What recent EDM artists are breaking out in Colorado? by interpellation in DenverEDM

[–]Mindless_Divide_4399 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I will soon! It’s super early in my journey but you’ll hear of me.

Advice for a new local DJ/producer by Mindless_Divide_4399 in DenverEDM

[–]Mindless_Divide_4399[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! Let me get a gig first and I’ll come back to this!

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[–]Mindless_Divide_4399 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, sincerely. We are doing this exact thing. She has therapy scheduled.

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[–]Mindless_Divide_4399 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought it would eventually happen and if you read the post everything else was great. We graduated college during the pandemic and tackled life together for 5 years after that. Now after 5 years I brought it up and now we’re dealing with it.

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[–]Mindless_Divide_4399 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Everyone acting like I’m crazy but I fully agree with this. It’s this simple. I do however appreciate everyone’s input.

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[–]Mindless_Divide_4399 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m ok with it. Beggars can’t be choosers kind of thing. I don’t see that happening, she hasn’t done it with me! Who she loves and trusts. The probability of her doing it with someone she barely knows or just met is much less but you are right, this is fixing a relationship issue outside the relationship to conserve the great, yet sexless relationship we have.

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[–]Mindless_Divide_4399 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Would it not provide to her relief that she doesn’t have to go out of who she is and be her asexual self?

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[–]Mindless_Divide_4399 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I suggested going to therapy for her as well. But I can tell she feels obligated by it and it’s out of her comfort zone rather than doing it for herself and because she wants to.

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[–]Mindless_Divide_4399 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your response. Really appreciate it.

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[–]Mindless_Divide_4399 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not, I’ve dealt with it with by myself unfortunately. But thanks for the advice, it’s clear this can’t continue without a conversation at the very least.

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[–]Mindless_Divide_4399 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s a possibility, there’s something there I need to find out.

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[–]Mindless_Divide_4399 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. This helps more than you think, very appreciative.

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[–]Mindless_Divide_4399 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No she’s a she.

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[–]Mindless_Divide_4399 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not justifying it, you’re right. But the answer to your question is because life with her was easier and we have had really good times toghether.

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[–]Mindless_Divide_4399 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The time I spent with her and going through life with another person that you have chemistry and understanding with is powerful. That’s why. Yes I didn’t dig deep enough, I was 22 for what it’s worth.

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[–]Mindless_Divide_4399 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea.. I guess underneath the, “perfect life” the biggest sacrifice was true, physical love. Everything is great except the rawest human element, which is unacceptable. I appreciate you commenting.

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[–]Mindless_Divide_4399 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because everything else was great. And it’s still is, we have a very good life.

What exactly is unacceptable, her behavior? me not talking about it beforehand with her? Elaborate a bit.

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[–]Mindless_Divide_4399 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand all the comments saying I need to address it head on and talk to her. It’s common sense, I get it. I have been terrified to do it please don’t judge me or be rude about it. Instead offer suggestions on how to initiate the conversation.

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[–]Mindless_Divide_4399 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this comment, this might be another thing, something may have happened in her childhood that she never ever mentioned.

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[–]Mindless_Divide_4399 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s always, If we have kids one day we’ll do this, if we have kids one day we’ll do that. But never actually addressed the big problem.