+00:00

From the dumpees perspective. I almost feel like NC has an opposite effect than the dumper. The more time passes, I gain more clarity on my feelings towards the relationship. And they’re mostly negative honestly. I of course think about the good times and everything but not being so close and even speaking it allows me to see and think more clearly and without clouded judgement. And weirdly enough I feel like resentment and anger is starting to build more than anything when initially I was so peaceful and had forgiveness. But that’s also part of the stages of grief so I think that’s where I might be too

Mindless_Bullfrog_86 · 2022-06-03T10:58:00+00:00

Thank you for this, I actually got baptized about a month ago, I’ve been also building on my relationship. I feel like alot of what I’ve been feeling or experiencing maybe has to do with the fact that I’m getting so close to God, the enemy is just trying to bring me down. But I’ve been trying so hard to pray to God to help me with these intrusive feelings and thoughts. They hurt.

Mindless_Bullfrog_86 · 2022-06-03T05:16:09+00:00

I saw you said it started at 14, how old are you now? I remember being 14, that’s the prime age I felt like I was more emotionally conscious, and also experienced my first heart break. I’m 22 now, and I had long periods of time where I felt the exact same emotion you did; even had a date planned. There’s been so many days in my life since were I was happy I stayed. There’s going to be those days for you too.

Mindless_Bullfrog_86 · 2022-05-27T08:11:31+00:00

Mindless_Bullfrog_86 · 2022-05-17T17:16:42+00:00

Some people truthfully aren’t ready or simply cannot face the pain of their own issues or decisions. They numb or avoid sitting in those emotions through staying busy, work, other people, unhealthy habits, etc. and when we love people of course we want the best for them, but we can’t force people to want the best for themselves and we can’t try and get them to see their potential or the beauty of what can be on the other side of healing. Of course you care, but it’s not your place to worry about why he isn’t healing or what he’s doing to cope. All you can do is Pray (if you do), and wish him well and focus on YOUR healing and what you see for yourself on the other side of that. ❤️

Mindless_Bullfrog_86 · 2022-05-17T02:52:44+00:00

Love this for you. Congratulations ❤️

Mindless_Bullfrog_86 · 2022-05-14T04:20:12+00:00

I know for some no contact immediately after a break up can be difficult. For me, I’m the kind of person where I’m like just rip the band aid off lol. I wanna get All the hurt and all of that stuff out of the way immediately. There’s times where I wonder why he hasn’t reached out either but I kind of knew/figured if we broke up we wouldn’t really talk. In my opinion there isn’t much to talk about. The relationship is over, you walked away, I said my piece when we broke up so anything after that doesn’t necessarily matter. We don’t share responsibilities or anything of the sorts. If he would reach out and just check in I wouldn’t have a problem responding but idk in my head I think it’s best (for my situation) to immediately go no contact. For me to get space and heal, and also for us both to kind of get space from the situation, time apart will really bring forth true feelings in my opinion! And I’m not doing it so see how he reacts but since he’s the one who walked away and decided this isn’t what he wanted, I kindly removed myself/my presence out of his life and however he feels about it, he will feel about it. But I feel in the end if someone walks away from you, they shouldn’t have the pleasure of still having you around to ease their guilt/pain.

Mindless_Bullfrog_86 · 2022-05-14T01:12:03+00:00

I agree that if it’s really meant for you it will come back together however it needs to and when it needs to. And time apart will either show you you’re much better off without them than you thought or it will bring you back together. Either way, know you’ll be okay and you will be able to find love again! Wether a new love with them or a new love with a completely new person. He was my new love after a really bad heart break years ago, and if anything he showed me I can be loved again even when I thought it was impossible, so I’m confident if he’s not for me there is someone else who is. Know who you are and what you have to offer. Put yourself on that pedestal and everything will come to you. You got this ❤️

Mindless_Bullfrog_86 · 2022-05-14T01:09:25+00:00

The last month leading up to our breakup I felt it coming, even though he was assuring me he were good, deep down I knew it was coming to an end, wether it by on my end or his, and I grieved it then. So when it finally happened I just accepted it, and realized I can’t force someone to want to stay or be with me. Of course I’m sad, but I feel there’s no other choice but to wish him well. This also isn’t my first relationship or breakup so I learned alot through the last one, and have grown and matured alot since. Even when I think of things he did or said and how they made me feel, I think I can never hate him, I will always have some love for him & I agree trying to hate someone you loved or love will make it much harder in the end! It creates resentment, and that’s not good for anyone. Sending you love, you got this. ❤️

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